More than just a hookup!

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    Dec 13, 2011 7:18 PM GMT
    So recently I've been played by two guys. I met both of the guys on here and they are the only guys that I've met in person from this website. They talked to me A LOT and I was under the impression that they liked me (This all happened at separate times). So then I meet the guy and have a great time. With the first guy, we actually went on a nice date, then parked and hooked up. He left and we talked for a few days after that and everything was great... He started being sketchy though and just blamed on his busy schedule. Pretty soon we didn't talk at all. The other guy I just met the other week and now he's starting to do the same thing (due to his "busy schedule"). It's really discouraging, and it makes me feel inadequate or unattractive even if that's not really the case. I feel like they played me just so I would hookup with them. What do y'all think? And should I keep talking to the other guy?
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    Dec 13, 2011 8:27 PM GMT
    flakes :/ they're everywhere............
  • okologische

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    Dec 13, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    i have the same problem! these guys say that they are scared that they will like me too much....wtf sooo they flake.
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    Dec 13, 2011 8:32 PM GMT
    Keep talking, buy just don't hook up with them... Unless that's what you want. Just be yourself and if it was meant to be... It will work out... But don't give up, unless u feel like they are blah.
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    Dec 13, 2011 8:34 PM GMT
    OMG Who are they!?!!? Spill it bitch!



    *This was meant in a joking manner so don't go AWF! on me. lol*
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    Dec 13, 2011 8:42 PM GMT
    Real Jocks flake just like the general gay population but at least they are really in shape.
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    Dec 13, 2011 9:04 PM GMT
    I am sorry for your experiences. icon_sad.gif

    But not for nothing, every experience, good or bad, is a learning experience.

    Like everyone has been saying, flakes are out there. And if you think for a moment that the problem is you, feeling inadequate or unattractive... You couldn't be more wrong.

    There are ass holes out there... Sadly, we can't shoot them like the brainless sex zombies they are. (Like in some awesome movie). The best you can do is arm yourself with the knowledge to spot one and stop from ever interacting with them. Easier said than done, I know...

    Keep your head up Charlieee icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 13, 2011 9:10 PM GMT
    Genre saidI am sorry for your experiences. icon_sad.gif

    But not for nothing, every experience, good or bad, is a learning experience.

    Like everyone has been saying, flakes are out there. And if you think for a moment that the problem is you, feeling inadequate or unattractive... You couldn't be more wrong.

    There are ass holes out there... Sadly, we can't shoot them like the brainless sex zombies they are. (Like in some awesome movie). The best you can do is arm yourself with the knowledge to spot one and stop from ever interacting with them. Easier said than done, I know...

    Keep your head up Charlieee icon_smile.gif


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  • Suetonius

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    Dec 13, 2011 9:13 PM GMT
    Charlieee said
    What do y'all think? And should I keep talking to the other guy?

    Talk to Guy 2 as long as you/he is interested.
    You have had dates with 2 guys who lost interest and did not become BFs, and you are disappointed? You are only 18 (says your profile). Wait until you have dated 100 guys (more than once) before being concernd that you can't meet the right guys. Isn't it better to find out right away (however it happens) that there is no interest, rather than pursuing a guy for months before you come to that conclusion?
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    Dec 13, 2011 9:32 PM GMT
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    Dec 13, 2011 9:36 PM GMT
    A quick story. I received coaching from a media consultant to prep me for dealing with on camera interviews and the occasional confrontational news reporter. One of the best lessons I learned was that the presence of a camera should not change how I respond to a rude reporter/interviewer. He emphasized this by asking me how I would respond if a person (that I knew or didn't know) asked me a rude question or treated me in a poor manner at a cocktail or dinner party. I replied that I would firmly call him on it and if he did not immediately apologize, walk away.

    The same can be said for emails and IM's. If you feel you have been rudely treated (which is clearly evident) then show some dignity and let them both know this. If they do the right thing and apologize and change their behavior then give them another chance. If they don't - walk away.
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    Dec 13, 2011 9:43 PM GMT
    The last parking lot hookup I had ended up becoming my boyfriend. icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 13, 2011 10:02 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidThe last parking lot hookup I had ended up becoming my boyfriend. icon_lol.gif


    Really? when did this happen? I seem to have spent too little time in Sofla lately.... :/
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    Dec 13, 2011 10:27 PM GMT
    Don't hook up with them in a car and maybe they will stick around. Sometimes a thing will click in a guy's head if you hook up with him off the bat. That is all he will associate you with
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    Dec 13, 2011 10:31 PM GMT
    GreenHopper said
    paulflexes saidThe last parking lot hookup I had ended up becoming my boyfriend. icon_lol.gif


    Really? when did this happen? I seem to have spent too little time in Sofla lately.... :/
    About 4 months ago. He knows I'm not monogamous, too. I have two boyfriends, but one works out of town most of the time. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 13, 2011 10:35 PM GMT
    Charlieee saidSo recently I've been played by two guys. I met both of the guys on here and they are the only guys that I've met in person from this website. They talked to me A LOT and I was under the impression that they liked me (This all happened at separate times). So then I meet the guy and have a great time. With the first guy, we actually went on a nice date, then parked and hooked up. He left and we talked for a few days after that and everything was great... He started being sketchy though and just blamed on his busy schedule. Pretty soon we didn't talk at all. The other guy I just met the other week and now he's starting to do the same thing (due to his "busy schedule"). It's really discouraging, and it makes me feel inadequate or unattractive even if that's not really the case. I feel like they played me just so I would hookup with them. What do y'all think? And should I keep talking to the other guy?




    I thought guys you described above don't exist on this site...
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    Dec 13, 2011 10:36 PM GMT
    Not flakes...

    They just want sex...
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    Dec 13, 2011 11:06 PM GMT
    If people just want sex that´s fine. They should just say so and not lead others on with nice chats. Just grab the guy´s ass and off you go.

    I could rip body parts of some guys who have played me along as they were trying to "be nice" when they just wanted to be roughly used while blindfolded on the floor. Like I´d deny them that if they begged nicely.
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    Dec 13, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    zomg its called a hook-up. There's no obligation to even fucking finish, let alone come back for more.

    You shouldn't be upset, its what you signed up for =

    I don't mean that in a bad way, its just the way it is. If you want "more" than just a hook-up or without those "I can leave whenever I want and not tell you" terms.. start dating people.
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    Dec 13, 2011 11:17 PM GMT
    No its not worth spending the time to stay in touch with them. Its clear they only wanted to hookup. Unfortunately once you put out, they start dodging ya afterwards. So no worries but, you're an attractive. Maybe hold on the sex, then you will know if they truely want to get to know you instead of being their booty call. icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 13, 2011 11:20 PM GMT
    Charlieee saidSo recently I've been played by two guys. I met both of the guys on here


    STOP. Found your problem.

    That, and what do you expect with only a picture of your junk on here... classy.
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    Dec 13, 2011 11:44 PM GMT
    same thing happened to me here... they all blamed to be too busy and stop talking sinceicon_neutral.gificon_exclaim.gificon_question.gif
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    Dec 13, 2011 11:53 PM GMT
    Charlieee saidSo recently I've been played by two guys. I met both of the guys on here and they are the only guys that I've met in person from this website.


    Name names...
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    Dec 14, 2011 12:37 AM GMT
    Allathlete said
    Charlieee saidSo recently I've been played by two guys. I met both of the guys on here


    STOP. Found your problem.

    That, and what do you expect with only a picture of your junk on here... classy.


    Therein lies a great point. You're advertising yourself as a sex object by only having pictures of your body and your protruding package.

    I'm not saying what happened to you isn't deplorable, and I'm sorry it happened, but you're profile is going to bring out the horny in people who will then be less than scrupulous just to get into your pants.

    Hope you have better luck man!
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    Dec 14, 2011 12:59 AM GMT
    Charlieee saidI feel like they played me just so I would hookup with them.


    Learn this lesson early and save yourself heartache. Don't put out so soon if you want something more. Explore the good ol' fashion art of courtship. ;-)