Is he interested or he is just too polite to say no?

  • aditvcet

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    Dec 15, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    I am a gay male and met a guy on okcupid.Intially we exchanged few emails and then agreed upon meeting for a coffee. As we met , I just fell for him. Totally awed by his persona. He was the chatter box, he talked more than me and we spent 3 hours talking. Later I dropped him to his place in my car and we again spoke for 10 mins , finally bid good bye. He offered me a hug and it was kinda tight hug.

    The next day after 24 hours icon_smile.gif I text him telling I had a great time and would like to meet again. He responded "same to you" and hope I am having a good night with smiley. I thought its a dry response and asked again specifically whether he would be interested in meeting again. He replied yeah that would be cool, the coming weekend is his birthday weekend, after that he is free.

    I wished him happy birthday and he thanked me and asked my plans for weekend. Then on monday I asked him how was his birthday, he didnt respond. The next day I sent him message online if he would like to go for movie/dinner coming weekend? No response. I felt he is not interested and I acted stupid, had no control unfortunately. I text him the next day that he set wrong expectation and i would like to know if he is interested in meeting further. To this replied quickly that he had ER on saturday and have to visit doctor on friday and apologized for not responding sooner. He said he meant to meet me again but he has to check what wrong going with him. He told that he didnt set any wrong expectation, dating is not computers, there is no concrete answers immediately. I then responded that I came from different country and may not have correct dating attitude. I told him he can give one more shot , anyway I will move on but wished him the best. He replied that he doesnot know about my country culture but in US its more casual and laid back. He said he was telling truth about ER on the weekend.He asked me if its ok with me he would like to check whats going with him and when he feels better he would be in touch. He told he is interested in meeting again sometime. Also asked if its ok with me if he contacts me or I prefer him not to contact. I responded him positively. No more communication after that. Wait continues....By the way, I see him online on okcupid everyday , even after the weekend when he had ER.

    I beleive he is telling the truth and will anticipate how things go.Any one can figure what could be in his mind?


  • Masturbador

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    Dec 15, 2011 3:40 AM GMT
    Forget about it. He's dicking your around.
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    Dec 15, 2011 3:58 AM GMT
    jpBITCHva saidSo, what country are you from? Mars?

    His profile says Boston, like my own partner. Therefore, yes, the OP comes from a different country.
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    Dec 15, 2011 3:59 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    jpBITCHva saidSo, what country are you from? Mars?

    His profile says Boston, like my own partner. Therefore, yes, the OP comes from a different country.
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  • abelian

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    Dec 15, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    He probably was interested in you, and then you probably scared him off by sending way too many text messages and not leaving him the hell alone.

    Used to happen all the time to me (I wasn't the one doing the scaring off, the other people were).

    One text after the first date is enough. Just relax and don't get obsessed over every guy you think you are falling for.