Curious if any of the guys on here have children?

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    Jul 23, 2007 6:41 AM GMT
    Hey guys, just curious if any of you are proud parents? What do you guys think of guys that have children?
  • CincyBOJ

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    Jul 23, 2007 2:24 PM GMT
    I have 3 children:

    girl 14
    boy 12
    boy 9.

    I believe that guys who have children are very lucky.

    8^)
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    Jul 23, 2007 2:38 PM GMT
    I have trouble taking care of myself from time to time, so I'm not ready for children yet.
  • VolleyNJ

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    Jul 23, 2007 3:05 PM GMT
    I have a 21 month old son. I don't have custody though. He lives with his mom who wanted to have a child and asked me to be the dad. I'm not just 'donor dad,' though. He knows me as Daddy and always will, and I visit as much as I can. We just went on the Rosie cruise last week, the three of us.

    And we plan on destroying any and all competition in all Father/Son sports events when he gets older.

    I added a pic to my profile with him in it.

    While I have a son, I don't think I could deal with having to raise a child 24/7. It becomes your entire life, every single minute of every single day. I have the best of both worlds.
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    Jul 23, 2007 3:33 PM GMT
    Children are a huge responsibility but my kids (I have 3) are the best friends I will ever have in my entire life. They have always been there for me no matter what, it is truly unconditional love. I have a son that will be 19 soon (in the marines) and daughter 16 and a son 7. When I told my oldest son that I was gay, I was scared to death, I didnt know how he would react. He was 16 I think at the time. He said he was in shock but hugged me while I cried. I asked him if he was ok and did he think bad of me, he said "no, your my dad, and I love you" No matter what happens to me in life I know my kids are there. My oldest son lived with me until he went into the marines but I am here alone now. I dont get to do some of the things my other friends do because I do have to make time for my kids...but that is such a special time that only someone with kids can understand. I hope to hear from more of you that might have kids, maybe we can exchange advice or something sometime.
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    Jul 23, 2007 4:42 PM GMT
    I have 2 children : a boy 14 and a girl 16.
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    Jul 23, 2007 4:54 PM GMT
    I definitely want kids but with the husband in residency right now, it's just not realistic. We need a real home and much more stability first. We also haven't decided whether to adopt a baby or take in a 'throw away' gay kid. At any rate, it'll definitely be one or the other...
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    Jul 23, 2007 5:06 PM GMT
    Wow, glad to hear I'm not the only one with a large brood. ;)
  • zakariahzol

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    Jul 23, 2007 10:02 PM GMT
    Unfortunately I dont have any. It will be wonderful if I have though. However, I have this ideas in my mind that ,kid should be brought up with mon and dad. So, I dont think there any possibilty for me to have one, not in this lifetime, anyway. I used to wonder if I have my own biological child, that kid will carry my genes and grow up to be gay. Not a good childhood experience. So , probably not, but then we never know...
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    Jul 23, 2007 10:14 PM GMT
    Millions. They just haven't been introduced to an egg yet.
  • jasonrme

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    Jul 23, 2007 11:15 PM GMT
    I would love to have kids. I would love to find a lesbian couple to share custody. Anyone know of any or how to find an interested couple?
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    Jul 24, 2007 12:34 AM GMT
    Children are life's single biggest challenge, yet by far life's largest reward. I have 2 children, and they are my life. Yes, it does require a commitment, one must step outside of himself and put their needs before your own. Yes, they can be needy at times, difficult at others, but yet, they are fantastic all the time.

    For those of you who do have children, you know what I am talking about. For those who don't, don't go into it lightly. Their are too many children now that don't have the stability they need in a home. I encourage any loving individual or couple to look into adoption, and provide a stable, loving home to a child in need.
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    Jul 24, 2007 12:43 AM GMT
    I have two kids - daughter 14 and son 11.
    Their mom and I have only recently split, and they are not aware of the circumstances, at least not from me. Not sure they're at the stage to handle it yet, but as soon as there is some distance from the split they'll need to be told. They've been through enough for the moment. . .

    Sharing custody, so get to see them a fair amount, but not enough. I'm only 10 minutes away so they know they can see me whenever they want. They are priority #1, and everything I do, and every decision I make is done with their best interests at heart.
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    Jul 24, 2007 12:59 AM GMT
    My partner has three very beautiful, smart, and talented girls. Their ages are 17, 20, 23.

    We raised two of the three. The oldest was 18 when we met.

    It has been one of the most rewarding experience in my life.

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    Jul 24, 2007 1:33 AM GMT
    My partner and I adopted a boy from Ukraine; he was 4 when I adopted him, he's 8 now. LOVE being a papa.
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    Jul 24, 2007 1:51 AM GMT

    I am the proud parent of a daughter, 12yo.
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    Jul 24, 2007 7:26 AM GMT
    We do not have children and neither of us want them. It simply is not for us.
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    Jul 24, 2007 7:48 AM GMT
    Guys, I have three step-children and two of my own. They're all good kids, each unique, and I'm so glad that I have them all. I also have five grandchildren, four and under.

    They are all my treasure.

    For those of you who say that you don't want children or are not the "father" type, let me just tell you that if you devote yourself to a child, you learn to be unselfish and giving, and that strengthens your relationship with your partner.

    'Nuff said.

    Steve
  • VolleyNJ

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    Jul 24, 2007 3:22 PM GMT
    No one will ever stand up and say, 'It's okay not to want to have kids.' So let me do it. It's okay not to want to have kids. It's probably more sane than wanting them (hee hee). Society is child-obsessed. Parents love to get up on that soapbox. It must be incredibly hard for straight people, since it is so very expected of them. For gay people, it isn't a given, so it is amazing to see so many gay people deciding to get into it because they want to. Of course, I think anyone who decides they want to have kids should go through therapy first to really understand if it's their own neediness or something lacking in their lives that is making them want to bring a child into the world or at least into their home. Parenting for the wrong reasons is not a good thing.

    For anyone thinking about it, I would highly suggest you go on an R Family Vacation. You'll be surrounded by hundreds of gay families, every single one of them a different story.

    For the one dude who asked about how you would find a lesbian couple, I know here in NYC there is a support group for people looking to have kids that meets at the Community Center on 13th Street. Perhaps there is one near you, too.
  • Lincsbear

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    Jul 25, 2007 4:48 PM GMT
    Don`t get me started on this topic...OK,I will.Guys with children are the luckiest,most priveleged people in the world!Redonred,you sound like the best of fathers.I wish you well for the future.
    I come from one of five brothers and sisters,and I`ve a crowd of nephews and nieces to keep me busy.But if I was in a stable relationship with a guy and we had a good home,I`d want to adopt some children(or father them artifically),maybe four or five,employ a woman to help raise them,and forget about all the sacrifices you need to make!I think I`d be the happiest guy alive!
    There,all done...
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    Jul 25, 2007 5:03 PM GMT
    I hope that I will be a grand-father someday. You know that there are more than one way to be rich in life and having children, is one of them. :)
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    Jul 25, 2007 5:09 PM GMT
    Mother says if I had children they'd be messed up, she tends to be right. :)
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    Jul 25, 2007 5:11 PM GMT
    My partner and I have a three-year-old daughter and we're hoping to adopt another one soon. This Friday we're heading to Provincetown for Family Week, put on by Family Pride and R Families. If you have kids, I would highly recommend bringing them to P-town for Family Week, always the first week of August. There are over 600 gay- and lesbian-headed families there and it's a complete blast for everyone. We've met some great people there.
  • PSTriathlete

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    Jul 26, 2007 12:47 AM GMT
    Kids are great....the most meaningful aspect of my life...the highs and lows of it all, but the highs outweigh the lows.....it makes life interesting...btw three 22 20 and 14...
  • irishkcguy

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    Jul 26, 2007 12:51 AM GMT
    I am an uncle of 2 wonderful boys aged 6 and 2. Being an uncle is just like being a grandfather.