Anal Teasing

  • H0TChocolate

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    Dec 15, 2011 2:43 PM GMT
    This has been on my mind for a while so I figured I'd run it by you guys for some opinions.

    I was talking with this guy a while back and we were just messing around one day (kissing, petting, etc.) Things got heated and we didn't have condoms on us so I told him no sex, but he kept teasing my rectum with the head of his penis. He didn't cum on my anus or anything, he didn't insert, but there was definitely some pre-cum on and around my hole.

    I know the best way to rid worry is to get tested but it's only been a month, and I'm just curious if anal teasing is high risk in general. I know everything is a risk but is it high risk? And is anal teasing a common thing like some sort of foreplay?

  • jim_sf

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    Dec 15, 2011 7:29 PM GMT
    In general, teasing like that is relatively low-risk as long as the skin around the anus is intact. Like you said, though, the only way to be certain is to get tested.
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    Dec 15, 2011 8:13 PM GMT
    Every time there's contact between an unwrapped penis and your anus--even if the contact is brief--the risk of contracting HIV and/or other sexually transmitted diseases is present even though the risk may not necessarily be substantial. If cum or precum is involved, the risks clearly are more significant, particularly because it is sometimes difficult to determine if one has skin irritation or skin fissures in that sensitive area. Get tested just to be sure.
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    Dec 15, 2011 9:29 PM GMT
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    Dec 15, 2011 10:14 PM GMT
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    Dec 18, 2011 6:34 AM GMT
    carry condoms with you at all times
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    Dec 20, 2011 6:38 AM GMT
    I'd be more worried about HPV than HIV with this. You're probably fine. I am duty bound to say get tested though. icon_confused.gif

  • dfrourke

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    Dec 20, 2011 7:36 AM GMT
    A Quick Review...things you need to be infected with HIV

    1. The Virus

    2. One of Five Fluids
    - Blood
    - Pre-Cum
    - Semen
    - Vaginal Fluids
    - Breast Milk

    3. A closed pathway to your blood stream
    - Sex [mostly Anal and Vaginal Sex]
    - Needles
    - Blood transfusion

    A lack of any one of these items OR a barrier between any one of these items and infection is not able to occur.

    In the case of the OP. "Anal teasing" might contain [1] and it might contain [2], but it wouldn't contain a closed pathway to your blood stream. His penis around your anus would involve way to much air which kills the virus.

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    Jun 07, 2012 1:00 PM GMT
    i had the exact issue just recently as the OP. Normally dont bottom, but trying it out...with this fwb- a top who wants to fuck -i see once every 3 wks or so. Couple days later, i start to think...think...and worry. I call him and give him the rundown of my concerns. I'm a worrywart -
    He says i have nothing to worry about because he didnt tease deep...doesnt precum, not +....

    I just wanted to talk it out and get reassurance (which is what i told him), but he responded with- "whatever i say doesnt matter, you wont believe me anyways" ...and..."if you are going to question and worry about every little thing we do, maybe we shouldnt get together again".

    He's got a good point, i think i'm way over reacting, i feel somewhat stupid, and maybe even destroyed this fwb situation..

    any advice?
  • Latenight30

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    Jun 07, 2012 3:23 PM GMT
    if you trust him to be in you, you should either trust what he says or just not question it.
    Don't act all clingy like he owes you something.
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    Jul 22, 2012 6:12 AM GMT

    I get paranoid as well about HIV so I understand completely what you are going through. I go a bit crazy at times and some people cannot take it and get offended/scared by it. Then there are other people which put up with my behaviour and never complain about it. I find that life is a lot easier (and safer) if you have a partner(s) that are more understanding and accommodating to your concerns.

    If you feel stupid for expressing your concerns to this guy that you are sleeping with then I would consider that I bad sign of the relationship/situation. Maybe this guy is not worth sleeping with if he cannot address appropriately the very real concerns that people have with sex and disease. Find somebody better to sleep with if you are not happy with this guy. There are people out there who are happy to get tested and share their results with you to ease your concern. Maybe try finding some of them.