Finding guys in college...

  • easterndude69

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    Dec 17, 2011 7:25 PM GMT
    I'm a college freshman currently who just finished his first semester. I have met gays, but they aren't my type. Most of them are feminine or transvestites, or are really skinny or really fat with nasal voices. Any advice to finding a hot gay guy in college? I'm involved in alot of clubs, but I still don't really know who's gay. Are there any signs that could tell someone is most likely gay? My gaydar isn't really that good. Where should I look and what should I do to increase my exposure to attractive gay guys within my college?
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    Dec 17, 2011 7:28 PM GMT
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  • tautomer

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    Dec 17, 2011 8:23 PM GMT
    Don't go to campus queer straight alliance groups (or something equivalent). Almost universally, the guys involved are just completely undesirable. You're best bet at this point in time is to look online. Just a warning though, your chances of finding someone stable or mature at your age is going to be very unlikely. To be honest, I think you should just focus on friends and studies right now. If a relationship opertunity comes along, great, but don't bother looking for one.
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    Dec 17, 2011 9:06 PM GMT
    grindr
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    Dec 17, 2011 9:07 PM GMT
    Go out to a club and meet someone... find out they go to a similar college or community college.


    Profit.
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    Dec 17, 2011 9:08 PM GMT
    Same situation here. I am not a fan of the college boys in my area. Just don't stress it and get a fake ID and go to bars.

    There is a bar where I am living where cute grad kids go. Can't wait till next semester

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  • Trepeat

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    Dec 17, 2011 9:30 PM GMT
    I had the same problem. Met lots of gay guys, but none of them were more than friend-material (and quite a few didn't even make that grade). It's possible to meet cool guys at LGBT groups, but they're definitely few and far between, from my experiences. After I got sick of waiting to stumble across a good, potential-mate in real life at University I tried the online thing, where I had a lot more success at meeting some cool guys. Lots of deuches and creepers online, too, but if you're a good judge of character you can usually filter them out. What can be difficult is finding decent guys who're looking for more than just hook ups, but if the chemistry's there it'll happen eventually. icon_smile.gif

    I think college years are kind of just a tough time to meet nice, confdent, well-adjusted and masculine gay guys in general- lots of other things going on at this age and a lot of people are still trying to find their niche in gay culture (if they even want to be a part of that).
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    Dec 17, 2011 9:31 PM GMT
    hornydude01 saidI'm a college freshman currently who just finished his first semester. I have met gays, but they aren't my type. Most of them are feminine or transvestites, or are really skinny or really fat with nasal voices. Any advice to finding a hot gay guy in college?


    Stop thinking you're such a prize that you can judge everyone and expect a Colt stud.
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    Dec 17, 2011 9:33 PM GMT
    Grindr or Scruff.
  • swimjohn

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    Dec 17, 2011 9:37 PM GMT
    I'm in the same situation as you. During first semester I really didn't find anyone I was sexually attracted to, but I did manage to make several gay friends mostly though friend of friend introductions and only a few through our LGBT group. I've been on several sites and Grindr and still haven't found any quality guys in my area, but I'm keeping my eyes open.

    I'd suggest just focus on school and friends instead but remain open to whatever possibilities should arise. If you have a good group of friends who are open to gays chances are they'll meet gay guys as well that they could introduce you to as friends or potentially more. Good luck!
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    Dec 17, 2011 9:38 PM GMT
    Ariodante said
    hornydude01 saidI'm a college freshman currently who just finished his first semester. I have met gays, but they aren't my type. Most of them are feminine or transvestites, or are really skinny or really fat with nasal voices. Any advice to finding a hot gay guy in college?


    Stop thinking you're such a prize that you can judge everyone and expect a Colt stud.


    good advice - you seem to think you are superior to those around you - change your attitude and you may be surprised
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    Dec 17, 2011 9:40 PM GMT
    ozmuscle2 said
    Ariodante said
    hornydude01 saidI'm a college freshman currently who just finished his first semester. I have met gays, but they aren't my type. Most of them are feminine or transvestites, or are really skinny or really fat with nasal voices. Any advice to finding a hot gay guy in college?


    Stop thinking you're such a prize that you can judge everyone and expect a Colt stud.


    good advice - you seem to think you are superior to those around you - change your attitude and you may be surprised


    Exactly what they both said - who are you to be so judgmental on other guys?
  • calibro

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    Dec 17, 2011 9:46 PM GMT
    can't see why. from your rant you seem like a real catch... as in i hope you catch chlamydia from glory hole.
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    Dec 17, 2011 10:48 PM GMT
    Ariodante said
    hornydude01 saidI'm a college freshman currently who just finished his first semester. I have met gays, but they aren't my type. Most of them are feminine or transvestites, or are really skinny or really fat with nasal voices. Any advice to finding a hot gay guy in college?


    Stop thinking you're such a prize that you can judge everyone and expect a Colt stud.


    This.
  • charlieviiper...

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    Dec 17, 2011 10:56 PM GMT
    asked hornydude101...

    Honestly the easiest way is to just make friends.
    Expanding your network in college is really easy, especially during freshman year. Once you know one or two gay guys, it kind of compounds.
  • shawn06

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    Dec 17, 2011 11:04 PM GMT
    Import saidgrindr


    If ur looking for college guys this is a good way. Or go to a frat party and find the masculine theater major.
  • easterndude69

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    Dec 17, 2011 11:07 PM GMT
    I don't think so highly of myself, I mean I could buff up more and I'm working on that. I'm not looking for the perfect guy just something to work with. I don't mind hook-ups although I did despise them before. The trouble is finding a guy of my tastes: a manly guy who is actually gay or bi. I can meet many straight manly guys I even have one as a friend, but what about gay and bi ones? I know they're out there, but how do I go about finding them? For now, the internet seems like the most accessible way to find them, but I was wondering if there were ways to find them within a University.
  • easterndude69

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    Dec 17, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    shawn06 said
    Import saidgrindr


    If ur looking for college guys this is a good way. Or go to a frat party and find the masculine theater major.


    Do ALOT of gay guys within colleges use this? Damn need to get me a smart phone then.
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    Dec 17, 2011 11:39 PM GMT
    shawn06 said
    Import saidgrindr


    If ur looking for college guys this is a good way. Or go to a frat party and find the masculine theater major.


    I lol'd.
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    Dec 17, 2011 11:42 PM GMT
    i agree with grindr. but definitely just be careful too. it really depends on what you are looking for. hookup, dating, friends etc. you're bound to find it on grindr
  • tautomer

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    Dec 17, 2011 11:47 PM GMT
    hornydude01 saidbut I was wondering if there were ways to find them within a University.


    There is no "formula" for finding guys in a specefic place. This goes for anywhere even outside of a university. If it was easy to find the guys we all want there would be no need for dating websites. I didn't meet anyone that I had mutual attraction with in college until my Junior year.

    Also, I mean this with all the best intent I can put into it, but; you're clearly very young. Most (if not all) can see this, and thus makes you not really seen as someone they'd want to date. Really, give yourself a few years to get some life experience under your belt. There is no "race" to find someone, no matter how it feels. Having a relationship that you get way too attached too can also be absolutely disasterous for schoolwork.

    Give it time, and focus on friends.
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    Dec 17, 2011 11:51 PM GMT
    Now you would use Scruff & Grindr to meet guys on campus. We didn't have those, so I met guys in classes, in the gym, around campus, through friends, at fraternity parties. For hook ups on campus, I had lots of luck in the gang showers after working out. The eye contact going back and forth gave you all you needed to know about who wanted to play and who was straight.

    Fun times and memories.

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    Dec 17, 2011 11:52 PM GMT
    Find out if there are any gay clubs that have a college night or something like that. Just keep in mind that gay clubs with college discounts often have a ton of straight people too.

    Also, isn't the term "transvestites" a bit dated?
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    Dec 18, 2011 12:00 AM GMT
    If you are more concerned about meeting a hot jock, as a freshmen, then you aren't taking enough classes.
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    Dec 18, 2011 12:04 AM GMT
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    +1

    Also, start lifting at least semi-seriously. Become the kind of guy you want to attract.