J-Pouch, Stomas and the rest .... It's a challenge!

  • Drewjames

    Posts: 6

    Dec 17, 2011 11:06 PM GMT
    I just wanted to put it out there to see if other guys (currently) are on here experiencing my situation right now? A long story short but a year a go i had my large intestine removed because of acute Ulcerative Colitis. Now 12mths on and i am living (adjusting to a life) with a stoma/ostomy and have just had my J-Pouch surgery. A J-Pouch basically means my small intestines have been made in to a sort of pouch and plumbed in (reconnection). I experience quite a few issues with my health physically and mentally ... the main being because i no longer have my large intestine it means Im prone to dehydration from weak absorption of water and minerals. I have adapted well to my new life and a year on i have been able to go back to the gym and lift more weight that I had done before. My worries are now having J-Pouch surgery im a little anxious about what my capabilities will be?? Mentally I have challenging times with feeling self-acceptance and as a gay guy a lot of my identity is being challenged. I fear rejection from others, im lucky to have a partner who has gone through this with me but were facing a lot of challenges together ... Sex being one of them! We cannot be versatile anymore and the prospect of limitations brings on a fear of rejection with it. I've never been truly defined by my sexuality but this has brought about a lot of change and it has brought me to a crossroads in my life! Would be great to hear from others going through this for advice. I have set up a blog to record my journey, i really feel that to bring it out into the open will encourage positive change and development!


    Look forward to hearing from you all.


  • barriehomeboy

    Posts: 2475

    Dec 18, 2011 1:42 AM GMT
    I'm a medical imaging technologist in the Americas. I've never met an Ulcerative Collitis patient who wasn't loveable. It seems to be a vicious disease that strikes the most undeserving people. I hate it. Seriously. I've never met a UC patient/victim that wasn't one of the most likeable people I've ever met in my life. I cry when I get home. It's so unjust.
  • Drewjames

    Posts: 6

    Dec 18, 2011 9:21 AM GMT
    Cheers for your kind words .... I know that all these things are here to test us, right? I am able to see the gifts that I have received from dealing with UC, Stoma and now JPouch. I try not to live a selfish life and this just enables me to be closer to the 'Bigger Picture'!