I'm sorry-I don't date bartenders.

  • LuckyPierre

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    Dec 18, 2011 6:11 AM GMT
    WTF? I got that today. I mean really? Why? Is there such a stigma associated with bartenders?

    Would you date a bartender?
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    Dec 18, 2011 6:14 AM GMT
    Sounds like a free drink win win
  • Trepeat

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    Dec 18, 2011 6:16 AM GMT
    Dated a bartender for a while, the hours they work can be incompatible with people working day jobs.

    Aside from that, though, fun and sexy and social people!
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    Dec 18, 2011 6:17 AM GMT
    I guess you should've become a stripper or go-go dancer instead? icon_eek.gif
  • LuckyPierre

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    Dec 18, 2011 6:59 AM GMT
    Trepeat saidDated a bartender for a while, the hours they work can be incompatible with people working day jobs.

    Aside from that, though, fun and sexy and social people!


    I wasn't given the chance to explain that my bar closes, most nights, by 8pm. Holidays are the exceptions.

    But yes, fun, sexy and social... that's me if the twit would have bothered.
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    Dec 18, 2011 7:14 AM GMT
    I definitely do not approve of him saying that, but I can understand why he might think like this... especially if he is looking for a LTR. First of all - bartenders get hit on ALL THE TIME, so if your bf is a bartender, you must be crazy not the get jealous from time to time... icon_biggrin.gif
    Besides - if he had a different type of job (in the business sector for example), it would make being with a bartender a bit difficult. Two people from different worlds rarely manage to have a stable relationship ...

    but still - it was a shitty thing to say!
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    Dec 18, 2011 8:54 AM GMT
    They get hit on a lot by hot guys, so I would be insanely jealous and worried all the time, LOL but it depends since not all bartenders are cheaters but maybe that's what deterred him.
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    Dec 18, 2011 8:57 AM GMT
    It's the fact that even the best bartender, for tips, will flirt shamelessly even when taken. So it's hard to trust someone who see's attraction day in and day out even if in a relationship.
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    Dec 18, 2011 1:21 PM GMT
    If u have a jealous heart, dating a bartender isn't recommended. Bartenders by nature should be gregarious, somewhat flirtatious and attentive. If u don't get why those things are key to good bartending then u shouldn't date one
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    Dec 18, 2011 1:33 PM GMT
    professional flirting is part of a bartender's job, so you first have to wonder if he loves you or if it is just an automatic "act" - then once you are past that, you have constant temptation thrown his way.
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    Dec 18, 2011 1:43 PM GMT
    I miss my bar tender. I don't care what my guy's occupation is. Screw it, their loss. I guess they figure you'd be flirting or having all kinds of guys coming at you in which case they are just too damn insecure. Its like when I go to this one club in SA called the Bonham Exhcnage and the gogo boys (straight ones usually) have their girlfriends go to the bar and watch them work. They get girls and guys to up to them and they give a little show.. you know how it goes... their bitch looks all pissed and makes it a point to be like... YEAH THAT'S MY MAN YA'LL!... I gave one guy like 10 bucks for the show he was giving me cause he was fun and honestly I needed a little man attention. Bitch actually came up to me and was like... think you can get enough... I looked at her... Let the boy work for his dollar... how else is he going to support your sorry ass. Needless to say that guy and I became friends and that relationship didn't last. He's very straight but still a very friendly guy. turns out was a cousin of a classmate too, ha! icon_razz.gif
  • stratavos

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    Dec 18, 2011 1:52 PM GMT
    yes I'd be willing to date a bartender. There will always be a story to be heard, depending on the location, and it just means that I can't "be there" (the bar) often, only rarely ;)
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    Dec 18, 2011 2:15 PM GMT
    I would date a bartender. I'm a part time bartender and I hear things like this all the time.

    It's on the same level as "I wouldn't date a stripper". Pretty much the same reason. As bartenders, we have a job to make people feel comfortable. In many cases, the bar is considered "a home away from home" and we are tasked with doing more then just serving drinks. We're reaching out and getting personal with folks without actually getting personal. We flirt, laugh, egg on, debate and involve ourselves with our customers in order to have them buy drinks and tip nicely. We build clients up so that they wanna come back.

    A lot of people say they wouldn't date a bartender mostly because of the whole flirting thing. I know most of our female bartenders get hit on like crazy along with our servers. A lot of people will fuck a bartender but they won't date one because they have insecurities of a bartender cheating and most don't like the fact that we flirt back with customers.

    I wouldn't take it personal. Consider it their lose and move on.
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    Dec 18, 2011 2:19 PM GMT


    LuckyPierre saidWTF? I got that today. I mean really? Why? Is there such a stigma associated with bartenders?

    Would you date a bartender?


    If he is the owner of the bar -yes
    If it is a filler job while he is searching for gainful employment- yes

    If that's all he wantsand intends to do - no.
  • DesireIron

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    Dec 18, 2011 2:22 PM GMT
    cuz they're sluts
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    Dec 18, 2011 2:23 PM GMT
    DesireIron saidcuz they're sluts


    No sluttier then anyone else.
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    Dec 18, 2011 2:23 PM GMT
    Guy101 saidI would date a bartender. I'm a part time bartender and I hear things like this all the time.

    It's on the same level as "I wouldn't date a stripper". Pretty much the same reason. As bartenders, we have a job to make people feel comfortable. In many cases, the bar is considered "a home away from home" and we are tasked with doing more then just serving drinks. We're reaching out and getting personal with folks without actually getting personal. We flirt, laugh, egg on, debate and involve ourselves with our customers in order to have them buy drinks and tip nicely. We build clients up so that they wanna come back.

    A lot of people say they wouldn't date a bartender mostly because of the whole flirting thing. I know most of our female bartenders get hit on like crazy along with our servers. A lot of people will fuck a bartender but they won't date on because they have insecurities of a bartender cheating and most don't like the fact that we flirt back with customers.

    I wouldn't take it personal. Consider it their lose and move on.


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    Dec 18, 2011 3:14 PM GMT
    No.
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    Dec 18, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    I would date a bartender but I would always expect to find that he's cheating. I would expect to find that most attractive gay guys cheat so a gay guy in the limelight, like a bartender, yeah he'd probably cheat. I have had so many married guys and guys in the relationships try to hook up with me, especially around the holidays, it's ridiculous. I just found out that my 2 fuck buddies are in relationships, which didn't bother me but morally I just can't do that. Too bad because we had some hot hookups... grrr.
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    Dec 18, 2011 3:47 PM GMT
    MadeNUSA said

    LuckyPierre saidWTF? I got that today. I mean really? Why? Is there such a stigma associated with bartenders?

    Would you date a bartender?


    If he is the owner of the bar -yes
    If it is a filler job while he is searching for gainful employment- yes

    If that's all he wantsand intends to do - no.


    In a lot of cases you can make better money bartending than you can working for a salary in the business world. I've known a couple who made more than enough to support themselves bartending 4 nights a week. They had a job they enjoyed, decent money, and more free time to pursue their own interests. Sounds like gainful employment to me.
  • LuckyPierre

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    Dec 18, 2011 6:18 PM GMT
    I bartend at a theme park, not at a gay bar. While I do get hit on and do flirt at work, that happens outside of work too! Plus I'm pretty hot in my kilt. ;)

    And I make more money then our 'career' general manager. I used to be in the 'business' world and at times made a boat load more money then I am now. But I also had a ton more stress and hated my job and my life. So now I'm happier and have less money. *shrug*

    Anyway, have a first date this afternoon with a fellow that doesn't seem to mind my occupation. icon_smile.gif
  • Little_Spoon

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    Dec 18, 2011 6:20 PM GMT
    Track records are that of sluts...

    Not that you are one... I'm just saying.
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    Dec 18, 2011 6:22 PM GMT
    Why does that matter?

    I would date a stripper if I liked him. Who cares?
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    Dec 18, 2011 6:26 PM GMT
    Little_Spoon saidTrack records are that of sluts...

    Not that you are one... I'm just saying.


    This. Bartenders and flight attendants are no no's in my book
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    Dec 18, 2011 6:33 PM GMT
    I went out on a few dates with a bartender. He was obnoxious before he had a drink and he got worse the more he drank. I took him to a baseball game and he got very drunk then texted the rest of the game and ignored me. I think it's kind of childish to extend that to the entire race of bartenders out there. I know several with MBAs, JDs, and Ph.Ds that don't fit into the antiquated stereotype of bartenders.

    The generalized gay relationship worries about cheating are just amplified 10x with bartenders because (a) there is alcohol, (b) there are a lot of people, and (c) there are a lot more "opportunities" present in that atmosphere that are not available elsewhere.

    And it is really lame to never be able to go out at night since they need to work. But it is really nice to be able to meet for breakfast tacos on my way to the office and on his way to bed after work icon_lol.gif