Dating an INTROVERTED guy! WHAT TO DO!!

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    Dec 19, 2011 12:16 AM GMT
    Yo Guys! I'm trying to date someone who is actually the most introverted guy ever! and guess what I'm totally opposite to that! I like to jump around, dance, yell, being sarcastic, noisy, out going, love to party everyday, meeting new people around, doing jokes in the street and so on!! and he thinks all that stuff is WEIRD!!! haha well, i know it's weird, but he barely speaks and im so fucking crushed on him, that Im desperate because i'm not able to read it...

    I know it's stupid but all of you introverted guys, gimme a hint how to deal with your everlasting silence and agony of deal with human beings! hahaha I know this means can buffer your "incredible skills for communication"!

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    Dec 19, 2011 12:21 AM GMT
    I posted this in a different thread. Maybe it will help you understand the mind of an introverted person.

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    http://www.carlkingcreative.com/10-myths-about-introverts

    10 Myths About Introverts

    Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
    This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

    Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
    Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

    Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
    Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

    Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
    On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

    Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
    Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

    Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
    Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

    Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
    Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

    Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
    Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

    Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
    Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

    Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
    A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
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    Dec 19, 2011 12:54 AM GMT
    Accept him or move on.
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    Dec 19, 2011 1:05 AM GMT
    get used to it, he's not going to want to run around all the time.

    He'll give you what you want to a certain degree but he wont become like you under any circumstances or to any real degree.

    He's just him, take him for who he is and you'll get a lot of what he has to offer.
  • DesireIron

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    Dec 19, 2011 1:07 AM GMT
    Introverts get their energy from within. Extroverts get their energy from their environment. Therefore, when introverts are out and about, they are running on "battery" power. They need to manage their energy resources. If you want him to go out with you, you have to be mindful of how long he has been running on battery power prior. Let him be home and quiet and recharging before you take him out to some event/party/bar.

    Also, introverts tend to have been told that their is something wrong with them their whole lives. He may actually believe this. He may be somewhat withdrawn because he doesnt understand himself why doesnt like to party as he is told he should.

    Introverts also prefer deeper, more meaningful activities and interactions, than extroverts. So partying can be just plain boring to him. So he doesnt interact because he isnt that interested.

    If you are going to date him and ask him to go out partying with you, you have to realize how much you are asking of him. Let him know you understand that and appreciate it. Let him have some control on how long your time out is. Let him know you will take his needs into consideration.
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    Dec 19, 2011 3:20 AM GMT
    I'm with an introvert and I am more outgoing. I let him choose which friends of mine that he likes to spend time with, and when he says he'd rather stay home I respect that, just as he respects my need for more socialization. He has gradually widened the circle of people with whom he can relax and have fun. Has been worth the effort.
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    Dec 19, 2011 3:25 AM GMT
    Bud, as an introvert myself... I will say this:

    We introverts love to be social, it's common misconception that we aren't. However, we are different from extroverts in that we can only socialize for a set amount of time and with the right people, after that we need time to ourselves to reflect and be with our own thoughts/ passtimes

    My advice to you would be to need to pressure your guy into going into social scenes... because that's just going to push him away. Let him plan some of the fun things you do, because that way he'll feel a lot more comfortable in the setting bc it's not something that is overly stimulating. For example, ask him to help you plan a game night or an evening of cocktails at home for a few of your close friends, doing things like these, you'll begin to get a sense of where his comfort zone is! icon_smile.gif

    Good luck!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 19, 2011 3:25 AM GMT
    He's definitely going to need his "alone time" to reenergize and he may or may not want you around... and when he does, he is going to value a very deep, trusting relationship with you. He will count on you for support at a large party for instance... depending on whether he is "really" introverted, he may or may not even attending an event like that. It would help if he knows several there.

    Good luck, it isn't that big of a deal.
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    Dec 19, 2011 3:27 AM GMT
    xrichx saidI posted this in a different thread. Maybe it will help you understand the mind of an introverted person.

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    http://www.carlkingcreative.com/10-myths-about-introverts

    10 Myths About Introverts

    Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
    This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

    Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
    Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

    Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
    Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

    Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
    On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

    Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
    Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

    Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
    Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

    Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
    Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

    Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
    Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

    Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
    Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

    Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
    A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.


    This is remarkably true.
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    Dec 19, 2011 3:29 AM GMT
    xrichx saidI posted this in a different thread. Maybe it will help you understand the mind of an introverted person.

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    http://www.carlkingcreative.com/10-myths-about-introverts

    .........



    I should bookmark this. It describes me very well. I don't know whether that's good, bad, or indifferent. I've learned over the years how to interact more with extroverts, but I'm still very much an introvert.
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    Dec 19, 2011 3:29 AM GMT
    gym_business saidBud, as an introvert myself... I will say this:

    We introverts love to be social, it's common misconception that we aren't. However, we are different from extroverts in that we can only socialize for a set amount of time and with the right people, after that we need time to ourselves to reflect and be with our own thoughts/ passtimes

    My advice to you would be to need to pressure your guy into going into social scenes... because that's just going to push him away. Let him plan some of the fun things you do, because that way he'll feel a lot more comfortable in the setting bc it's not something that is overly stimulating. For example, ask him to help you plan a game night or an evening of cocktails at home for a few of your close friends, doing things like these, you'll begin to get a sense of where his comfort zone is! icon_smile.gif

    Good luck!


    Yea I should have pointed it that out too. My BF can go out and have a good time socializing but he will then be exhausted when we go home. It's more work for him than it is for me, to be "on".
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    Dec 19, 2011 3:32 AM GMT
    xrichx nailed it perfectly with that list. Every single point is me to a tee!!! Don't push him or try to get him to be more outgoing by doing only the things that you like to do. Give him some say and options as to what you two do together. I would also suggest not dragging him to functions where he doesn't know anybody unless it's only for a short time.
  • tautomer

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    Dec 19, 2011 3:33 AM GMT
    I am completely and utterly baffled by people who are attracted to guys who talk very little or not at all. It makes me want to shove them in a ditch, it's exceedingly frustrating to me!

    You're trying to date him though? It's possible he might not be all that interested. Be careful of reading into things that aren't there.

    Arg just reading you're OP makes me angry, I absolutely can't stand people like that. I am an introvert myself, but I am not silent.
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    Dec 19, 2011 3:37 AM GMT
    njmeanwhile said
    gym_business saidBud, as an introvert myself... I will say this:

    We introverts love to be social, it's common misconception that we aren't. However, we are different from extroverts in that we can only socialize for a set amount of time and with the right people, after that we need time to ourselves to reflect and be with our own thoughts/ passtimes

    My advice to you would be to need to pressure your guy into going into social scenes... because that's just going to push him away. Let him plan some of the fun things you do, because that way he'll feel a lot more comfortable in the setting bc it's not something that is overly stimulating. For example, ask him to help you plan a game night or an evening of cocktails at home for a few of your close friends, doing things like these, you'll begin to get a sense of where his comfort zone is! icon_smile.gif

    Good luck!


    Yea I should have pointed it that out too. My BF can go out and have a good time socializing but he will then be exhausted when we go home. It's more work for him than it is for me, to be "on".


    That's exactly it! I can do social settings for so much time, but then I need to politely bow out and take my time to myself. We introverts are weird in that we need a lot more hours to ourselves than extroverts to get through the day icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 19, 2011 3:38 AM GMT
    To add what I posted above, as an introvert, I like being with guys who are more extroverted. Opposites attract, to some degree. However, I don't want to be changed or "fixed." I just want to find a nice balance between being quiet by myself and being out in the world trying new things.
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    Dec 19, 2011 3:43 AM GMT
    xrichx saidI posted this in a different thread. Maybe it will help you understand the mind of an introverted person.

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    http://www.carlkingcreative.com/10-myths-about-introverts

    10 Myths About Introverts

    Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
    This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

    Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
    Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

    Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
    Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

    Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
    On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

    Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
    Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

    Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
    Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

    Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
    Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

    Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
    Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

    Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
    Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

    Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
    A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

    ^^^ Giant block of truth.
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    Dec 19, 2011 3:48 AM GMT
    Italolatinguy saidYo Guys! I'm trying to date someone who is actually the most introverted guy ever! and guess what I'm totally opposite to that! I like to jump around, dance, yell, being sarcastic, noisy, out going, love to party everyday, meeting new people around, doing jokes in the street and so on!! and he thinks all that stuff is WEIRD!!! haha well, i know it's weird, but he barely speaks and im so fucking crushed on him, that Im desperate because i'm not able to read it...

    I know it's stupid but all of you introverted guys, gimme a hint how to deal with your everlasting silence and agony of deal with human beings! hahaha I know this means can buffer your "incredible skills for communication"!

    X


    First of all, don't' embarrass him. The worst thing you can do is try to make him extroverted or think there is something wrong with him. There isn't.

    You need to get used to letting him have space, and spending time in places that don't' overload him. He'd like quiet places where he can just talk to you over a club party. Chances are if you get to know him he's probably very interesting and can give you a lot in a relationship you wouldn't get from an extroverted person.

    Like everyone else said, being introverted does not mean being antisocial. It just means he gets his fill of being social faster than most people.

    I'm an introvert, and I love to party but if you make me go every week it doesn't take long at all for me to start saying no thanks I'll stay home.
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    Dec 19, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    Give him some beer! He'll open up like a pod from "Alien"! lol




    But anyways, if he looks embarrassed with some of your antics, he most likely is (NOT trying to sound mean, just giving you a heads up...and most antics are fun and forgivable, only if they don't cause problems with/for others)!
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    Dec 19, 2011 4:16 AM GMT
    xrichx saidI posted this in a different thread. Maybe it will help you understand the mind of an introverted person.

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    http://www.carlkingcreative.com/10-myths-about-introverts

    10 Myths About Introverts

    Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
    This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

    Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
    Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

    Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
    Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

    Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
    On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

    Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
    Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

    Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
    Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

    Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
    Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

    Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
    Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

    Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
    Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

    Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
    A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.




    haha. some of these are true icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 19, 2011 4:29 AM GMT
    I'd want to see the data on #9 on that list. Maybe I'm an exception, but I'm an introvert (on any measure I've taken of such) and an adrenaline junkie. I also haven't seen any research indicating that there's a correlation between type T personality and being introverted.
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    Dec 19, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    Italolatinguy saidYo Guys! I'm trying to date someone who is actually the most introverted guy ever! and guess what I'm totally opposite to that! I like to jump around, dance, yell, being sarcastic, noisy, out going, love to party everyday, meeting new people around, doing jokes in the street and so on!! and he thinks all that stuff is WEIRD!!! haha well, i know it's weird, but he barely speaks and im so fucking crushed on him, that Im desperate because i'm not able to read it...

    I know it's stupid but all of you introverted guys, gimme a hint how to deal with your everlasting silence and agony of deal with human beings! hahaha I know this means can buffer your "incredible skills for communication"!

    X


    I used to be quite introverted, but age took care of that. It actually isn't terrible for one half of a partnership to be introverted and the other extroverted. You can play to each other's strengths.
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    Dec 19, 2011 4:45 AM GMT
    You're matter, he's antimatter. Touch him. Lol.
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    How do U know he doesn't contemplate or blog about your potentially obnoxious childlike attention-seeking ADHD personality? icon_razz.gif
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    EliStark saidI'd want to see the data on #9 on that list. Maybe I'm an exception, but I'm an introvert (on any measure I've taken of such) and an adrenaline junkie. I also haven't seen any research indicating that there's a correlation between type T personality and being introverted.



    You might be an ambivert. Meaning, you are at the crossroads between the two personality types.
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    Dec 19, 2011 7:01 AM GMT
    xrichx saidI posted this in a different thread. Maybe it will help you understand the mind of an introverted person.

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    http://www.carlkingcreative.com/10-myths-about-introverts

    10 Myths About Introverts

    Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
    This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

    Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
    Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

    Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
    Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

    Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
    On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

    Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
    Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

    Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
    Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

    Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
    Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

    Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
    Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

    Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
    Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

    Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
    A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.


    Thats the post I was about to go looking for. So very much like my friend David... I miss him... =-(