"Asking someone out"

  • comical44

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    Dec 19, 2011 1:52 AM GMT
    quick story...

    In sept I met this guy in my town....Hes So Funny and so handsome.

    From sept-oct we hung out a few times...as frends...we never crossed the line but we kind of flirted a little.

    anyways nothing happened we lost touch for about 2 monthes.

    Last week he txt me a lot and we hung out on friday....watched a movie,massaged each other which then led to us kissing for an hour. It felt so good.

    Hes completely my type and I never thought he would kiss me and have him tell me he likes me ever since we met in sept.

    We might hang out again this week....

    I wanna Ask him to be my boyfriend....what do you think?
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    Dec 19, 2011 1:56 AM GMT
    You've known him since Sept and haven't sexed yet? I didn't think that was even possible.
  • comical44

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    Dec 19, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidYou've known him since Sept and haven't sexed yet? I didn't think that was even possible.


    Well we mainly just hung out as friends a few times then we lost touch.

    But on friday we Kissed and rubbed each other which clearly crossed the friends zone...he told me it felt really nice to kiss and rub me and that he liked me.

    He did say way back when I first met him in Sept. that when it comes to a relationship...hes not against a boyfriend...he just said if it naturally happens then it happens.

    So if we hang out a couple more times do you think it would be weird if I ask him to be my Boyfriend?

    Advice helps...thanks guys
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    Dec 19, 2011 2:04 AM GMT
    The worst thing he can say is no.
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    Dec 19, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    Alert: We're in different generations. The advice in this response may be laughably out-of-date and creepy.

    Keep it real.
    Example: Want to go to xxxx next Friday? The commitment to spend time together is defined and certain. Without words, it says I like you.
    By comparison the commitment suggested in your posting has undefined borders. Each guy is free to define it in their own way.

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    Dec 19, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    There's nothing wrong with taking it slow. Why don't you ask him out on a more "official" date first? Asking him to be your boyfriend sounds more formal, and all you've done is "hang out" in your own words. See if he's open to the idea of being a little more serious before you put a label on it.
  • Import

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    Dec 19, 2011 2:10 AM GMT
    dude, I understand u all had a cute/lovey-dovey night together and I'm happy for u.

    However, maybe u should hang out a few more times to feel his vibe out as well....does he feel the same way as u are feeling? Cuz I guarantee if he's not and u ask him....he'll slowly just like stop talking to u or whatevber cuz hes trying not to lead u on cuz he knows u wanna be in a relationship and he doesnt...

    just hang out a few more times, dont be so quick to slap the "bf" label on. . Let it be an organic grownth into a relationship, not this forced, high-school shit like "will u go steady with me>?" OMG!
  • comical44

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    Dec 19, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    Import saiddude, I understand u all had a cute/lovey-dovey night together and I'm happy for u.

    However, maybe u should hang out a few more times to feel his vibe out as well....does he feel the same way as u are feeling? Cuz I guarantee if he's not and u ask him....he'll slowly just like stop talking to u or whatevber cuz hes trying not to lead u on cuz he knows u wanna be in a relationship and he doesnt...

    just hang out a few more times, dont be so quick to slap the "bf" label on. . Let it be an organic grownth into a relationship, not this forced, high-school shit like "will u go steady with me>?" OMG!


    Thanks For the adviceicon_smile.gif

    We hung out a bunch of times monthes ago and we talked about relationships and what we want...And he knows that im not a "hook up" guy..And even back then we were only friends he knew I had a crush on him...I just didnt think he liked me back.

    We stopped talking for a couple monthes and HE just last week starting texting me and asking me to hang out so he must not be opposed to the idea because he knows im not looking for hookups ya know what I mean?

    I def wanna hang out more with him and have conversations about it all and see he how he feels.

    Im not trying to slap on the bf label its just that I like him a lot and would like to be in a relationship with him
  • comical44

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    Dec 19, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
    Anyone else have some advice?
  • comical44

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    Dec 19, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    Anyone lol?
  • comical44

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    Dec 19, 2011 3:39 AM GMT
    @ amoonhawk-I understand the whole dont go to fast dont go to slow thing.

    I mean I did meet him monthes ago....But I still have the same crush on him and not that we have kissed it just adds to it.

    We never did anything else because not sure...I think I was just nervous to initiate something...I could see myself dating him though...He has a lot of what I look for in a guy
  • comical44

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    Dec 19, 2011 4:31 AM GMT
    @ amoonhawk-When I said Dating I meant I could see us as a couple...I wanna get to know him more and more on every level possible...Hes such interesting
  • waccamatt

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    Dec 19, 2011 4:41 AM GMT
    comical44 saidquick story...

    In sept I met this guy in my town....Hes So Funny and so handsome.

    From sept-oct we hung out a few times...as frends...we never crossed the line but we kind of flirted a little.

    anyways nothing happened we lost touch for about 2 monthes.

    Last week he txt me a lot and we hung out on friday....watched a movie,massaged each other which then led to us kissing for an hour. It felt so good.

    Hes completely my type and I never thought he would kiss me and have him tell me he likes me ever since we met in sept.

    We might hang out again this week....

    I wanna Ask him to be my boyfriend....what do you think?


    You don't ask someone to be your boyfriend after one date. Let things take their natural course and after a couple of months you'll know if he's your boyfriend or not.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Dec 19, 2011 4:53 AM GMT
    Listen, I suggest you two go on a official date first. If the date goes well than talk about dating
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    Dec 19, 2011 5:03 AM GMT
    waccamatt said
    You don't ask someone to be your boyfriend after one date. Let things take their natural course and after a couple of months you'll know if he's your boyfriend or not.

    THIS. No need to label stuff yet. Generally if two people like each other they'll just know... though - while getting to know each other - you might want to find out his thoughts on relationships in general: open-ness, honesty, monogamy or non(!), etc. Everyone's got different 'values' so see how well you mesh and how flexible/open you both are to each other's potential differences. That said: have fun... and good luck!
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    Dec 19, 2011 6:21 AM GMT
    It sounds like you're both in agreement on trying a bf relationship. That sounds great icon_smile.gif If sex happens along the way, great.
    Im kinda wondering why there was a 2 month gap. Was it one of you guys wasn't that into the other? Why you 2 drifted apart. To me bf's work to become best friends, To me for someone to become a best friend takes 6 months to a year.Good Luck
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    Dec 19, 2011 6:36 AM GMT
    Huh? You can have a BF before you have had sex?
  • comical44

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    Dec 19, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    we have known each other for 4 monthes so its not like im saying I want him to be my boyfriend after hanging with him for one night ya know...I like him and liked him when I first met him.

    We lost touch for a month and half or so because he was busy and I was busy...both of us with our own personla things...hes the one who initiated hanging out and stuff.

    Maybe ill ask him on a date the next time we hang out and have a conversation about all of it?