Guys you will hook up with but would never date.

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    Dec 19, 2011 6:10 AM GMT
    I have been thinking a lot about this lately and just wanted to know what others thought or if you have had similar situations.

    I know, myself, I have met guys who wanted to go out with me but I just wasn't feeling them on that level and didn't take them up on their offers. But later on down the road I got horny and I didn't have a problem going to meet them for a hookup even though I had no intentions of anything other than that.

    And there have been a few guys who I have asked out who didn't take me up on my offer either but somehow a few months later we'd end up messing around and of course that was all it was as well.

    So why is it that we do this and do have it done to us? Can it just be chalked up to being horny? Is it an ego thing that we/they think they can do better than them in a relationship? Have any of you had this happen or do it to others? Or am I just crazy? Wait! I am crazy...so stick to the other questions. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 19, 2011 6:30 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidIt's one thing to simply want sex from someone because you're horny.

    It makes me feel like shit if someone turns me down for a date yet wants to just screw me. I try to avoid that if at all possible. Guys (or maybe I should say boys) love to play their fucking games.


    I agree about feeling bad. But yet for one situation in particular I was so attracted to the guy I let my dick overrule my head and decided to go mess around with him even though he turned me down for a date a few months previous. I guess he knew I was an easy target.

    Again I have been guilty of both so I am not innocent of all charges. icon_sad.gif
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    Dec 19, 2011 2:12 PM GMT
    sex ≠ love

    If it did, we'd all be screwing our mothers.
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    Dec 19, 2011 2:16 PM GMT
    Well, there's some guys who fuck everything that moves, so I would never date em, but I have slept with them.
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    Dec 19, 2011 3:28 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidI think the difference is people I want to hookup with only have a physical intimacy with me. A person I'd want to date can have a physical intimacy, but has to share an emotional intimacy with me.


    Not just well worded but what you said is one of the misplaced keys to elusive happiness.
  • jackthejock

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    Dec 19, 2011 6:52 PM GMT
    I really don't feel comfortable hooking up with people I don't have any interest in dating. But there has been a guy or two in my past that I've hooked up with and dated casually knowing we'd never have a long term future. I just think sex is better with somebody after you've done it a few times and gotten to known one another's bodies.
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    Dec 19, 2011 6:58 PM GMT
    Some guys you want to screw, some guys you want to love. You're lucky if you find both attractions in the same guy and he reciprocates. It's not often the case. Human nature.
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    Dec 19, 2011 7:01 PM GMT
    princeofnash said Can it just be chalked up to being horny? Is it an ego thing that we/they think they can do better than them in a relationship? Have any of you had this happen or do it to others?


    I don't think it's so uncommon that most guys probably know several guys that they would hookup with but just not feel they were "relationship" material. I don't think it's so much a matter of being an "ego thing" that we can "do better" as it is that the chemistry just isn't there 100% in terms of being "relationship material". We can have physical chemistry with someone, but not necessarily have intellectual chemistry with them. That's just the way it works out sometimes.