I'm 20 and still never had a BF

  • briggscar

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    Dec 19, 2011 11:34 PM GMT
    I'm just wondering... Am I the only that never had a bf when they were 20? To add to that, I've actually never done anything I consider very intimate with anyone and it prevents me from doing so because I want that first intimate moment with someone special.
    Or I'm just being paranoid? It's just... lately, I've been thinking a lot about being in a relationship but I don't know how this whole thing works. Finding a guy is hard, especially if the odds are not on your side. Any advice from people here?
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    Dec 19, 2011 11:37 PM GMT
    I'll be 23 in February and never had a boyfriend, wouldn't worry about it too much, you've got all the time in the world.
  • lykewise

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    Dec 19, 2011 11:45 PM GMT
    I'm in the exact same situation.
    Being 20, never done anything because I want a more special person.
    I never had the urge to have a boyfriend until recently...
    So I'm the same as you.

    It is natural that you want to find someone, I think I might have to start dating... but how...
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    Dec 19, 2011 11:47 PM GMT
    I didn't have sex til I was 22... There's no need to be in a rush for a boyfriend.
  • Adam00

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    Dec 20, 2011 1:04 AM GMT
    you are still so young,,,,, my first boyfriend i got him when i was 22,,,do not be rush
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    Dec 20, 2011 1:20 AM GMT
    briggscar saidI'm just wondering... Am I the only that never had a bf when they were 20? To add to that, I've actually never done anything I consider very intimate with anyone and it prevents me from doing so because I want that first intimate moment with someone special.
    Or I'm just being paranoid? It's just... lately, I've been thinking a lot about being in a relationship but I don't know how this whole thing works. Finding a guy is hard, especially if the odds are not on your side. Any advice from people here?


    I was (am) a late bloomer and slow mover. First BF (and sex) at 22. That was on-and-off for a decade and so far he's the only BF (i'm currently taken with someone but I think he doesnt see me that way). I'd made out with a few guys (and some girls) before that but not until college. I was focused on sports and schoolwork and my teenage angst before that. Don't sweat it. When the time is right, it will fall in your lap and seem just right...at least thats how it was for me.
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    Dec 20, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    I'm 26 and I haven't either. I've been out since I was 18. Don't rush it. When it is right - it is right.

    Don't settle. When you find what you are looking for you will know it. Until then: keep searching.
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    Dec 20, 2011 2:20 AM GMT
    Yeah I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 25. And I'm 32 now and I haven't been with a guy in quite sometime. I can feel the cobwebs.
  • Trepeat

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    Dec 20, 2011 2:48 AM GMT
    I had the same feelings as you, OP. Thought there was something wrong with me to have reached 19 without having had anything resmembling a relationship with a guy. Eventually my horniness got the better of me and I settled for making my first experience a hookup with some random guy. Was about as far from being a "special first time" as one can get. That said, I don't regret it, and it got me out of what was a very narrow, limiting mindset regarding men and dating and sex. Met some really great guys as a result of getting out of my own, self-imposeed boundaries and stopping waiting around for "love to find me". Wanting to make your first experience with a guy special definitely respectable and valid, but that said, don't think that that there's really a wrong way to enter the world of gay dating and sex. Sometimes you don't know what you're missing out on by holding out for something you actually can't envision or predict.
  • DR2K

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    Dec 20, 2011 4:25 AM GMT
    No need to rush it. I didn't have sex till I was almost 24. icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 20, 2011 5:16 AM GMT
    meh...many college aged kids dont want to date. Don't worry about it. Right guy comes around, great...if not..dont sweat it.

    Have fun icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 20, 2011 5:40 AM GMT
    I've only dated a couple times, but I've got time icon_razz.gif
    20 is still really young buddy, so don't worry about it. But to be honest, I get the boyfriend cravings to...just like now icon_sad.gif
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    Dec 20, 2011 5:41 AM GMT
    ill be 22 in January and i never had a boyfriend, its no big deal
  • waccamatt

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    Dec 20, 2011 5:43 AM GMT
    I didn't find my first boyfriend until I was 21 so you'll meet a guy. Don't settle!
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    Dec 20, 2011 5:44 AM GMT
    Don't rush. Wait until you're ready. Make sure it's the right time for you. What everyone else said. Good luck. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 20, 2011 5:46 AM GMT
    I'm 21 and I just started dating November this year.
    My FIRST relationship ever.

    I never thought it was weird. I just knew I wasn't ready, so I waited until I was. Simple as that.
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    Dec 20, 2011 5:46 AM GMT
    i am 22 and i still havent gt a BF yet. icon_neutral.gif
  • Obese

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    Dec 20, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
    I'm 21 and never have.. although I guess I've never really wanted one either. Live it up you're young.
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    Dec 20, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
    Don't feel so bad, I'm 24 and never had one, not looking either, but don't go looking, let it come to you.
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    Dec 20, 2011 5:56 AM GMT
    Didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 31 - somehow I don't think my wife would have understood.
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    Dec 20, 2011 5:57 AM GMT
    Talk to me when you're 30 icon_confused.gif
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    Dec 20, 2011 6:03 AM GMT
    I'm 25 and I still haven't had a BF yet. Although I would like one and be in a meaningful relationship, I realize that I'm still young and still have plenty of time to meet and get to know someone.

    You, my friend, have nothing to worry about.
  • Diceroll

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    Dec 20, 2011 6:09 AM GMT
    I was about 21 when I met my first boyfriend so I wouldn't worry. Take your time.
  • calibro

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    Dec 20, 2011 6:10 AM GMT
    complaining about it helps
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    Dec 20, 2011 6:12 AM GMT
    first relationship with anyone was at 24. worked out for me. Your mileage may vary, but upperclassmen years are a good time to start.