I'm starting to believe that having sex 1st isn't such a bad idea..but why???

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    Dec 20, 2011 12:13 AM GMT
    Last week I met up with a guy in another state, who knew I was just visiting for a day or 2. I just wanted to hookup and kill time with someone, so we went ahead and met up at his place.

    I didn't really have any expectations, in fact I felt kind of unattractive because my hair wasn't cut to my specifications. But nonetheless, I met anyway. The dude was pretty fucking hot. He had nice little muskles, 8 pack, and a cute little ass. And mixed with something exotic. And he was in the military so you already know...

    Anyway, after chatting for a few minutes on the couch, we went to the room and I banged his ass out for like an hour...He was still 'experimenting' with dudes so he was a bit nervous. But he also told me at the start that he wasn't the kissing type. But while we were doing it, he actually made out with me!

    Then after that, we went to lunch and a movie and spent the afternoon/evening together. Kind of weird for a 1st date, but the chemistry was just there and we had fun. Although he ended up telling me later on he was dating a guy, I didn't care cause I was just there having fun myself.

    But it's like damn...sometimes guys act like they don't want to meet for movies or lunch or anything if you suggest that first. But then after they get the cock, they all of a sudden want to do ALL these things with you?

    2 months ago I had a similar scenario. Just was meeting a guy for fun...but then we ended up liking each other and started hanging out. The guy I've been dating for the past 4 months...we met as a hookup, but then we realized we liked each other's company too.

    Not to say that I will do this with everyone, as generally the ones who can't seem to hold much of a conversation usually get flushed.
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    Dec 20, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
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  • Trepeat

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    Dec 20, 2011 3:00 AM GMT
    You pay more attention the movie if you're not just thinking about how hard you're gonna fuck him after it's over. icon_wink.gif

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    Dec 20, 2011 8:33 AM GMT
    Trepeat saidYou pay more attention the movie if you're not just thinking about how hard you're gonna fuck him after it's over. icon_wink.gif



    shit, I used to suck my man's dick right there in the movie...back in the days when I was in high school. we did some crazy shit...like take pics in the booth at the movies of each other sucking each other off. Funny enough, they ended up shutting down the photo booth a few weeks later LOL.
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    Dec 20, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
    He was dating someone but he still let you bang him?
    I guess it was an open relationship??
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    Dec 20, 2011 7:51 PM GMT
    waimea saidHe was dating someone but he still let you bang him?
    I guess it was an open relationship??

    uh oh, loaded question.

    Some people think, that in the 'dating' stage of a relationship they are still free to have dates with other people. You obviously think they shouldn't. Whatever your stance on this issue is, discuss it with your date and see whether he agrees to the terms.

    To the OP. Sex on the first date just is, it is neither good nor bad. My man and I met in an anonymous encounter at a beach and have been together 18+ years. If you are happy to have sex on the first date, you will probably be happiest with someone who feels the same. Conversely, if you need to really get to know someone before having sex, a like-minded guy will probably be your best bet.

    And may guys have the wisdom to know which type they are. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 20, 2011 8:31 PM GMT
    I had sex with my current boyfriend te very first day we met. I was visiting Toronto and we met as a hook up through Grindr. We had sex by the "beach" and we had crazy chemistry. I went back to Montreal I tried to date a guy there who turned out to be an ass so we stopped seeing each other. I moved back to Toronto for work and texted the guy who's now my bf, I met his family, he met my dad, we moved in together a month later and here we are...it's been 1 year and a half now, we are going to Cuba soon do he can meet my mom and then we are going to Portugal so I can see the town where his parents grew up.

    Sex in a first date worked just fine
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    Dec 20, 2011 8:45 PM GMT
    My first boyfriend and I met online, and talked on the phone every night for a month before he moved nearby me. Then we went on a few dates (with sex). Then we decided to be exclusive. It was a natural progression.

    My second boyfriend and I went on a first date at McDonald's. We had mind-blowing chemistry and a few shared interests (gaming the largest). we didn't have sex until date number 2 though. He is still the best sex I've ever had in my life.

    I think a lot of gay men conflate "masculinity" with "emotional distance." Hence the avoidance of any kind of intimacy with someone they are trying to impress.
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    Dec 20, 2011 8:53 PM GMT
    Sex is an important part of a lot of men's relationships, so I agree that often it's best to just do it.