Hook up into something more

  • NewYoungGuy

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    Dec 20, 2011 6:47 PM GMT
    So about a month and a half ago I met this guy online for a NSA hookup. Since then we have met up about 5 more times. The more we hang out the more I start to like him. He's super hot, funny, and we have a lot in common. I've never felt this way about anyone before and want to tell him how I feel, but I'm worried that if he doesn't feel the same way it might scare him away and he might want to end things completely. When we're together I try and drop hints and let him know that I like more than just the sex with him but idk how to read him. There is also a 12 year age difference between us (him being older obviously) and even though I know he likes younger guys, I don't know how he feels about dating them. I'm just looking for some advice on the best way to go about this. Should I kinda just let it naturally evolve and see what happens or should I be a little more direct about it? I was thinking of suggesting hanging out outside of his apartment and going from there. I'm afraid if I'm too direct he won't want to see me anymore because when we first met we both said we wanted something casual.

    Kinda a big first post but I hope someone can help me out. Thanks
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    Dec 20, 2011 7:04 PM GMT
    Nothing wrong with a hookup turning into something more. My bf and I hooked up eight years ago, NSA was the deal, and we've been together ever since.

    I think you should put the ball in his court and tell him that you're having a great time and are happy to keep meeting him (assuming you are) but that you're open for hanging out more than that if he's into it. If he says he wants to keep it casual, nothing lost. But if he wants more and neither of you say anything, you've definitely lost out. Worth the risk, yes?
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    Dec 20, 2011 8:18 PM GMT
    I'd just be upfront with him. Why don't you try hanging with him. Suggest you both cuddle/watch a movie. Maybe that will get the point to him that you like him a little more?
  • tuffguyndc

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    Dec 20, 2011 8:55 PM GMT
    NewYoungGuy saidSo about a month and a half ago I met this guy online for a NSA hookup. Since then we have met up about 5 more times. The more we hang out the more I start to like him. He's super hot, funny, and we have a lot in common. I've never felt this way about anyone before and want to tell him how I feel, but I'm worried that if he doesn't feel the same way it might scare him away and he might want to end things completely. When we're together I try and drop hints and let him know that I like more than just the sex with him but idk how to read him. There is also a 12 year age difference between us (him being older obviously) and even though I know he likes younger guys, I don't know how he feels about dating them. I'm just looking for some advice on the best way to go about this. Should I kinda just let it naturally evolve and see what happens or should I be a little more direct about it? I was thinking of suggesting hanging out outside of his apartment and going from there. I'm afraid if I'm too direct he won't want to see me anymore because when we first met we both said we wanted something casual.

    Kinda a big first post but I hope someone can help me out. Thanks
    I say talk to him and see where he stands. However, you probably will need to find out how he feels about you? I mean if you two have been together for a month and only hung out 5 times. I think you should give a little while longer before talking with him
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    Dec 20, 2011 9:12 PM GMT
    Rope, chain, and handcuffs...that's how to turn a hookup into something "more." icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 20, 2011 10:43 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidRope, chain, and handcuffs...that's how to turn a hookup into something "more." icon_biggrin.gif


    you forgot the gag
  • leojock1985

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    Dec 20, 2011 11:41 PM GMT
    go for it kid!!! and if he doesn't have it.. move on!! there are plenty of guys out there and so little time to be wasted pondering about one guy!! icon_smile.gif learn that now and you will be made!!