So I just had this argument with a group of friends...

  • TallguyNLA

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    Dec 21, 2011 6:25 AM GMT
    what do you think is the appropriate age to get married and or settle down and why?
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:30 AM GMT
    Over the age of 21, because most people under that age are retarded.
  • TallguyNLA

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    Dec 21, 2011 6:34 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said73

    C'mon now....be realistic!
    Im very interested in a serious response......
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:34 AM GMT
    Uh well, in my case, I think there's more to life than getting married. At least, in this point in my life, I have no interest in getting married anytime soon.

    Obviously it's going to differ significantly between straight couples and gay couples. For one thing, straight couples can get married everywhere. Secondly, they have to keep kids in mind if they want to have them. The longer they wait to have them, the harder it is to succeed. Quite a few couples over 30 can face some challenges trying to have children that normally wouldn't happen at a younger age. A 38-year-old broad isn't going to get knocked up as easily as an 18-year-old.

    Gay couples may not have kids at all. They might adopt kids. They might have kids through a surrogate. They might have puppies or kittens instead. Hence, they can afford to wait longer to establish a family.
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:35 AM GMT
    You actually had an argument about this?

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  • TallguyNLA

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    Dec 21, 2011 6:38 AM GMT
    doubleyou said
    TallguyNLA saidwhat do you think is the appropriate age to get married and or settle down and why?


    It varies, but I think, since society encourages a certain amount of silliness in youth, that any time after 35 would be best, since you're past your prime at that age, "wild oats" have usually be sown, and you're generally ready to begin settling down, if not for love, then for security.

    But none of this really applies to gay men and their lives and relationships.

    OK....
    good answer, BUT
    Im not just speaking about gay society. I mean everyone.
  • TallguyNLA

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    Dec 21, 2011 6:40 AM GMT
    Trollileo saidIt was the best of times. It was the worst of times.

    There is no best time or age to get married. Just like getting knocked up.

    well there are some people who are still "old fashioned" and there's nothing wrong with that....I know ts not the 1920's and 30's but some people still do fall in love, and want a marriage.
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:41 AM GMT
    Claystation saidYou actually had an argument about this?

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    it wasn't a knock down drag out fight, but I think we all had some very strong points!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:41 AM GMT
    TallguyNLA said
    Trollileo saidIt was the best of times. It was the worst of times.

    There is no best time or age to get married. Just like getting knocked up.

    well there are some people who are still "old fashioned" and there's nothing wrong with that....I know ts not the 1920's and 30's but some people still do fall in love, and want a marriage.


    Back then it wasn't uncommon for people to get married in their teens. In fact, I'm sure many women were thought of as losers if they didn't get married and have the first kid by 18.
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:42 AM GMT
    TallguyNLA said
    it wasn't a knock down drag out fight, but I think we all had some very strong points!icon_biggrin.gif


    icon_confused.gif strong points? Splain Lucy.
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:43 AM GMT
    doubleyou saidBut none of this really applies to gay men and their lives and relationships.
    Why doesn't it apply to gay men? Do they not have gay marriage where you live?
    Oh right, I forgot that only countries worth living in had that.
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:47 AM GMT
    TallguyNLA saidwhat do you think is the appropriate age to get married and or settle down and why?


    Whenever you're mature enough...hmm I'm not sure if maturity starts at a certain age...icon_confused.gif
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:48 AM GMT
    I heard something on the news recently. Something like there are more single people over 30 now than before. So apparently more and more people are delaying marriage or don't consider it a high priority.
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:49 AM GMT
    BlackCat90 said
    TallguyNLA saidwhat do you think is the appropriate age to get married and or settle down and why?


    Whenever you're mature enough...hmm I'm not sure if maturity starts at a certain age...icon_confused.gif


    Uh well, it's 18 in most states or 16 with parental or guardian consent.
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:52 AM GMT
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    BlackCat90 said
    TallguyNLA saidwhat do you think is the appropriate age to get married and or settle down and why?


    Whenever you're mature enough...hmm I'm not sure if maturity starts at a certain age...icon_confused.gif


    Uh well, it's 18 in most states or 16 with parental or guardian consent.


    lol you know damn well that's not what I mean icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:54 AM GMT
    LOL a lot of old fashioned women think the younger, the better. My mom got married at 16 and had my brother at 18. Although that wasn't too strange for Hispanic women in the 1970s. Meanwhile my grandmother got married at 12 and had her first kid at 15! icon_eek.gif
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    doubleyou said
    AnduruWhy doesn't it apply to gay men? Do they not have gay marriage where you live?
    They had marriage equality where I live and will probably have it again soon.
    So why doesn't it apply to gay men?
    doubleyou said
    AnduruOh right, I forgot that only countries worth living in had that.
    What is this supposed to mean? Are you trying to be funny? I hope so.
    Are you patriotic? icon_lol.gif If so, then I wasn't joking. America fucking sucks.
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    Dec 21, 2011 7:28 AM GMT
    doubleyou said
    Anduru said
    doubleyou said
    AnduruWhy doesn't it apply to gay men? Do they not have gay marriage where you live?
    They had marriage equality where I live and will probably have it again soon.
    So why doesn't it apply to gay men?
    doubleyou said
    AnduruOh right, I forgot that only countries worth living in had that.
    What is this supposed to mean? Are you trying to be funny? I hope so.
    Are you patriotic? icon_lol.gif If so, then I wasn't joking. America fucking sucks.
    To most of the country, L.A. (and California) isn't considered part of America. It's considered its own nation.
    So like how Quebec isn't really part of Canada?
  • TallguyNLA

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    Dec 21, 2011 8:50 AM GMT
    Claystation said
    TallguyNLA said
    it wasn't a knock down drag out fight, but I think we all had some very strong points!icon_biggrin.gif


    icon_confused.gif strong points? Splain Lucy.

    well...
    I think that many men and women are afraid of losing someone to someone else, so the question of marriage is in the back of their mind....BUT many people have commitment issues, so marrying is out of the question...
    Some people will go as far as proposing to someone because they either think its the right thing to do, its what they think the other person wants them to do, or because they think its "the right thing to do."
    I think the "heated discussion started when I brought up the fact that our society wants everything and nothing at all all at the same time! we want to be in a "relationship" BUT still have the same behaviors of someone who s "single."
    We want someone who will be there for us ( for selfish reasons) BUT we want our own space in the blink of an eye.
    We want someone who gives us attention, BUT "cant stand" someone who wants the same!
    Lots of people get married, move in together, buy things on each others credit, and then break up, split up, or divorce for whatever reason and then want the other person to pay for BOTH OF their bad decisions all withing 6 months!
    My point was that maybe their should be a designated age frame to really make that kind of commitment to another person....
  • TallguyNLA

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    Dec 21, 2011 8:55 AM GMT
    xrichx saidI heard something on the news recently. Something like there are more single people over 30 now than before. So apparently more and more people are delaying marriage or don't consider it a high priority.

    in this day and age we hear quite a bit about people liking the idea of a wedding, but NOT marriage....its almost as if the divorce costs considerably MORE than the wedding itself! I mean, look at the HUGE MESS the Kardashian clan is stirring up! She has even gone as far as saying that he is gay or has witnessed tendencies....
    what a JOKE!
    She's in her 30's and I dont think she is marriage material!
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    Dec 21, 2011 2:59 PM GMT
    Whenever you feel it's the right time .
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    Dec 21, 2011 3:03 PM GMT
    Depends on the person, but in my opinion, your 20s are for having fun and figuring yourself out, and your 30s are for finding someone who has done the same thing, and is ready to settle down (a bit). Worked for me!
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    Dec 21, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    TallguyNLA saidwhat do you think is the appropriate age to get married and or settle down and why?



    Here's my take:
    Any age that's considered legal. Why? Because it has nothing to do with the ages of those involved, but everything to do with the maturity of their relationship. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Dec 21, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    mid-to-late 30's unless you have already been together a really long time. I think the 20's should be enjoyed being free to do whatever. However, ultimately it comes down to the two people involved, their maturity level, where they are in their careers, family plans for future, etc.
  • RxWillie

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    Dec 21, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    if you are considering marrying a woman and having kids, this is a point one should consider. According to a recent article in the New York Times- Science section, a females fertility rate for a woman in her 30's is only 40% if she is in her 40's its only 10%. So if you are planning on having children its best to marry in your mid to late 20's or marry a woman who is in her 20's, if you don't want to have to adopt to have children.