Am I Nuts?

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    Dec 21, 2011 3:01 PM GMT
    But it seems like the moment I am over one guy.. my brain IMMEDIATELY starts obsessing about someone else... it's as if my brain has been hardwired to have a guy on my mind all the time... and the moment there isn't anyone on it... it just gets filled back up automatically with someone .... I might not even have a realistic chance with whatever person is in my head... but I have to have someone in my head ... Is this just me or is this common?


    edit: just to clarify: I have no need to be with someone at all... I dont feel like Im missing anything.... I am perfectly fine... what Im saying is theres always somebody on my mind that I feel butterflies for....
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    Dec 21, 2011 4:59 PM GMT
    Did this happen after a bad relationship. Sometimes if you have a bad relationship and don't get closure you develop bad habits like that.
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    Dec 21, 2011 5:01 PM GMT
    Yes, you are nuts.
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    Dec 21, 2011 5:01 PM GMT
    That's fairly common.

    Whether or not it's healthy is a different issue (I don't know) but I know several people who do something similar icon_smile.gif.
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    Dec 21, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    It sounds like codependency and it can be a bad thing depending on how it affects you. There's a great book you might want to check out...

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    Dec 21, 2011 5:47 PM GMT
    Is it me? Oh stop! *blush* icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 21, 2011 5:59 PM GMT
    I used to do that, too. Now I focus on goals and once I've met a goal I start working on another one. It's made a huge difference.
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:00 PM GMT
    Pretty similar to me OP. It would be nice to just turn it off when it gets in the way.
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:10 PM GMT
    GreenHopper saidBut it seems like the moment I am over one guy.. my brain IMMEDIATELY starts obsessing about someone else... it's as if my brain has been hardwired to have a guy on my mind all the time... and the moment there isn't anyone on it... it just gets filled back up automatically with someone .... I might not even have a realistic chance with whatever person is in my head... but I have to have someone in my head ... Is this just me or is this common?
    Its you buddy, and i am being serious. i think you should get you a shrink to see why you feel the need to be with someone all the time
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    Dec 21, 2011 6:11 PM GMT
    Story of my life.

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    Dec 21, 2011 6:14 PM GMT
    I see it as common for any sex but usually in my profession there is a deeper need for that fulfillment. Many times it is codependency built from childhood stages, insecurity, sexual fulfillment, or even tendencies of ADD and needing to be stimulated.

    Many times it can be overcome by coming to terms with your inner self and building a sense of self that can operate and function without any said stimulus.

    But you are not crazy, adorable, but not crazy///
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    Dec 21, 2011 7:57 PM GMT
    imasrxd saidIt sounds like codependency and it can be a bad thing depending on how it affects you. There's a great book you might want to check out...

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    lol no, I dont actually have a relationship of any type.. its just that I never seem to be without an object to crush on....
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    Dec 21, 2011 7:58 PM GMT
    rioriz said

    But you are not crazy, adorable, but not crazy///
    Nuts, but adorable LOLicon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Dec 21, 2011 8:01 PM GMT
    rioriz saidI see it as common for any sex but usually in my profession there is a deeper need for that fulfillment. Many times it is codependency built from childhood stages, insecurity, sexual fulfillment, or even tendencies of ADD and needing to be stimulated.

    Many times it can be overcome by coming to terms with your inner self and building a sense of self that can operate and function without any said stimulus.

    But you are not crazy, adorable, but not crazy///


    But thats the whole thing... I dont actually feel I need anyone to complete me... i definitely have no issues with a lack of self at all lol... in fact, I am usually happier on my own then whenever I do decide to try to date someone haha
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    Dec 21, 2011 8:03 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    GreenHopper saidBut it seems like the moment I am over one guy.. my brain IMMEDIATELY starts obsessing about someone else... it's as if my brain has been hardwired to have a guy on my mind all the time... and the moment there isn't anyone on it... it just gets filled back up automatically with someone .... I might not even have a realistic chance with whatever person is in my head... but I have to have someone in my head ... Is this just me or is this common?
    Its you buddy, and i am being serious. i think you should get you a shrink to see why you feel the need to be with someone all the time


    But thats the whole thing... I dont need to be with someone at all.. my brain is just thinking about guys every ten minutes... Of course I already saw a shrink lol... she said I was normal
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    Dec 21, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    Time for additional hobbies, it seems.
  • daveindenver

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    Dec 21, 2011 8:08 PM GMT
    You're a nutball, no question
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    Dec 21, 2011 8:08 PM GMT
    RunintheCity saidTime for additional hobbies, it seems.


    hunny, Ive got plenty to do, I dont even have time to go out... the butterflies however, seem to stay
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    Dec 21, 2011 8:09 PM GMT
    RunintheCity saidTime for additional hobbies, it seems.


    hunny, Ive got plenty to do, I dont even have time to go out... the butterflies however, seem to stay
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    Dec 21, 2011 8:11 PM GMT
    Larkin saidThat's fairly common.

    Whether or not it's healthy is a different issue (I don't know) but I know several people who do something similar icon_smile.gif.


    Healthy schmealthy... the only time when something is unhealthy is if it clinically impairs your normal functioning (Im a psychologist).. like gets in the way of work or eating.. say, for instance, after a bad break-up or a heart-ache... Ive had those in the past... with this there is no such problem... It doesnt change how I function....
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    Dec 21, 2011 8:15 PM GMT
    rioriz saidI see it as common for any sex but usually in my profession there is a deeper need for that fulfillment. Many times it is codependency built from childhood stages, insecurity, sexual fulfillment, or even tendencies of ADD and needing to be stimulated.

    Many times it can be overcome by coming to terms with your inner self and building a sense of self that can operate and function without any said stimulus.
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    BTW whats your profession?
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    Dec 21, 2011 8:19 PM GMT
    GreenHopper saidBut it seems like the moment I am over one guy.. my brain IMMEDIATELY starts obsessing about someone else... it's as if my brain has been hardwired to have a guy on my mind all the time... and the moment there isn't anyone on it... it just gets filled back up automatically with someone .... I might not even have a realistic chance with whatever person is in my head... but I have to have someone in my head ... Is this just me or is this common?


    edit: just to clarify: I have no need to be with someone at all... I dont feel like Im missing anything.... I am perfectly fine... what Im saying is theres always somebody on my mind that I feel butterflies for....


    You posted this question, and are rejecting every single suggestion made. You are trying to refute all the opinions of you having an issue.

    The first step to solving an issue is recognizing that you have one.
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    Dec 21, 2011 8:20 PM GMT
    Fishfriend saidIs it me? Oh stop! *blush* icon_biggrin.gif


    Hmm, I guess you could become the next one, once Im over the current one lol icon_biggrin.gificon_wink.gif
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    Dec 21, 2011 8:24 PM GMT
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    GreenHopper saidBut it seems like the moment I am over one guy.. my brain IMMEDIATELY starts obsessing about someone else... it's as if my brain has been hardwired to have a guy on my mind all the time... and the moment there isn't anyone on it... it just gets filled back up automatically with someone .... I might not even have a realistic chance with whatever person is in my head... but I have to have someone in my head ... Is this just me or is this common?


    edit: just to clarify: I have no need to be with someone at all... I dont feel like Im missing anything.... I am perfectly fine... what Im saying is theres always somebody on my mind that I feel butterflies for....


    You posted this question, and are rejecting every single suggestion made. You are trying to refute all the opinions of you having an issue.

    The first step to solving an issue is recognizing that you have one.


    Ok fine, have it your way.. I have an issue with this that is subconsious.. it has no effect on me in normal day-to-day living.. it doesnt make my relationships, friendshps or work any harder... but I cant stop gushing like a schoolgirl over some guy.... ok.. I have an issue.... apparently im guy-crazy lol... what do I do?
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    Dec 21, 2011 8:25 PM GMT
    How often does the obsession last? Two months? Two weeks? Two days?

    And are there periods when you do not have any kind of obsession at all?