going to the club by yourself

  • dantheman88

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    Dec 22, 2011 12:02 AM GMT
    Alright guys so im in the process of coming out of the closet and lacking gay friends. I just finished my exams and really eager to party..and not really at a str8 club or bar with my close friends.Ive never been to a club str8 or gay alone..what do you guys think about going solo? have any of you done it? should I just control the craving to party in order not to look like a loner or loser? lol
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    Dec 22, 2011 12:17 AM GMT
    dantheman88 saidAlright guys so im in the process of coming out of the closet and lacking gay friends. I just finished my exams and really eager to party..and not really at a str8 club or bar with my close friends.Ive never been to a club str8 or gay alone..what do you guys think about going solo? have any of you done it? should I just control the craving to party in order not to look like a loner or loser? lol


    Same here! Been to two clubs (straight) with my friends( who are all straight)
    but never to a gay one. I really need to find some Homos to hang out with.
    I don't think I could fly solo I guess I'm too much of a pussy. icon_sad.gif
  • funkymonkey

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    Dec 22, 2011 12:41 AM GMT
    you've been to two clubs..... last night; this week; please don't say ever!
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    Dec 22, 2011 1:01 AM GMT
    dantheman88 saidAlright guys so im in the process of coming out of the closet and lacking gay friends. I just finished my exams and really eager to party..and not really at a str8 club or bar with my close friends.Ive never been to a club str8 or gay alone..what do you guys think about going solo? have any of you done it? should I just control the craving to party in order not to look like a loner or loser? lol


    I tried it before. What a semi-mistake:
    -There was a group of ghetto queens that were making fun of me while I was in line by myself and texting my friend. Knowing my classy self, I ignored the bitches and didn't let them get to me. icon_wink.gif
    -While I was dancing inside, some guy came up to me and asked me "if I was there by myself." He kept me company and we kinda grinded. icon_redface.gif lol We had fun! icon_smile.gif

    It's up to you tho! I'd rather take a most trusted friend with me than go by myself again. But don't let anyone make you feel bad if you really want to go and you're by yourself icon_biggrin.gif
  • dantheman88

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    Dec 22, 2011 1:06 AM GMT
    JustThisOnce said
    dantheman88 saidAlright guys so im in the process of coming out of the closet and lacking gay friends. I just finished my exams and really eager to party..and not really at a str8 club or bar with my close friends.Ive never been to a club str8 or gay alone..what do you guys think about going solo? have any of you done it? should I just control the craving to party in order not to look like a loner or loser? lol


    Take me with you! Where do u live?


    im in toronto..yea man lets do it1! lol
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    Dec 22, 2011 1:36 AM GMT
    give it a try, you have nothing to lose...I've gone alone and after a few times you make friends, you get hit on, it's all cool. some nights they're hopping, some nights they're dead, so go more than once. good luck.
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    Dec 22, 2011 2:16 AM GMT
    dantheman88 said
    JustThisOnce said
    dantheman88 saidAlright guys so im in the process of coming out of the closet and lacking gay friends. I just finished my exams and really eager to party..and not really at a str8 club or bar with my close friends.Ive never been to a club str8 or gay alone..what do you guys think about going solo? have any of you done it? should I just control the craving to party in order not to look like a loner or loser? lol


    Take me with you! Where do u live?


    im in toronto..yea man lets do it1! lol


    can I come too doppleganger icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 22, 2011 2:20 AM GMT
    I REALLY recommend going with friends. I went to a gay club in Jacksonville alone once. I met some straight girls that I hung out with for a while, but aside from that, I felt terribly awkward and I really should have just left when they did. I danced with no one and left feeling like crap. Friends just make it better.
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    Dec 22, 2011 2:22 AM GMT
    dantheman88 said..what do you guys think about going solo? have any of you done it?
    That's how I prefer to go...much easier to pick up guys and/or make new friends. In fact, that's how I met most boyfriends I've had.
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    Dec 22, 2011 2:24 AM GMT
    I don't ever go alone to the clubs. Even though I know better, Minneapolis can be pretty creepy at night. (that and I live with my rents, so I don't go alone because I don't want to lie and I don't want to give them night terrors) However, whenever I go with my posse, it looks like I'm there with my friend(s), who look like my girlfriend(s)...
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    Dec 22, 2011 2:25 AM GMT
    Go with friends, go alone. I was in Toronto last month for the first time and went out. Had fun and met some people. You gotta jump in the pool to swim.
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    Dec 22, 2011 2:47 AM GMT
    JustThisOnce said
    DAN_THE_MAN said
    dantheman88 said
    JustThisOnce said
    dantheman88 saidAlright guys so im in the process of coming out of the closet and lacking gay friends. I just finished my exams and really eager to party..and not really at a str8 club or bar with my close friends.Ive never been to a club str8 or gay alone..what do you guys think about going solo? have any of you done it? should I just control the craving to party in order not to look like a loner or loser? lol


    Take me with you! Where do u live?


    im in toronto..yea man lets do it1! lol


    can I come too doppleganger icon_razz.gif


    he is going today icon_sad.gif

    we should plan a toronto get together


    i would totally go icon_smile.gif
  • dantheman88

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    Dec 22, 2011 2:49 AM GMT
    alright, thanks a lot guys..I think im going..whatever happens happens lol. Ill let you guys know how my night went.
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    Dec 22, 2011 2:50 AM GMT
    I was planning to go by myself when I turn 21 in March. -_-!

    What's wrong with going alone?
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    Dec 22, 2011 2:51 AM GMT
    dantheman88 saidalright, thanks a lot guys..I think im going..whatever happens happens lol. Ill let you guys know how my night went.


    where are you going on a wednesday night?
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    Dec 22, 2011 3:04 AM GMT
    Dude, please don't go on ur own !

    Build a rapport with someone you'll be able to trust and then take that person with you who has some experience.

    Clubs can be fun, but can also be quiet dangerous for the naive & trusting.

    Even if people say chicks should go out in groups of friends for safety, it's no different for gay guys!

    Had my drink spiked b4 and it's not fun I can tell you that!

    Going alone for the first time can be not only lonely but also kinda scary if you don't have back up watching over you. Most people just want to go out and have fun, but be aware of those who have different agendas!

    Don't take your eyes of your drink, (even turning away in the presence of company) and don't get wasted first time. Get some street sense up firstly and don't go home with someone. Get their number instead !

    Hope this helps
  • dantheman88

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    Dec 22, 2011 3:08 AM GMT
    DAN_THE_MAN said
    dantheman88 saidalright, thanks a lot guys..I think im going..whatever happens happens lol. Ill let you guys know how my night went.


    where are you going on a wednesday night?


    im going to the barn
  • mizu5

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    Dec 22, 2011 3:08 AM GMT
    gaythlete saidDude, please don't go on ur own !

    Build a rapport with someone you'll be able to trust and then take that person with you who has some experience.

    Clubs can be fun, but can also be quiet dangerous for the naive & trusting.

    Even if people say chicks should go out in groups of friends for safety, it's no different for gay guys!

    Had my drink spiked b4 and it's not fun I can tell you that!

    Going alone for the first time can be not only lonely but also kinda scary if you don't have back up watching over you. Most people just want to go out and have fun, but be aware of those who have different agendas!

    Never leave a drink unattended and don't go home with someone. Get their number instead !

    Hope this helps
    Just don't leave your drink alone? Why would ANYONE do that?
  • brendanmuscle...

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    Dec 22, 2011 3:20 AM GMT
    I usually go out by myself but sometimes with a friend. I dont see anything wrong with it
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    Dec 22, 2011 3:29 AM GMT
    i prefer going out alone...
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    Dec 22, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    Give it a try and go out on your own. You meet soooo many people and have a great time. The good thing about gay clubs is that everyone is friendly and always open to making new friends.
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    Dec 22, 2011 3:31 AM GMT
    miamiguy1989 saidGive it a try and go out on your own. You meet soooo many people and have a great time. The good thing about gay clubs is that everyone is friendly and always open to making new friends.



    LIES, especially here in nyc.
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    Dec 22, 2011 3:33 AM GMT
    gaythlete saidDude, please don't go on ur own !

    Build a rapport with someone you'll be able to trust and then take that person with you who has some experience.

    Clubs can be fun, but can also be quiet dangerous for the naive & trusting.

    Even if people say chicks should go out in groups of friends for safety, it's no different for gay guys!

    Had my drink spiked b4 and it's not fun I can tell you that!

    Going alone for the first time can be not only lonely but also kinda scary if you don't have back up watching over you. Most people just want to go out and have fun, but be aware of those who have different agendas!

    Never leave a drink unattended and don't go home with someone. Get their number instead !

    Hope this helps


    Good lord, where do you go out? Bon Tompe?
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    Dec 22, 2011 3:56 AM GMT
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    gaythlete saidDude, please don't go on ur own !

    Build a rapport with someone you'll be able to trust and then take that person with you who has some experience.

    Clubs can be fun, but can also be quiet dangerous for the naive & trusting.

    Even if people say chicks should go out in groups of friends for safety, it's no different for gay guys!

    Had my drink spiked b4 and it's not fun I can tell you that!

    Going alone for the first time can be not only lonely but also kinda scary if you don't have back up watching over you. Most people just want to go out and have fun, but be aware of those who have different agendas!

    Never leave a drink unattended and don't go home with someone. Get their number instead !

    Hope this helps


    Good lord, where do you go out? Bon Tompe?


    LOL he's gonna be traumatized for life!
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    Dec 22, 2011 4:27 AM GMT
    I'll go out by myself if I'm traveling, but I always feel awkward if I go out alone in my home town. It feels like out of all the guys in this town, I couldn't rustle up one friend to accompany me. Plus, it's harder to get out of conversations with guys you're not interested in. At least if you're with a friend, you can tactfully excuse yourself.