going out with this guy need help and advice

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    Jun 14, 2008 12:39 PM GMT
    icon_wink.gificon_redface.gif ok i met Brendan in the gym a very cute guy indeed and we decided to go out on a sunday thats tomorrow, we have the whole evening to us he said anything is fine he also send me a text message saying "i enjoy your company" guys i need help do you have any idea what should we both do together-restaurants, or movies or ...... just need help i kinda like this guy and we are going out together for the first timeicon_lol.gificon_wink.gif


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    ryan
  • Timbales

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    Jun 14, 2008 1:20 PM GMT
    I'd say go to a small, quiet cafe or restaurant where you can just chat and enjoy each other's company. The other thing you could do, if the weather is nice enough for it, is make up a picnic basket or get some take-out that you can put into a basket.
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    Jun 14, 2008 1:28 PM GMT
    Isnt it tradition to eat Haggis on the first date?
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    Jun 14, 2008 3:22 PM GMT
    Since it is probably beautiful where you are, I'd suggest you meet at someone's house and walk somewhere to do something. It's not a suggested activity, but it naturally eats up time that can be awkward in a restaurant, or somewhere stationary and makes it seem like you're accomplishing more...

    Maybe? That's just my opinion.
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    Jun 14, 2008 3:31 PM GMT
    I don't think movies on a first date are that great...not that I'm the "great-dater" but, I've found the best dates have been one where we met for a drink (it doesn't have to be alcohol!) at a wine-bar, had a couple of drinks and conversation, then moved on to dinner somewhere else...first dates should be about conversation, not staring at a movie screen in silence for 2.5 hours.icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 14, 2008 3:38 PM GMT
    smalltownboy saidI don't think movies on a first date are that great...not that I'm the "great-dater" but, I've found the best dates have been one where we met for a drink (it doesn't have to be alcohol!) at a wine-bar, had a couple of drinks and conversation, then moved on to dinner somewhere else...first dates should be about conversation, not staring at a movie screen in silence for 2.5 hours.icon_wink.gif


    Agree--one of my worst "first dates" ever was going to see Schindler's List with a guy I really liked. Talk about a total mood-killer.
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    Jun 14, 2008 4:19 PM GMT
    I'd say start off with dinner. You really can't go wrong with this, especially if you go to a place where the both of you can feel comfortable being yourselves; meaning don't go to some fancy pants restaurant. That way it'll be easier to have conversations about whatever comes to mind, and you don't put yourself in a position where you might feel some sort of anxiety about what you're going to wear, what he might think of your outfit, etc.

    As for what to do after, just leave it up in the air. There isn't anything wrong with that. And if for some reason you don't like him after the date, you can always bail out, haha. But if you must have some sort of idea, then come up with several options beforehand, and discuss them over dinner.

    That's what I would do if I were in your shoes.
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    Jun 14, 2008 5:34 PM GMT
    First off, NO MOVIE!! Why would you wanna go on a 1st date just sit quiet for the next 2 hours?!?!?!?

    Full on meal? I don't think so. Keep it light, dinner is like a full commitment, go for dessert/coffee something light and fun. Be able to be in a place where you can hold a conversation.
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    Jun 14, 2008 5:37 PM GMT
    i agree with the folks before me. avoid the movie, go with the coffee, light meal, or anything that would be conducive to conversation.

    if things go well, THEN decide to see a movie, but spend a good amount of time talking and getting to know each other.
  • OptimusMatt

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    Jun 14, 2008 7:32 PM GMT
    [quote]

    Agree--one of my worst "first dates" ever was going to see Schindler's List with a guy I really liked. Talk about a total mood-killer.[/quote]


    WOW
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    haha, awesome
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    Jun 14, 2008 8:17 PM GMT
    icon_redface.gif hey guys thanks for all your advice, i will definately take him to a good cafe or a quiet and romantic restaurant (i know exactely where to go now CITATIONS its a great restaurant lit with candles on each tableicon_smile.gif no movies at all for sure. lets see how it all goes i am getting goosebumps nowicon_wink.gificon_razz.gif

    icon_razz.gif cheers
    ryan.
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    Jun 14, 2008 8:23 PM GMT
    Don't get too heavy. Pick up a couple of Subway sandwiches, chips and drinks. Hit the nearest park or waterfront. If it works, you'll know right away.
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    Jun 14, 2008 8:32 PM GMT
    RyanH2O saidicon_redface.gif hey guys thanks for all your advice, i will definately take him to a good cafe or a quiet and romantic restaurant (i know exactely where to go now CITATIONS its a great restaurant lit with candles on each tableicon_smile.gif no movies at all for sure. lets see how it all goes i am getting goosebumps nowicon_wink.gificon_razz.gif
    icon_razz.gif cheers
    ryan.


    Candles and romance are a bit much on a first date, in my opinion. The focus on a first date is conversation so that you can learn a lot about each other. If it's about jumping into bed, you don't need candles and romance for that...

    Use the KISS acronym in this event...Keep It Simple, Stupid. (No offense)
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    Jun 14, 2008 9:16 PM GMT
    I think the advice herein is good - especially those who've cautioned against going to a movie on the first date.....or to a snazzy dressy dinner.

    Make the first date casual - and add an element of adventure - like meet up, go for a hike or run, get sweaty - play some volleyball - or one on one hoops - get each other laughing - then shower up - and hit a small bistro someplace - sit in a nice corner or under some trees - have convo.

    This way you can do something fun - show some athletic ability - and then settle down with a glass of wine and a light dinner. You'll know then what to do with the rest of your evening!
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    Jun 14, 2008 9:21 PM GMT
    Anything that involves the outdoors and some athletic ability is a great first date - tennis, volleyball, bike riding, roller-blading, hiking. Save the candles for the 2nd or 3rd date for sure.
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    Jun 14, 2008 11:11 PM GMT
    icon_lol.gif sure will keep the candles (scented ones lol) for the second or third. yes conversation is important may be under a tree or a cafe lets seeicon_wink.gif i am excited, i can feel the pre cum (just kidding guys) will keep the bed time thing for later lol

    thanks for your advice againicon_redface.gif

    cheers
    ryanicon_cool.gif
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    Jun 14, 2008 11:50 PM GMT
    Have some spicy curry for dinner! icon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 14, 2008 11:59 PM GMT
    zimster saidHave some spicy curry for dinner! icon_twisted.gif


    You're horrible!!!icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 15, 2008 12:49 AM GMT
    A quiet restaurant or cafe. The emphasis is on quiet. Nothing worse then asking your date to repeat his words because you cannot hear him, or worse misunderstand what he is saying and give a response that is foolish.
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    Jun 15, 2008 1:21 AM GMT
    Generally, just have fun. Leave open a lot of space to laugh and an environment that creates positive energy. I'm not all for the "going to the movies" thing on a first date - because there's no real conversation. I agree that you might want to think about doing something mildly athletic. Perhaps you guys could go for a hike on a trail, play some volleyball, or just throw the ball around and talk. Just allow for spontaneity. JockBod has some great suggestions.
  • GQjock

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    Jun 15, 2008 2:50 AM GMT
    Yup... most of the boys are right on this one
    A movie's a bad idea on the first date because most of the time you're sitting quiet watching the Movie

    You want to try to get to know this dude

    so a quiet restaurant or a quiet "upscale" bar
    where you can sit and talk for a while is where you wanna go
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    Jun 16, 2008 5:41 PM GMT
    hey guys back from the first eveningicon_redface.gif thanks for all your advice we did go to a quiet cafe, did a little window shopping talked about our likes and dislikes, Brendan and i had fun, we are planning to go out together quiet often. in fact we will be going clubbing together this week and then again on a sunday since its our off day.icon_wink.gif

    guys if you have any more ideas for our time together please let me knowicon_cool.gif

    cheers
    ryanicon_razz.gif
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    Jun 16, 2008 5:43 PM GMT
    i once called him a cutiepie instead of his name he didnt react to it, i guess he will take time and know slowely but surely that i like himicon_cool.gif

    just wanted to drop this lineicon_surprised.gif
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    Jun 16, 2008 5:50 PM GMT
    RyanH2O saidi once called him a cutiepie instead of his name he didnt react to it, i guess he will take time and know slowely but surely that i like himicon_cool.gif

    just wanted to drop this lineicon_surprised.gif



    Atta boy!! Just don't get "upset" if he doesn't respond right away to your "cutsey" names; may not be his style...