Overcoming differences in age gaps

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    Dec 23, 2011 2:24 AM GMT
    I don't really have a specific question or answer I'm looking for, I would just like general advice from both sides of the age spectrum ;) on how you have dealt with guys of a different age.

    Advice dealing more along the lines of dating and FWB would be helpful,
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    Dec 23, 2011 2:37 AM GMT
    I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 52.
    I usually date older guys (25-40) but this is the first time I've dated with such a huge age gap.
    We started off friends and quickly realized that we're perfect for each other, so I really don't care what anybody else thinks. His friends are fine with it and my best friend is fine with it so we haven't had any trouble.
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    Dec 23, 2011 3:32 AM GMT
    doubleyou saidLarge age gaps usually result in relationships that are exploitative. If they don't start out that way, they usually become that way.
    lol this is only true if one or both parties are dishonest and/or douchebags.
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    Dec 23, 2011 10:14 AM GMT
    Anduru saidI'm 22 and my boyfriend is 52.
    I usually date older guys (25-40) but this is the first time I've dated with such a huge age gap.
    We started off friends and quickly realized that we're perfect for each other, so I really don't care what anybody else thinks. His friends are fine with it and my best friend is fine with it so we haven't had any trouble.



    I started dating this guy who was 38, and it just fell apart quickly because thoughts of long term factors. I mean I'm still in college and things like conflict of priority, and even just social norms got in the way(like cell phone use for example.)

    I've met some amazing older men, I just can't seem to compliment their lifestyles.
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    Dec 23, 2011 10:40 AM GMT
    texas11 said
    Anduru saidI'm 22 and my boyfriend is 52.
    I usually date older guys (25-40) but this is the first time I've dated with such a huge age gap.
    We started off friends and quickly realized that we're perfect for each other, so I really don't care what anybody else thinks. His friends are fine with it and my best friend is fine with it so we haven't had any trouble.
    I started dating this guy who was 38, and it just fell apart quickly because thoughts of long term factors. I mean I'm still in college and things like conflict of priority, and even just social norms got in the way(like cell phone use for example.)
    I've met some amazing older men, I just can't seem to compliment their lifestyles.
    My boyfriend is fairly tech-savvy for his age. He has an iPhone and knows how to use it. He has facebook too.
    His taste in music is similar to mine, we have similar taste in movies, we both like video games, and we both care about fashion.
    I had a difficult time finding people around my age that enjoyed a similar range of interests to mine, and even if they did they usually weren't emotionally mature enough to satisfy my needs.

    My advice would be to date whoever you like, and that age is nothing if you're compatible.
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    Dec 23, 2011 10:53 AM GMT
    If two guys like each other then age difference doesn't mean a thing.
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    Dec 23, 2011 11:59 AM GMT
    Hmm, I got a 34 year old guy who has an interest in me, but I was just too afraid to go on the next level, and it's cuz of the age difference. My friends say no, that's why...
    I dunno what to think. This topic makes me think tho... icon_confused.gif
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    Dec 23, 2011 8:15 PM GMT
    It's tough, especially when you move outside of the context where it's just the two of you. While love knows no age barriers, being at significantly different stations in life can make conventional dating pretty challenging, especially as things get more serious (especially if the younger of the two is particularly young). A forty-year-old guy would have legitimate reasons to feel uncomfortable introducing his twenty-year-old boyfriend to his co-workers, just as a twenty-year-old would have legitimate reasons to feel awkward about bringing his forty-year-old boyfriend out on a night on the town with all of his young friends.

    That said, can be so much fun when it's just the two of you. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 23, 2011 8:29 PM GMT
    I think it has to more with life-stages than actual age. I don't generally relate well to guys close to my age, as most of them are fairly well-established in their careers, are pretty settled, geographically and socially rooted, though it could be just _this_ particular geographical area too, I suppose.

    I tend to relate better with guys who are younger than me, who are still in the starting phases of career, settling down, social establishing because that's where I am. That's not to say I'm excluding guys around my age or older, but that that's been my experience so far.