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    Dec 23, 2011 2:25 AM GMT
    My extremely conservative/hardcore christian old best friend is visiting in town(who I haven't seen in about 5 months) and I'm about to tell him that I'm gay. He's 100% against gay anything and everything and believes all gays go to hell no exceptions, Other than being extremely ignorant he's a really nice guy. I'm slightly nervous but not worried at all if I lose him as a friend. I'll be ok if he never wants to talk to me again. Just thought I'd share since I spend too much time on here anyways.

    This should be interesting
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    Dec 23, 2011 2:26 AM GMT
    Yay icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 23, 2011 2:26 AM GMT
    Ckfeezy saidMy extremely conservative/hardcore christian old best friend is visiting in town(who I haven't seen in about 5 months) and I'm about to tell him that I'm gay. He's 100% against gay anything and everything and believes all gays go to hell no exceptions, Other than being extremely ignorant he's a really nice guy. I'm slightly nervous but not worried at all if I lose him as a friend. I'll be ok if he never wants to talk to me again. Just thought I'd share since I spend too much time on here anyways.

    This should be interesting
    You might actually be surprised.. its going to put him in a VERY uncomfortable position.. but kudos to you! and good luck!
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    Dec 23, 2011 3:07 AM GMT
    Good luck!
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    Dec 23, 2011 3:22 AM GMT
    Feed him some wine first. And use lots of lube.
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    Dec 23, 2011 3:48 AM GMT
    Good luck
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    Dec 23, 2011 3:51 AM GMT
    Updates when possible, please. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 23, 2011 4:58 AM GMT
    If you lose him as a friend, then he was never a friend to begin with.
    Hopefully he'll be ok with it and you can change his views. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 23, 2011 8:06 AM GMT
    Just got home.

    Told him on the way home(we rode together to a friends house)
    He was quiet for a little bit but then told me that he doesn't see me any different. We talked about it for about half an hour and he told me he still sees it as a sin and that the bible makes that really clear. This was followed by an awkward silence(I wasn't about to rip into him for why he's wrong right after I just told him all something that caught him so off guard) then we changed the subject for a little bit and I went home.
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    Dec 23, 2011 9:34 AM GMT
    That's cool. I think it will take him some time to process it all. I'm sure he'll call you when he's ready to talk about it.
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    Dec 23, 2011 12:59 PM GMT
    Congratulations, good for you. That took some guts! Time will tell now....
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    Dec 23, 2011 1:17 PM GMT
    Meh... at least you got to keep your friend. The question now is how will he react once you find a boyfriend. It's all good though. Good luck! I'll keep you both in my prayers.
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    Dec 23, 2011 1:26 PM GMT
    For an "hardcore Christian" he took it pretty well icon_smile.gif
    I'm really happy for you and he seems to be a good friend when he's up to give his values up in order to hang out with you (even though you don't see him often?)
    And maybe you can tell him sometime that he's supposed to love and forgive and not to judge and hate.
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    Dec 23, 2011 1:28 PM GMT
    Wow!
    Good for you, mate!
    If you pick me as a boyfriend, I can help you find out his reaction on a boyfriend! icon_biggrin.gificon_wink.gif
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    Dec 23, 2011 1:32 PM GMT
    Ckfeezy saidJust got home.

    Told him on the way home(we rode together to a friends house)
    He was quiet for a little bit but then told me that he doesn't see me any different. We talked about it for about half an hour and he told me he still sees it as a sin and that the bible makes that really clear. This was followed by an awkward silence(I wasn't about to rip into him for why he's wrong right after I just told him all something that caught him so off guard) then we changed the subject for a little bit and I went home.

    He'll be sucking you before the holiday is over.
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    Dec 23, 2011 1:37 PM GMT
    Ckfeezy saidJust got home.

    Told him on the way home(we rode together to a friends house)
    He was quiet for a little bit but then told me that he doesn't see me any different. We talked about it for about half an hour and he told me he still sees it as a sin and that the bible makes that really clear. This was followed by an awkward silence(I wasn't about to rip into him for why he's wrong right after I just told him all something that caught him so off guard) then we changed the subject for a little bit and I went home.


    Good for you. He will respect you for being honest about something that you know may be an issue between the two of you. Don't be surprised if he is praying for your soul right now, though.

    He may come around and end up being a lifelong friend as a result. Just remember that you told him because you're being up front and honest, not because you want him to change. Sounds like that's the approach that you've taken.
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    Dec 29, 2011 5:42 AM GMT
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    paulflexes saidIf you lose him as a friend, then he was never a friend to begin with.
    Hopefully he'll be ok with it and you can change his views. icon_biggrin.gif


    That's a ridiculous mentality to have. The purpose should be honesty, not trying to convert him out of his beliefs. It's his friend's choice to think whatever he wants about gays.


    That's a ridiculous mentality to have. Of course it's his friend's choice to think what he wants. And the OP is free to discuss his views and try to change his friend's opinion of gays. Hardly no one would change their minds on various subjects if it weren't for the actions of others. Sometimes people need to be educated.