Gay dating...WTF

  • benarw

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    Dec 23, 2011 2:54 AM GMT
    Why is it that even when you've met someone who makes you ridiculously happy you're still on the lookout for something better? Do straight relationships work this way too, or is it a gay thing?

    Been dating this guy for about a month, so it's all still pretty new, and we don't want to be rushing into things, but having moments of frustration cause most of the time when we're together it's like no one else is there, but other times oyu can tell we're both straying!

    Any suggestions on how to turn off the "slut" switch? haha
  • benarw

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    Dec 23, 2011 3:36 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidIf you have cookies in the house, eventually you are going to eat them ... the way to avoid them is not have them in the house.


    Haha...ok...so you're telling me to become a nun? J/k
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    Dec 25, 2011 7:41 PM GMT
    benarw saidWhy is it that even when you've met someone who makes you ridiculously happy you're still on the lookout for something better? Do straight relationships work this way too, or is it a gay thing?

    Been dating this guy for about a month, so it's all still pretty new, and we don't want to be rushing into things, but having moments of frustration cause most of the time when we're together it's like no one else is there, but other times oyu can tell we're both straying!

    Any suggestions on how to turn off the "slut" switch? haha


    Um is that a "gay-thing"? I have to admit that I don't know that much gay guys but I never heard about that and I can for sure say that that's not true for me.
    I'd say it's pretty normal to have moments of frustration, but if he makes you "ridiculously happy" the rest of the time you probably should figure out a way to live with it or change it icon_smile.gif
    Good luck.
  • jackthejock

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    Dec 26, 2011 12:42 AM GMT
    You've only been dating a month, why shouldn't you still be looking? When I started dating my boyfriend I was dating another guy at the time and he was dating a girl. After a few months we had the talk and decided we wanted to be monogamous with one another. That is the point of dating, seeing if you are right for eachother or not. I say unless you explicitly agree that you are a monogaous couple you shouldn't expect or assume you are the only one they are dating and they shouldn't expect or assume the same of you
  • cityguy39

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    Dec 26, 2011 12:53 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidIf you have cookies in the house, eventually you are going to eat them ... the way to avoid them is not have them in the house.
    Amen!!!!
  • FitGayDoc

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    Dec 26, 2011 1:00 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidIf you have cookies in the house, eventually you are going to eat them ... the way to avoid them is not have them in the house.


    Indeed...especially if the cookies are chocolate chip...though I wouldn't really be tempted if they were oatmeal-raisin.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Dec 26, 2011 1:06 AM GMT
    benarw saidWhy is it that even when you've met someone who makes you ridiculously happy you're still on the lookout for something better? Do straight relationships work this way too, or is it a gay thing?

    Been dating this guy for about a month, so it's all still pretty new, and we don't want to be rushing into things, but having moments of frustration cause most of the time when we're together it's like no one else is there, but other times oyu can tell we're both straying!

    Any suggestions on how to turn off the "slut" switch? haha
    There is nothing wrong noticing others. I do think it is a gay thing because I have dated women and when I thought I had met the one. I did not care about other women. Do not get me wrong, I noticed other women but I never thought to act on it. I think most straight guys realize that there will always be beautiful women but know what they have at home. They also know what it was like when they were single. I do not think most guys think about that or care about that
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    Dec 26, 2011 2:15 AM GMT
    benarw saidWhy is it that even when you've met someone who makes you ridiculously happy you're still on the lookout for something better? Do straight relationships work this way too, or is it a gay thing?

    Been dating this guy for about a month, so it's all still pretty new, and we don't want to be rushing into things, but having moments of frustration cause most of the time when we're together it's like no one else is there, but other times oyu can tell we're both straying!

    Any suggestions on how to turn off the "slut" switch? haha


    You're asking the GAY MEN of REALJOCK on how to turn off the slut switch???!!!
    I think you're asking the wrong crowd, dude. icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Dec 26, 2011 2:32 AM GMT
    All you have to do is shut off all those accounts where you can potentially meet other guys. If you don't, you'll always be checking other guys out. I know this isn't for every couple, but I've done it before, and didn't miss it at all.
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    Dec 26, 2011 2:57 AM GMT
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    This isn't a gay thing it's a guy thing, men feel entitled to as many holes they can get, but I mean thats more or less due to the media,our perception of sex, and what we are taught at a young age.

    It's really not that hard to reject and adhere to more... traditional dating methods.

    Buuuuuuutttttt then again I fell for a guy that will only ever see me as a friend so, my opinions are skewed and probably won't be much help.
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    Dec 26, 2011 3:08 AM GMT
    we men are sluts....gay or str8...but we can train ourselves to be monogamous if we try...
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    Dec 26, 2011 3:23 AM GMT
    FitGayDoc said
    AMoonHawk saidIf you have cookies in the house, eventually you are going to eat them ... the way to avoid them is not have them in the house.


    Indeed...especially if the cookies are chocolate chip...though I wouldn't really be tempted if they were oatmeal-raisin.


    When you taste those home made oatmeal-raisin cookies from the special recipe, you'll be surprised at what you missed all these years, and all your thoughts will be filled with getting enough of them.
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    Dec 26, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    Even when I was with my boyfriend of 4 yrs there were times we would be talking and laughing at dinner and some hot guy would come by and we would stop and have a total "meanwhile" moment. The fun came after we realized that we were looking at another guy and gave the one whom stayed looking the longest shit. That one would have to make it up to the other. icon_razz.gif It's a part of human sexuality. You can look, but touch and its going down"Bitch, I'mma cut you!" style.
  • benarw

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    Dec 26, 2011 4:52 AM GMT
    Thanks guys. This was mostly one of those, I need to think out loud and hear what I'm already thinking from someone else.

    I've just been in a really bad place in the life the past couple of years so all this suddenly being super happy and life going well is fresh and a little scary!
  • tuffguyndc

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    Dec 26, 2011 5:08 AM GMT
    benarw saidThanks guys. This was mostly one of those, I need to think out loud and hear what I'm already thinking from someone else.

    I've just been in a really bad place in the life the past couple of years so all this suddenly being super happy and life going well is fresh and a little scary!
    It happens to us all. But always say this to my friends. Do you think you deserve to be happy and with guy of your dreams? At the end of the day it is all about knowing your self worth
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    Dec 26, 2011 5:12 AM GMT
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    benarw saidThanks guys. This was mostly one of those, I need to think out loud and hear what I'm already thinking from someone else.

    I've just been in a really bad place in the life the past couple of years so all this suddenly being super happy and life going well is fresh and a little scary!
    It happens to us all. But always say this to my friends. Do you think you deserve to be happy and with guy of your dreams? At the end of the day it is all about knowing your self worth


    And this is why so many homos end up sad and alone.
  • benarw

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    Dec 26, 2011 5:15 AM GMT
    [quote]. Do you think you deserve to be happy and with guy of your dreams? At the end of the day it is all about knowing your self worth[/quote]

    Thanks Tuff. Me and the guy finally stopped talking around the subject and figured out what we wanted at this point in time and things are good. icon_biggrin.gif