WHAT ARE SOME SMALL CITIES (NOT TOWNS) WITH A DECENT GAY POPULATION AND COMMUNITY?

  • scsexibro

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    Dec 23, 2011 1:45 PM GMT

    WHAT ARE SOME SMALL CITIES (NOT TOWNS) WITH A DECENT GAY POPULATION AND COMMUNITY?

    I had fun living in Charlotte and the scene was just enough for me not to lose control of my life and be in my classroom at 6:45 AM daily ready to teach.
    Raleigh was pretty cool too.
    DC was fun but too much for me and so expensive.
    I could not get with the scene in Philly, just seemed boring...i didnt live downtown there i guess.
    I would never live in ATL.
    This is from a not-out black guy.
    Any suggestions?
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    Dec 23, 2011 2:13 PM GMT
    Jacksonville is a "small city" with a decent size gay community however they are more homebodies. There are also alot of closet cases here. However I have heard that Charlotte is better, but I have never been there.

    btw, I moved from Atlanta to Jacksonville in 2002 for a slower pace of life icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 23, 2011 3:21 PM GMT
    I know this is going to sound strange, but Blue Ridge, GA. I lived in this town for two years, and I've never really seen anything quite like it. 12 of the businesses in town are gay owned/operated, and there is a rather large gay community. Granted some are only weekend visitors from Atlanta....but while the town is as church going, bible thumping, redneck as can be....everybody just seems to get along.

    I really loved it there, and would go back in a heartbeat.
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    Dec 23, 2011 3:29 PM GMT
    I guess it depends on what your definition of small is but Santa Fe has a disproportionately large gay population and is wonderful.
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    Dec 23, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    There are herds of gays in Columbus, Oh but not much reason to live here otherwise icon_confused.gif
  • patmos9990

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    Dec 23, 2011 3:48 PM GMT
    I love the gay scene in Oklahoma City. You can really get involved in it.
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    Dec 23, 2011 4:03 PM GMT
    Palm Springs, CA.

    It is believed that the LGBT community has 60% of the population within the city limits. All age ranges and a number of things to do. I love it there.

  • docbailey2005

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    Dec 23, 2011 4:11 PM GMT
    Fargo,ND and the surrounding area i think is Americas best kept gay secret.
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    Dec 23, 2011 4:14 PM GMT
    Boston could be considered a small city, but has a good sized gay neighborhood and scene. And a short-ish boat ride to Provincetown.

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    Dec 23, 2011 4:33 PM GMT
    According to Richard Florida's urban geography research, the best cities for gays and lesbians are:

    large regions
    San Diego, CA
    San Francisco, CA
    Hartford, CT
    Boston, MA
    New York, NY

    mid-size regions
    Bridgeport, CT
    Portland, ME
    Worcester, MA
    Honolulu, HI
    Charleston, SC

    small regions
    Trenton, NJ
    Santa Rosa, CA
    Manchester, NH
    Fayetteville, AR
    Norwich, CT

    http://www.creativeclass.com/_v3/whos_your_city/best_cities/
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    Dec 23, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    Gay population is never too decent
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    Dec 23, 2011 5:16 PM GMT
    Well, you're black, and that really does make a difference depending on how "hot" you are and what you find "hot", honestly. The more diverse the town, the more likely you are to find gay guys of all races who are also into other guys of all races which will significantly boost your odds. I say this because there have been a ton of threads that show that the black gay experience is a little different than some of the other experiences (not from racism perspective but from a "preference" and "what I'm usually attracted to" perspective). Diverse towns increase cross exposure.

    I also don't think purposefully moving to a small town would necessarily boost anyone's odds in the gay community because as you can see on RJ, we're all spread out. Bigger towns present bigger gay populations that will give you more choices. But if you are really drawn to smaller cities versus larger cities, try to pick a place that is known for things that you are into (beyond having a gay scene). I moved to Austin, which is a cool town and very gay friendly. But is not a sports town (which is what I'm into). Austin is a great town if you have a dog, like being outdoors and love live music. It's also a very liberal town in a very conservative and very religious state so that creates healthy tension and opportunity if you're into politics.
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    Dec 23, 2011 5:39 PM GMT
    kandsk said
    Hartford, CT
    Bridgeport, CT
    Norwich, CT


    I would agree except these cities lack any real nightlife, the gay community is very non-scene or invite only social event. You really have to know people to enjoy Connecticut. If your new to the state it may not be easy to find the community.

    And Bridgeport is a terrible city, New Haven should be on that list. The only nice part of Bridgeport is the shore area known as Black Rock.
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    Dec 23, 2011 5:47 PM GMT
    If I remember right, the gay index is based on things like tolerance, diversity, arts, but not amenities. The Canadian version presented a pretty baffling selection too, but at least it's based on some kind of systematic analysis.
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:18 PM GMT
    I'm sure you are already familiar with the NC cities so I'll mention a few others with appeal. Austin is almost as liberal as Durham/Chapel Hill and is around the same size as Charlotte. Portland is like a bigger version of Asheville. Orlando reminds me a lot of Charlotte but has a prettier downtown with all the parks around lakes. I don't know much about Richmond but I love the location. It is close to the mountains and coast and an easy drive to DC. I think it is like a bigger more vibrant Winston Salem, Nashville is pretty cool too and about the same size as Charlotte. I've heard great things about Columbus Ohio but I think coming from NC you might miss hills there.

    Being that you have lived in Raleigh you may or may not agree with my perception of Durham but if I were to take your race into consideration Durham/Chapel Hill is one of the best options. I've lived all over and one thing I've noticed about a lot of white people is that they are uncomfortable about being in a place where they are a minority. They are a minority in Durham so it is not unusual to frequent a black owned business and find a sizable white minority. Just go to Beyu on a given night in downtown Durham. Sometimes it is almost all white other times it is 75% black. It is the same thing at the downtown Y. I grew up in Durham and remember being in many mostly black situations. It made it much easier for me moving to NYC than it was for people moving in there from lily white suburbs. There was a black owned restaurant that I went to on the upper west side and if I wasn't the only white person there I was one of the very few. It was a successful black yuppy hangout but most white people just didn't feel comfortable frequenting the place.

    That is not to say Durham is free of segregation or racial politics but I find the lines are drawn more on economics than on race. The city has one of the largest black middle classes but also quite a few disenfranchised poor black areas. Still I've always liked the quality of so many black men I've met in Durham and find it very easy to meet people outside my race.
  • Arkguy84

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    Dec 23, 2011 6:22 PM GMT
    Frank_CA saidPalm Springs, CA.

    It is believed that the LGBT community has 60% of the population within the city limits. All age ranges and a number of things to do. I love it there.


    And this is part of why i want to move to Palm Springs, CA so bad!
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:23 PM GMT
    If you are living in NC you should already know about Asheville and Raliegh/Durham.

    Other than that maybe the Florida Keys, Palm Springs or Portland....
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:23 PM GMT
    Where do you arbitrarily draw the line between a large town and a small city?
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:24 PM GMT
    cthulu saidWhere do you arbitrarily draw the line between a large town and a small city?


    I would say 100,000 or less is a small town...


    100,000-500,000 - Mid size city

    500,000- large city
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:27 PM GMT
    Minneapolis has a great GLBT scene. Better than Chicago in my opinion. When I was in ATL for pride I had a blast but I have never been on a normal weekend.
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    kandsk said

    small regions
    Manchester, NH



    If you're a lesbian and/or Meth is one of your main food groups, then yes I would agree.
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:47 PM GMT
    Its all about PORTLAND OREGON!
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    Dec 23, 2011 7:24 PM GMT
    Don't come to Alabama. hah.hah.hah.
  • Trepeat

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    Dec 23, 2011 7:42 PM GMT
    Salt Lake City's kind of an unexpected treasure. Because the main culture there is so dominantly conservative, it makes the (surprisingly large) counter-culture that much more proud of their diversity. Great weather, awesome outdoor adveture areas, and a lot of really hot, fit guys. If you can get past the LDS thing, there's a lot to love about SLC.

    Also, closeted conservative types = present in sexy abundance. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 23, 2011 7:58 PM GMT
    Arkguy84 said
    Frank_CA saidPalm Springs, CA.

    It is believed that the LGBT community has 60% of the population within the city limits. All age ranges and a number of things to do. I love it there.


    And this is part of why i want to move to Palm Springs, CA so bad!


    I'm sure that Palm Springs its surrounds ( Joshua Tree NP) are beautiful but I wouldn't feel comfortable to live in a place that is so homogenous. It sounds like a ghetto.

    Isn't there strength in diversity?