Why are gay men so fickle

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    Dec 23, 2011 5:02 PM GMT
    This is something that bothers me, this is because I am also fickle. They can tell you something now and completely change their mind later. Like a hookup, they can tell you they're meeting you but they never show up, or they tell you they really like you but the next day you find them on a date with another. What gives. Why are gay guys so fickle.

    How do I become less fickle.
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    Dec 23, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
    Just wait for your mind to change and it won't matter any longer.
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    Dec 23, 2011 5:56 PM GMT
    Because they don't know what you look like
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:01 PM GMT
    Because we are.

    Oh, wait, nevermind, no we aren't.
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:02 PM GMT
    JustThisOnce saidFinally I agree with Waimea on something. Also we have this tendency to never settle and always be on the look-out for someone better/hotter


    Oh please that has nothing to do with being gay, that is what EVERYONE does.
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:06 PM GMT
    7Famark saidBecause we are.

    Oh, wait, nevermind, no we aren't.
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    Oh Really?
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:06 PM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said
    7Famark saidBecause we are.

    Oh, wait, nevermind, no we aren't.
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    Oh Really?
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    That was me....being fickle.
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:08 PM GMT
    7Famark said
    GigoloAssassin said
    7Famark saidBecause we are.

    Oh, wait, nevermind, no we aren't.
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    Oh Really?
    Have you BEEN to This site? icon_confused.gif


    That was me....being fickle.


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    Dec 23, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    For the same reason that water is wet: because you are.

    You will stay that way until you decide otherwise.
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:31 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidI relate being overly Fickle with being Flaky. If you get an invite to something, either accept it or don't. Waiting for something better to come along or canceling when something more exciting pops up, shows lack of true character.

    I've missed a variety of things in life because I was already committed for the night.
    When guys cancel hours before a BD party or make excuses for their laziness to commit, I have to pull my friendship back a notch or two. As I get older, I've learned these kind of guys AND girls aren't worth your energy or friendship.
    Fickle is for children,, but even more unattractive on Adults.
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:42 PM GMT
    waimea saidThis is something that bothers me, this is because I am also fickle. They can tell you something now and completely change their mind later. Like a hookup, they can tell you they're meeting you but they never show up, or they tell you they really like you but the next day you find them on a date with another. What gives. Why are gay guys so fickle.

    How do I become less fickle.


    Whine, whine, whine. What goes around, comes around. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 23, 2011 6:52 PM GMT
    have you tried like...like not being fickle?
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    Dec 23, 2011 7:10 PM GMT
    Sure everyone is, but the gays seem more so than others.
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    Dec 23, 2011 7:30 PM GMT
    I'm not fickle so idk.
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    Dec 23, 2011 7:31 PM GMT
    waimea saidThis is something that bothers me, this is because I am also fickle. They can tell you something now and completely change their mind later. Like a hookup, they can tell you they're meeting you but they never show up, or they tell you they really like you but the next day you find them on a date with another. What gives. Why are gay guys so fickle.

    How do I become less fickle.


    It's something you learn. The gay world teaches people to be fickle. You accept the teaching or you dont.
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    Dec 23, 2011 7:32 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidI relate being overly Fickle with being Flaky. If you get an invite to something, either accept it or don't. Waiting for something better to come along or canceling when something more exciting pops up, shows lack of true character.

    I've missed a variety of things in life because I was already committed for the night.
    When guys cancel hours before a BD party or make excuses for their laziness to commit, I have to pull my friendship back a notch or two. As I get older, I've learned these kind of guys AND girls aren't worth your energy or friendship.
    Fickle is for children,, but even more unattractive on Adults.
    What? Just sayin....icon_cool.gif



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    Dec 23, 2011 7:33 PM GMT
    How rude. Not all gay men are fickle. I've met several gay men whom stand by what they what they say, and stay for the long haul. Also, you may want to reconsider the type of guys you talk to... reevaluate your standards ;-)
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    Dec 23, 2011 7:39 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidI relate being overly Fickle with being Flaky.

    As I get older, I've learned these kind of guys AND girls aren't worth your energy or friendship.

    Fickle is for children, but even more unattractive on Adults.

    Yeah, what Tony said!

    And take note, OP; I think fickleness is something that moderates with maturity. So good on you for noticing that it's something you'd like to change about yourself!
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    Dec 23, 2011 7:45 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidJust wait for your mind to change and it won't matter any longer.


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    Dec 23, 2011 7:58 PM GMT
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    waimea saidThis is something that bothers me, this is because I am also fickle. They can tell you something now and completely change their mind later. Like a hookup, they can tell you they're meeting you but they never show up, or they tell you they really like you but the next day you find them on a date with another. What gives. Why are gay guys so fickle.

    How do I become less fickle.


    It's something you learn. The gay world teaches people to be fickle. You accept the teaching or you dont.


    Well I don't like this teaching so I think I shall seek other teachers.
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    Dec 23, 2011 10:24 PM GMT
    waimea saidHow do I become less fickle.
    Die.

    That's the only way to become less fickle, so embrace your fickleness and enjoy it while it lasts. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 23, 2011 10:29 PM GMT
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    paulflexes said
    waimea saidHow do I become less fickle.
    Die.

    That's the only way to become less fickle, so embrace your fickleness and enjoy it while it lasts. icon_biggrin.gif
    Mmm... Fickleness.

    Speak loudly and carry a big dick.


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    Dec 23, 2011 10:37 PM GMT
    It is usually because of insecurities. This is the biggest reason why any person is fickle, not just gays.
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    Dec 24, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
    waimea saidThis is something that bothers me, this is because I am also fickle. They can tell you something now and completely change their mind later. Like a hookup, they can tell you they're meeting you but they never show up, or they tell you they really like you but the next day you find them on a date with another. What gives. Why are gay guys so fickle.

    How do I become less fickle.




    I take it this is a serious question, so...


    Like attracts like, as in birds of a feather flock together. Guys that aren't fickle usually terrify those that are. icon_wink.gif

    I think the way to be less fickle is to know yourself better, which takes time and more often than not, a few heartaches. If your attractions are 80% appearances and 20% character then you need to change those percentages by carefully examining what lasts in a long term life long relationship, and what doesn't.

    kindly,

    -Doug

    Merry Christmas waimea, and a Happy New Year to you!
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    Dec 24, 2011 1:55 AM GMT
    Haven't you heard, it's an essential behavioral component of the gay gene.