boy trouble in gym land

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    Dec 24, 2011 3:20 PM GMT
    sup guys so my problem is like this i have a friend totally my type cute, friendly, fun, loves the gym, loves video games, totally fun and also TOTALLY STRAIGHT! sucks to be me right now right huh? So here I am trying to look at my hand and see what I can do to make the best of the cards I was dealt. Now I jumped at the opportunity to strike at what we had in common most the gym! So I gave him a one month free membership to my gym. Now those of you guys who know about David Barton Gym know a good majority of the guys there are gay, so i used it as an opportunity to see how comfortable he was with gay guys so i can determine weather or not i can tell him how i feel. Truth be told it wasn't good at all. When we went into the steam room he practically went in fully dressed he wore a tank top and shorts and he seemed soooo uncomfortable in the locker room. He even went into an empty locker isle to change i didnt even get a cheap peek or anything haha and now i regret giving him a membership because now he asking me to use my guest passes to get his friend in -__- i dug myself into a hole didnt i? if anyone has some advice to give me id appreciate it im like at a total gray area right now =/
  • vintovka

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    Dec 24, 2011 4:33 PM GMT
    Wait for the month to be over and cut your losses.

    Also, there's a big difference between him being ok with being leered at in the locker room and being ok with having a gay friend. Many of my straight friends are not comfortable being objectified, and for that matter many of my gay friends aren't either. Others just love the attention. Bringing a straight guy to the gym is a poor indicator of how he feels about gay people, unless you were just hoping he'd suddenly reveal himself to be a huge homo.

    Frankly the whole thing seems a bit manipulative on your part--I think it's better to gauge people's reactions based on conversation (e.g. mention gays in the military in a neutral way and see how he responds) that would be a better indicator.
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    Dec 24, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    vintovka saidWait for the month to be over and cut your losses.

    Also, there's a big difference between him being ok with being leered at in the locker room and being ok with having a gay friend. Many of my straight friends are not comfortable being objectified, and for that matter many of my gay friends aren't either. Others just love the attention. Bringing a straight guy to the gym is a poor indicator of how he feels about gay people, unless you were just hoping he'd suddenly reveal himself to be a huge homo.

    Frankly the whole thing seems a bit manipulative on your part--I think it's better to gauge people's reactions based on conversation (e.g. mention gays in the military in a neutral way and see how he responds) that would be a better indicator.


    i didnt wana be manipulative but i suppose ur right i didnt expect him to just open up and be all rainbows an unicorns either i do admit that a small part of me did just wana see him with a shirt off lol but idk i just feel totaly blah about the whole situation cus its not like a guy i like this much comes along everyday so i guess i fell a lil off the map with it
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    Dec 24, 2011 4:56 PM GMT
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    Dec 24, 2011 4:57 PM GMT
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    Dec 24, 2011 4:59 PM GMT
    Trollileo said5997d8d4_This-will-be-the-sixth-time-we-
    LMAO
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    Dec 24, 2011 5:01 PM GMT
    If he is straight, he is straight. No matter what excuse you give yourself. I have been in your situation and I learnt the hard way. I am sure he won't exploit you, but you have to firm and tell him that the membership is only free for him and his buddy will have to pay.


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    Dec 24, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    ok to all the guys posting memes

    weather this topic has been posted 30 million times or not i posted for legit advice and theres just a bunch of stupid pics and jokes -____- if your gonna do that can u not post on the thread if ur tired of this topic just go to another thread sheesh
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    Dec 24, 2011 5:09 PM GMT
    Trollileo said5997d8d4_This-will-be-the-sixth-time-we-


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    *note to self*
    Never accept free gym memberships. There's usually a creepy string attached.
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    Dec 24, 2011 5:09 PM GMT
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    johnni_winehouse saidok to all the guys posting memes

    weather this topic has been posted 30 million times or not i posted for legit advice and theres just a bunch of stupid pics and jokes -____- if your gonna do that can u not post on the thread if ur tired of this topic just go to another thread sheesh


    Dude seriously there was nothing good with what you did. Take him to a gay bar not a gay gym. The gym is raunchier than the bar. And look at other topics for advice before you can easily look them up. We post Memes in every thread man that's all.
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    Dec 24, 2011 5:11 PM GMT
    Trollileo said5997d8d4_This-will-be-the-sixth-time-we-


    lol, do you make all of these yourself? haha
  • LJay

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    Dec 24, 2011 5:20 PM GMT
    He wants to use passes to have a few friends along, too? Go ahead.

    This is a situation where you did not seem to look ahead when you gave him the gif. All you can do now is relax [?] and go with it. See what transpires and cut the drama to a minimum. It'll be OK.
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    Dec 24, 2011 5:22 PM GMT
    johnni_winehouse saidok to all the guys posting memes

    weather this topic has been posted 30 million times or not i posted for legit advice and theres just a bunch of stupid pics and jokes -____- if your gonna do that can u not post on the thread if ur tired of this topic just go to another thread sheesh


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    Dec 24, 2011 5:22 PM GMT
    How about you read the other threads so that you could know what would have happened and get your answers there...dude get a clue it's not going to happen so stop dreaming and come back to reality where a guy you could actually date lives.
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    Dec 24, 2011 5:28 PM GMT
    LJay saidHe wants to use passes to have a few friends along, too? Go ahead.

    This is a situation where you did not seem to look ahead when you gave him the gif. All you can do now is relax [?] and go with it. See what transpires and cut the drama to a minimum. It'll be OK.


    "He wants to use passes to have a few friends along, too? Go ahead."

    And if you bring enough of them in on free passes, you're certain to find one who is a homo. It's all in the numbers.
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    Dec 24, 2011 6:11 PM GMT
    Guys, you don't need approval from other people to post. It's a classic mistake we have all made. Stop being bitter bitches and give the boy a break. Sheesh, who pissed in your corn flakes?
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    Dec 24, 2011 6:25 PM GMT
    Sounds like he thinks you gave him the free pass for the wrong reason if he's trying to get another friend in. Is this other friend straight? I bet they are and I bet its more so he will be comfortable (for at least a month) going to this gym. Good job, sounds like you just made things awkward with this guy and he needs someone else to make him feel comfortable and that someone isn't you icon_confused.gif
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    johnni_winehouse saidok to all the guys posting memes

    weather this topic has been posted 30 million times or not i posted for legit advice and theres just a bunch of stupid pics and jokes -____- if your gonna do that can u not post on the thread if ur tired of this topic just go to another thread sheesh


    You obviously have no grasp how RJ works, 3-post.

    If we want to completely ignore your dumb repeated topic and use your space-filler thread for our own entertainment we have all the right to do so icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 24, 2011 11:06 PM GMT
    johnni_winehouse saidok to all the guys posting memes

    weather this topic has been posted 30 million times or not i posted for legit advice and theres just a bunch of stupid pics and jokes -____- if your gonna do that can u not post on the thread if ur tired of this topic just go to another thread sheesh


    I'll ignore your obvious lack of decorum for this paragraph, newb, and give you some constructive insight about your steam room antics: if I were him I'd be pissed. How dare you! Want to "probe" me about my sexuality, do it at a bar. Do it in a public place. Have the balls to say I'm hot or something. But don't behave like every fucking creepy troll I've ever read about or seen stereotyped in every fucking television show. Free membership for a month so you can see my shirt come off!!!?

    No really, how fast would you be fired if this "customer" were a female?

    Now about the offense of "posting memes" in YOUR thread. Apologize, and we'll be nice to you forevermore. Be a dick about it and expect every one of your threads to be meme-bombed. Welcome to RJ.

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    Dec 24, 2011 11:10 PM GMT
    You're in QUEENS and obsessing over a "straight" guy?
    How fucking lame is that? icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 24, 2011 11:35 PM GMT
    Trollileo said5997d8d4_This-will-be-the-sixth-time-we-


    LOL!!!!
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    Dec 24, 2011 11:43 PM GMT
    Trollileo said5997d8d4_This-will-be-the-sixth-time-we-


    Trollileo, I'm traveling for the holidays and it's stressful as hell. I logged on here at the airport and couldn't stop laughing looking at your meme. Really help to find something constant while everything else is chaotic.

    Thx a bunch bro.
  • mizu5

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    Dec 24, 2011 11:48 PM GMT
    You sound kinda creepy, doing all that to see him shirtless.

    And to put him into a gay gym to see how he'd react? Tell the kid you like dick and you'll get a response, don't overload him in some homoerotic fantasy you've cooked up.
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    Dec 24, 2011 11:50 PM GMT
    *forehead smack* ugh this is why straight guys avoid gays as friends.
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    Dec 24, 2011 11:56 PM GMT
    So basically u neglected ur friendship for a possibility of a fuck... Plenty of gay men to pick frm but good friends are hard to come by. *sigh*