Once I reach 60 I hit the wall

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    Jun 15, 2008 3:37 PM GMT
    60 pounds, that is.

    This has happened before. It seems like once I reach a certain number in my weight-loss journey, I go into a deep depression. I end up gaining back at least half of what I have lost. The gym is not as important as the drive-thru.

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    Jun 15, 2008 4:03 PM GMT
    Chasersprize said60 pounds, that is.

    This has happened before. It seems like once I reach a certain number in my weight-loss journey, I go into a deep depression. I end up gaining back at least half of what I have lost. The gym is not as important as the drive-thru.


    That's the time you need to get a personal trainer, even if for only 6 months. Unless you are really, really financially broke, it is worth the investment.

    Coming out of my cancer therapy, I was very depressed, but the dr said working out was the best way to get over the depression and the side effects of the therapy. I knew I could not maintain a workout program. I was too depressed. I would quit in an instant. So I bit the bullet and hired a personal trainer who worked at the gym.

    Let me tell you, Chaser, it is the best decision and investment that I have ever made.

    First, it took care of going to the gym. You're damn right I wouldnt miss a session since I was paying for them. And of course, I had someone to call me on the carpet if I did.

    Second, I didnt have to think about what I was doing or should be doing or why. He takes care of watching my routine and weights and progress.

    Third, he has so much more knowledge about what to do. I had no idea how much a PT brings to the sessions. I thought they just wrote on a clip board, moved the pins in the machines, and that was about it. OMG, NO! At least, not mine. He evaluates me and designs the workout to correct problems I didnt even know I had. And he has more ways to workout a muscle! It seems like I never do the same thing twice.

    Fourth, he advises me on my nutrition. My PT has gotten me eating good food, taught me about food, digestion, and metabolism. He has inspired me to learn more about nutrition and losing weight. He is someone I see several times a week to tell about my experiences and to encourage me to keep eating well.

    If you cant afford a personal trainer, then team up with someone who will give you the support during your dieting and working out. Or maybe we here on RJ can be your support buddies. Create a thread that is just a blog for you to enter and vent your thoughts and feelings....kinda like what I did with my prostate cancer thread.

    I would also recommend "You On A Diet" by Roizen and Oz. It is a great book on how to make decisions about eating, not just a diet.

    Good luck...feel free to drop me a line if you think I can be of help to you.

    I just finished 40 minutes on my treadmill to keep my weightloss going. Now for some breakfast.
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    Jun 15, 2008 7:45 PM GMT

    A) Stop eating at the drive-thru. That stuff is garbage. Start cooking your meals at home and pack a lunch for work, don't get lunch out of a vending machine or a greasy wrapper.

    B) Stop sabotaging yourself. You aren't psychic so how can you predict how this weight loss journey will pan out?? Sounds like you are choosing facts. As in, you choose to dwell on the fact that you are heavy and losing weight, but forget the fact, that if you commit properly, you will cease to be heavy. As long as you keep choosing the wrong facts, you'll never complete this journey.

    c) Maintain a positive image. If I have you pegged wrong, forgive me, but I notice that a lot of people who are working to get fit, basically let themselves look and feel like dirt. They say they will treat themselves better when they reach their goal. If this is you, yeah, I know you want to be different, but before you can truly move on, you've gotta accept who you are now. That means right now, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Apart from the gym work you are doing, dress nicely, groom yourself well, date, and have fun. I always say this "Treat yourself like you want to be treated." I'm tellin ya, your body will respond to that also.

    D) Don't set limits, set goals. It sounds like this 60 pound wall is a limit you set for yourself a long time ago. Now wonder why you hault when you reach it? Your mind is only acting like it's been taught. Teach it to set goals and rise beyond them, not set limits and stop at them. My way for this is to stop and spend sometime alone once I reach a goal so that I can refocus and realize, yes, i've come a ways, but still have some way to go. A lot of people, once they reach a goal, celebrate too much and lose their way. Recognize a success, yes, but don't forget you've still a ways to go.

    E) THE GYM NEEDS TO BE THE MOST IMPORTANT PLACE. If it takes setting up equipment in your home to do this, set it up. I think a lot of people who set up a membership and have to trace back and forth to the gym, never quite stop seeing the gym and getting to it, as a chore. I suggest setting up equipment at home so that working out begins to feel more natural. You know, you're at home...you walk over, do a couple curls, a couple bounces on the exercise ball and back to your business, then later, do it again.

    Having equipment at home is especially useful in conjunction with a gym membership, that way if rain or traffic stops you from getting out, you've got equipment right there and no excuse not to use it. Most importantly, having equipment at home, makes it more a part of your personal life. YOU LIVE WITH IT, it's there, you see it and remember what you are doing all the time. It's no longer in a distant place you have to drive to.
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    Jun 16, 2008 5:01 PM GMT
    Yep, that's me in a nutshell. "When I get to goal (fill in the blank)." Accepting who I am now has always been my biggest challenge. I have always felt that I don't/won't offer much to the world unless I am height/weight proportionate.
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    Jun 16, 2008 5:07 PM GMT
    GuiltyGear saidD) Don't set limits, set goals.

    I would just add to this, drop the numerical goal. Pick a "look" you want. You will no doubt lose weight as you burn off fat but then regain good weight in the form of muscle if you're concentrating on how you look rather than a number.
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    Jun 16, 2008 5:30 PM GMT
    Chasersprize saidYep, that's me in a nutshell. "When I get to goal (fill in the blank)." Accepting who I am now has always been my biggest challenge. I have always felt that I don't/won't offer much to the world unless I am height/weight proportionate.


    That isn't true. If anyone here ate the wrong foods and neglected exercise for an extended period (some have), they'd have to stick to a program and lose weight the same way as you are having to do. Noone here is better than you. A lot of the time we compare ourselves and skills to someone else, forgetting that person had to learn and perfect their skills too. Only difference is, they did it then and you have to do it now.

    Really, you'll never succeed with a defeatist attitude and if you did, by some miracle manage to lose the weight with a bad attitude, you'd still feel terrible because you'd have the same negative mental processes, just a smaller body.

    Treat yourself like you want to be treated now and you'll see what a difference it makes later.

    Gagaram saidI would just add to this, drop the numerical goal. Pick a "look" you want. You will no doubt lose weight as you burn off fat but then regain good weight in the form of muscle if you're concentrating on how you look rather than a number.


    I don't know about suggesting this. When people Chaser's size pick goals based on superficiality "a look", that goal is usually to look like Brad Pitt or something and when it doesn't happen they quit.I think resonable GOAL SETTING is best. For example: I want to be smaller, I want to look better naked, I want to go down a size or two." I suggest goals like this because the subject will actually see these kinds of subtle differences as their attitude improves and the exercise training starts to work. THE OVERALL LOOK they want is far off, but the subtle changes aren't and should be broken up into individual goals. Basically, a large part of ChaserPrize's problem is not the way he looks, but the way he feels, goal setting and success over those goals is really the only way for him to improve a lifetime of negative thought patterns....just my two cents.

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    Jun 16, 2008 5:36 PM GMT
    Gigaram saidI would just add to this, drop the numerical goal. Pick a "look" you want. You will no doubt lose weight as you burn off fat but then regain good weight in the form of muscle if you're concentrating on how you look rather than a number.


    GuiltyGear said
    I don't know about suggesting this. When people Chaser's size pick goals based on superficiality "a look", that goal is usually to look like Brad Pitt or something and when it doesn't happen they quit.I think resonable GOAL SETTING is best....


    Actually, no, we meant the same thing - you just explained it better than I did! Thanks. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 16, 2008 5:44 PM GMT

    Actually, yes, I suggested short term goals (plural) and you suggested a long term goal (singular).
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