A Christmas Letter to Her Gay Son

  • GQjock

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    Dec 26, 2011 6:39 PM GMT
    Okay ... This might make you cry but here goes

    My dear Jacob,
    As I was going through a box of keepsakes, I came across a Christmas list you had written when you were a young boy. On the list were things we could easily find in stores, and I always enjoyed finding them for you, wrapping them up and putting them under our tree. You were always so appreciative and opened them with great joy. The joy Papa and I felt was even greater.
    There is only one gift I want to give you this year. I have wanted to give it to you for many years. I have tried in every way possible to find a way to give it to you. It would bring me the greatest joy of all.
    How do I give you equality? How do I give you back the years you have missed “not being equal” in this world?
    Your high school and college years should have been ones where you dated and went to proms and dances with someone you were attracted to and wanted to spend time with as a couple. You should not have had to spend those years working for your equality. You should not have had to defend your dignity. You should not have had to miss out on the simple pleasures of a young teen and a young adult.
    There is no way I can give you back those years, those times when you should have been having fun, enjoying life, and growing from those experiences.

    Maybe that is why it is so hard for me to face Christmas each year and not be able to wrap up the one gift I most want to give you. As a mother, it is such a part of my being to want to nurture and love my children. It is the mother in me that wants to protect and provide for you. It is the mother in me that is hurting so much when I am helpless in being able to give you the one gift I have wanted to give you since the day you told us you were gay.
    I want to give you equality. I want to wrap it up in a beautiful box, and I want to put it under our tree right now. I want to see you open it on Christmas Eve and with great joy live with it all your days.
    I love you, Mama

  • fitnfun1

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    Dec 29, 2011 7:02 AM GMT
    Very cool, thanks for posting.
  • okologische

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    Dec 29, 2011 7:18 AM GMT
    this made me cry...i can only hope my parents will be like this
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    Dec 29, 2011 7:22 AM GMT
    wow good stuff
  • calamedes

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    Dec 29, 2011 7:28 AM GMT
    Is there a category for "Best Mom Ever"?
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    Dec 29, 2011 8:11 AM GMT
    I wish I would get something like this from my Mom but yeah.. that will be the day.
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    Dec 29, 2011 8:36 AM GMT
    Not to be the voice of dissent on this heartfelt sentiment from a loving mother to her son, but do you know what I think of when I read this? Spilled hot coffee. Spilled hot coffee that somewhere at sometime in the not too distant past someone thought was such a personal tragedy and personal attack that they sued McDonald's for millions for distress and won.

    When I read this I can't help but read between the lines the mom saying "Son, I am so sorry for your miserable youth and that I was helpless to remedy it".

    Fuck that.

    Whatever her son went through growing up in the US and gay I went through 10x worse growing up gay in an absolutely intolerant country (since then Mexico's made leaps and bounds accepting homosexuality. We got legal marriage now, bitches!). Did I get mercilessly assaulted and picked on? You bet! Did I grow up miserable? Fuck no. My life growing up was far from ideal but I never played the victim. I never needed someone to say "poor you, I am so sorry you didn't have it better". No one's life is ideal. The majority's life is far from ideal. You can still be amazingly happy with whatever you have, however little it may be.

    My response to a mother's letter like that is "Mom, thank you for loving me, thank you for accepting me for who I am. And you can stop there. Because I am, and have always been, responsible for my own happiness."
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    Dec 29, 2011 8:38 AM GMT
    I want this letter to be released on CNN
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    Dec 29, 2011 8:43 AM GMT
    Justtrying saidI want this letter to be released on CNN