Dec 27, 2011 2:48 AM GMT
Right now I'm dating someone, but I feel that I might be ending it come the new year. I'm considering NOT dating anymore, but also considering being more inclusive in whom I date to meet different people. I see so many great looking guys of many races, but I don't know how to even start. I'm not one to go out to clubs since I've been there and done that.
If you ask why I'm considering ending this one is because I feel that he's not ready for a relationship. He says that we need to spend more time together, but the days that we can spend time which are Saturday night, Sunday and Monday evenings, he wants to go out to the club and I'm over going out. It's to the point where he goes out every weekend and if not both days, atleast one of the weekend nights. He went out Christmas Eve, and Christmas day night. I stayed home. We've talked about it and his justification is that he works hard and that's how he blows off steam.
Yet he tells me when we're together that he doesn't need to go out and he doesn't know what he goes out for or what he's looking for. We've talked and talked and talked and now I'm just letting him do his thing and I'm doing mine, not making any effort to spend time with him. Tonight he was invited to a dinner by a friend who normally cooks on Christmas day and I wasn't invited, but I try to include him in things I'm invited too. We were both also off today and nothing was mentioned about spending the day together and before I could bring it up, He said he had stuff to do. It will be a year at the end of January and I don't think we will make it. What makes it harder is that there are genuine feelings involved on both parts and I actually had thoughts of marrying him one day. But I'm not feeling that way anymore. I don't think there is a future with him. Yes I do love him and that hurts the most.
Anyway, enough of the venting although I needed it! What is the best way of meeting quality new people short of the clubs and sex sites?
If you ask why I'm considering ending this one is because I feel that he's not ready for a relationship. He says that we need to spend more time together, but the days that we can spend time which are Saturday night, Sunday and Monday evenings, he wants to go out to the club and I'm over going out. It's to the point where he goes out every weekend and if not both days, atleast one of the weekend nights. He went out Christmas Eve, and Christmas day night. I stayed home. We've talked about it and his justification is that he works hard and that's how he blows off steam.
Yet he tells me when we're together that he doesn't need to go out and he doesn't know what he goes out for or what he's looking for. We've talked and talked and talked and now I'm just letting him do his thing and I'm doing mine, not making any effort to spend time with him. Tonight he was invited to a dinner by a friend who normally cooks on Christmas day and I wasn't invited, but I try to include him in things I'm invited too. We were both also off today and nothing was mentioned about spending the day together and before I could bring it up, He said he had stuff to do. It will be a year at the end of January and I don't think we will make it. What makes it harder is that there are genuine feelings involved on both parts and I actually had thoughts of marrying him one day. But I'm not feeling that way anymore. I don't think there is a future with him. Yes I do love him and that hurts the most.
Anyway, enough of the venting although I needed it! What is the best way of meeting quality new people short of the clubs and sex sites?
