varsity collegiate athletics

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    Dec 27, 2011 5:39 PM GMT
    Alright, so I play DIII college soccer at a small private school in Ohio in an extremely competitive conference. I haven't worked up the courage to come out to my team, but I have told a couple of my teammates (i.e. my two roommates). I know plenty of the guys on this site competed at the varsity level in college and I was wondering how those experiences were.

    Hope everything is going well for all of you!

    Ross
  • laxdude25

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    Dec 27, 2011 6:41 PM GMT
    I competed at the varsity level in a D1 conference, but it was a long time ago. For more recent and relevant experience, you might check out the captain of the Bowdoin Lacrosse team, who came out without any issues. I actually exchanged a few emails with him to congratulate him and get his perspective, and he is a terrific guy. Here is just the article from the Bowdoin news desk:
    [url]http://www.bowdoin.edu/news/archives/1bowdoincampus/008415.shtml/[url]
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    Dec 27, 2011 7:04 PM GMT
    I didn't go to school in this country. We had soccer and swimming and track. That was about it as far as I remember.
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    Dec 27, 2011 7:05 PM GMT
    Well... I didn't participate in sports in College but in high school I did. I was open with the guys on my swim team and we were cool. As for college, I attended a small private catholic university that is part of NAIA's Red River Confrence and I actually sat on the committee to bring sports to our University. I kept myself involved with the players and what I found was that most of them didn't care if someone was gay or not. Alot of times I felt that it depended on the sport. Seemd like the soccer guys didn't give a shit. The girls teams didn't care. Men's basketball eh... I'd have thought twice before coming out so long as I could back my shit up out on the court. I think it just kind of depends. The cool think is though that you have is at least two of your bros... and I say bros for a reason... have your back. Good luck!
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    Dec 27, 2011 7:10 PM GMT
    I was on the varsity (or the British equivalent there of) rowing team at my University, very open, very accepting, and basically half of the lower squad boats were gay anyway. The whole mentality towards it was completely different.
  • tazzari

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    Sep 25, 2012 3:29 AM GMT
    I was in US Team level sports (and three Olympics) as a coach, and before that in high-school. I know coaching is a different thing, but with the exception of pone or two people and one other coach, no one cared, other than maybe to tease my athletes on one of two occasions - who call became very gay-positive through the experience. And that was in the 80's and 90's.

    European teams I worked with and for cared even less.

    I think if you act with dignity and achieve respect for what you do and for honesty, there is very little that will happen - and you'll be far, far happier and more free.
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    Sep 25, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    Sometimes it's obvious you're gay, you don't realize it, and everyone else doesn't know how to talk to you because you won't admit it. I think I am a case in point. I was not out when I was swimming in college, but I am pretty sure some of the guys suspected (and a lot of the girls probably knew).
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    Sep 25, 2012 3:59 AM GMT
    this thread is from december...
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    Sep 25, 2012 4:03 AM GMT
    calibro saidthis thread is from december...


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    Sep 25, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    I swam D1. Was never an issue - there were always a few of us gays on the team (after I came a out a bunch of others followed suit actually icon_lol.gif ) So whoever says straight guys can't compete, bond, and be friends with gays in sports environments are full of it.
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    Sep 25, 2012 5:29 AM GMT
    This thread is disappointingly devoid of imagery. icon_sad.gif
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    Sep 04, 2013 11:10 AM GMT
    So dude did you come out? How did it go?
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    Oct 22, 2013 7:02 AM GMT
    Look at the OP date. He probably graduated last year and left RJ before then. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Amelorn

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    Oct 22, 2013 10:56 AM GMT
    JeanDeau saidI was on the varsity (or the British equivalent there of) rowing team at my University, very open, very accepting, and basically half of the lower squad boats were gay anyway. The whole mentality towards it was completely different.


    Sounds like the rowing socials would have been fun. icon_wink.gif