dude called me trashy for moving on?

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    Dec 27, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    i was seeing a guy for a while, and after 3 weeks he starts ignoring me. assuming it was over i started talking to another guy after 3 days of not talking to him at all.

    then he sends me a text that we would better off be friends and im like ok, i already moved on. he called me a piece of trash for moving on so fast and all this other stuff that i dont care to repeat. What the hell? he dumped me and i only did what was natural...

    anyone else had a similar experiece? any advice?
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    Dec 27, 2011 8:31 PM GMT
    you already moved on.

    who gives a shit what he says. he's obviously projecting his trashiness onto you.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Dec 27, 2011 8:49 PM GMT
    ok i am confused. when you say ignoring you; what do you mean? he stopped talking to you and returning your text messages or phone calls? i need a little more to go off of than what you have put on here. i am completely confused because at this point I am thinking he has a right to be a little upset.
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    Dec 27, 2011 8:50 PM GMT
    I would have waited more than 3 days before I started talking to someone but eh.. that's me. I guess it just depends on the situation. My ex and I had a siutation like that but turns out he was arrested... shit happens.
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    Dec 27, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    Phoenyx saidassuming it was over i started talking to another guy after 3 days of not talking to him at all...



    I wouldve at least made sure what was going on with your relationship before you started finding someone else. Assuming is never the way to go with relationships.


    Secondly, when he did write to tell you he just wanted to be friends, I probably wouldve just said ok and let him know youd still be happy with that. That way if things could still have a possibility of being together later on if things dont work out for either of you.
    Why even mention youve already been talking to other people? It was only THREE DAYS!

    That does sound pretty quick to me.

    Not saying youre trashy, just saying you should probably finish whats on your plate before going back to the buffet.
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    Dec 27, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    projection.
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    Dec 27, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    Have you ever read the book "Their Eyes were Watching God"? No? Well it provides great insight into relationships. See the main character was also considered trashy and bounced from relationship to relationship and moved from place to place in her home state before returning home to tell her story to her best friend. My point is something similar to this is happening to you. TL;DR, outside of a great read, just know that haters are gonna hate, and let him think what he wants to think.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Dec 27, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    Ryan_Andrew saidI would have waited more than 3 days before I started talking to someone but eh.. that's me. I guess it just depends on the situation. My ex and I had a siutation like that but turns out he was arrested... shit happens.
    LOL stop it you are joking. right?
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    Dec 27, 2011 9:03 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    Ryan_Andrew saidI would have waited more than 3 days before I started talking to someone but eh.. that's me. I guess it just depends on the situation. My ex and I had a siutation like that but turns out he was arrested... shit happens.
    LOL stop it you are joking. right?


    I wish I was... I'm VERY serious about that situation.
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    Dec 27, 2011 9:42 PM GMT
    hmmmm... He texts to announce the end of the dating relationship (which is kinda trashy & insensitive in itself), and when he learns the OP had already figured that out and moved on himself, calls the OP the trashy one.

    At the same time, while the OP was ultimately correct about the relationship ending, deciding that after only 3 days does seem a little premature. If not trashy, it may have revealed a bit of impatience that might annoy any guy.

    Well, all academic, since the other guy was the one to officially call it quits. So he's not in a strong position to complain, if the OP was able to divine his intentions before he actually announced them. Never had that happen to me, but I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.
  • rnch

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    Dec 27, 2011 9:43 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidprojection.






    yup icon_exclaim.gif
  • TheIStrat

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    Dec 27, 2011 9:44 PM GMT
    Not your problem honey
  • DCEric

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    Dec 27, 2011 10:11 PM GMT
    So?
  • rnch

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    Dec 27, 2011 10:11 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidNot your problem honey






    agree
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    Dec 27, 2011 10:13 PM GMT
    Welcome to RealJock!
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    Dec 27, 2011 10:13 PM GMT
    He's jealous because you've moved on and HE Hasn't.
    That's His issue. Carry on....
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    Dec 27, 2011 11:20 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidok i am confused. when you say ignoring you; what do you mean? he stopped talking to you and returning your text messages or phone calls? i need a little more to go off of than what you have put on here. i am completely confused because at this point I am thinking he has a right to be a little upset.


    has the meaning of ignoring changed since i posted this? and he wouldnt talk to me so its not like i could have a discussion about what was going onicon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 28, 2011 12:33 AM GMT
    running11 saidyou already moved on.

    who gives a shit what he says. he's obviously projecting his trashiness onto you.


    Agreed.

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    Dec 28, 2011 5:03 AM GMT
    Phoenyx saidi was seeing a guy for a while, and after 3 weeks he starts ignoring me. assuming it was over i started talking to another guy after 3 days of not talking to him at all.

    then he sends me a text that we would better off be friends and im like ok, i already moved on. he called me a piece of trash for moving on so fast and all this other stuff that i dont care to repeat. What the hell? he dumped me and i only did what was natural...

    anyone else had a similar experiece? any advice?



    He's either playing games with you, or his poor little ego was bruised when he found out you weren't sitting by the phone waiting on him to call you. Three weeks isn't a long time, easy blow off.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 28, 2011 5:07 AM GMT
    I wouldn't call you a piece of trash, but you both made a mistake and it's called "communication". If you care, you don't assume.. based on 3 days of non communication.

    You take the mature route, you take the initiative and communicate. If you tried to talk to him and he didn't respond, thats one thing... neither of you did a thing.

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    Dec 28, 2011 5:10 AM GMT
    wow. what a hooker.