An Observation (Guaranteed to be a flame war!)

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 3:59 AM GMT
    Why is it that Asian guys can never seem to take a hint? When I'm at work at the bar and an Asian guy hits on me, I try to signal that I'm busy and not interested - I AM at work, after all. However, the guy doesn't seem to get the hint. Here's how it goes:

    Asian guy (AG): "(Insert verbal come-on)"
    Me (Carrying glassware and/or a bucket of ice, dismissive): "Thanks"
    I avoid eye contact and try to walk past. When I'm at work, my focus is on the job. I always wear a staff shirt and athletic shorts.
    AG moves to block my path and grabs my junk. Using my free hand, I push his hand away.
    AG then tries to kiss me. With my free hand, I shove him back.
    Me: "NOT acceptable! Did you ever learn manners?!"

    Literally, this exact script happens every Saturday, and it's ALWAYS an Asian guy - sometimes the guy will speak perfect English, other times he won't, so I don't think a language barrier has anything to do with it. Guys of every other race can pick up on when someone is not interested. I'm curious why Asian guys don't seem to be able to. Cue flame war.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    I don't think Asians are the only ones to do that. I find Middle Eastern men of my kind do the same thing, but when you shut them down, they will abuse you to no end....


  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 4:05 AM GMT
    Do you work in a gay bar?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 4:08 AM GMT
    Claystation saidDo you work in a gay bar?


    Yep. It's quite an experience.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 4:10 AM GMT
    Maybe they're drunk when they do this.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 4:14 AM GMT
    Claystation saidMaybe they're drunk when they do this.


    I don't think they always are... even if so, the percent of drunk people would be approximately equal across patrons of all races, and patrons of other races don't engage in this kind of creepy behavior.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 4:14 AM GMT
    icon_eek.gif need I be more descriptive.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 4:15 AM GMT
    FrostedFlakes said
    I don't think they always are... even if so, the percent of drunk people would be approximately equal across patrons of all races, and patrons of other races don't engage in this kind of creepy behavior.


    I don't know then, I guess you are going to have to wait for the FLAME!!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 4:32 AM GMT
    So White guys really aren't that easy?...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 5:18 AM GMT
    Lenoxx said So White guys really aren't that easy?...


    No, he's just not into Asians frosting his flakesicon_eek.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 5:26 AM GMT
    Hillie said
    Lenoxx said So White guys really aren't that easy?...


    No, he's just not into Asians frosting his flakesicon_eek.gif


    But they'rrrrre greeeeeeeeeeeat!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 5:32 AM GMT
    Lenoxx said
    Hillie said
    Lenoxx said So White guys really aren't that easy?...


    No, he's just not into Asians frosting his flakesicon_eek.gif


    But they'rrrrre greeeeeeeeeeeat!


    Yeah, but that tony is no tigericon_twisted.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 5:34 AM GMT
    Meh. My bf use to bartend at a gay bar and I always heard they same story. I think it really does have to do with you being a cute guy. I just came from a bar and wanted to dry hump the hot barback. But I knew that it would be tacky and immature (two things I am anyways) so I passed.

    Don't look too much into it. Where you are they are mainly Asian (kung fu chop!!!!) but I would say they are all ethnic groups...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 5:35 AM GMT
    I think the OP is getting trolled at work. One of his co-workers is probably spreading rumors that he's a rice queen. icon_lol.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 5:59 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    xrichx saidI think the OP is getting trolled at work. One of his co-workers is probably spreading rumors that he's a rice queen. icon_lol.gif

    Or it sounds like he is just too nice of a guy and these guys have found good fodder to tell each other how he reacted


    LOL. You said "fodder"...icon_biggrin.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 9:26 AM GMT
    FrostedFlakes saidWhy is it that Asian guys can never seem to take a hint? When I'm at work at the bar and an Asian guy hits on me, I try to signal that I'm busy and not interested - I AM at work, after all. However, the guy doesn't seem to get the hint. Here's how it goes:

    Asian guy (AG): "(Insert verbal come-on)"
    Me (Carrying glassware and/or a bucket of ice, dismissive): "Thanks"
    I avoid eye contact and try to walk past. When I'm at work, my focus is on the job. I always wear a staff shirt and athletic shorts.
    AG moves to block my path and grabs my junk. Using my free hand, I push his hand away.
    AG then tries to kiss me. With my free hand, I shove him back.
    Me: "NOT acceptable! Did you ever learn manners?!"

    Literally, this exact script happens every Saturday, and it's ALWAYS an Asian guy - sometimes the guy will speak perfect English, other times he won't, so I don't think a language barrier has anything to do with it. Guys of every other race can pick up on when someone is not interested. I'm curious why Asian guys don't seem to be able to. Cue flame war.




    Ten dolla tell me this one just got dumped by an asian guy not too long ago.

    This story doesn't add up. Why would any asian with decent taste even bother? Seriously? Not to mention, this guy's a BARTENDER. Ew.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 10:20 AM GMT
    panda_person_i_is said
    Ten dolla tell me this one just got dumped by an asian guy not too long ago.

    This story doesn't add up. Why would any asian with decent taste even bother? Seriously? Not to mention, this guy's a BARTENDER. Ew.


    ...lol anorexia much? I could go on about your fulfillment of racial stereotypes but it's late and I'd rather not.

    Never dated an Asian - I'm not into full Asians. Asian-X mixed guys can be HOT though.

    Now THAT should get the flame war BURNING.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 10:25 AM GMT
    FrostedFlakes saidWhy is it that Asian guys can never seem to take a hint? When I'm at work at the bar and an Asian guy hits on me, I try to signal that I'm busy and not interested - I AM at work, after all. However, the guy doesn't seem to get the hint. Here's how it goes:

    Asian guy (AG): "(Insert verbal come-on)"
    Me (Carrying glassware and/or a bucket of ice, dismissive): "Thanks"
    I avoid eye contact and try to walk past. When I'm at work, my focus is on the job. I always wear a staff shirt and athletic shorts.
    AG moves to block my path and grabs my junk. Using my free hand, I push his hand away.
    AG then tries to kiss me. With my free hand, I shove him back.
    Me: "NOT acceptable! Did you ever learn manners?!"

    Literally, this exact script happens every Saturday, and it's ALWAYS an Asian guy - sometimes the guy will speak perfect English, other times he won't, so I don't think a language barrier has anything to do with it. Guys of every other race can pick up on when someone is not interested. I'm curious why Asian guys don't seem to be able to. Cue flame war.


    Soooo is it an asian men only thing or can we all just grab your junk? icon_razz.gif

    Seriously though I don't think it's acceptable. As long as you're polite to begin with then I don't see a problem with you getting more blunt/direct if they can't take an obvious hint.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 10:45 AM GMT
    GayLibrarian saidIm really curious about this but this wont be a flame war. Why do you want it to be? Racial stereotypes is a source of humor for you?

    Back to the thread....
    Do these guys hit on others?


    I figured it would be a flame war since every thread about Asians becomes one.

    I'm not sure if they hit on others, but I would assume they do.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 2:50 PM GMT
    Let me rephrase your question to rid it of sophomoric undertones:

    "Why is it that SOME Asian guys IN SEATTLE can never seem to take a hint? When I'm at work at the bar and an Asian guy hits on me, I try to signal that I'm busy and not interested - I AM at work, after all. However, the guy doesn't seem to get the hint. . . ."

    While I can't speak to your personal experiences, I can tell you that the majority of attractive asian and mixed asian guys in major U.S. cities have too much pride and dignity to do what you've described. They're usually too educated, too well-mannered, too rich, too discerning, and too elitist (yeah, just like me) to go down to that level.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 6:53 PM GMT
    Not that I condone unwanted overt come-ons, but dude. You work at a gay bar. Those things happen. Get over yourself.

    tumblr_luuax4f3in1r05985.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 7:00 PM GMT
    No idea. There are like 2 Asians in my city.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 7:21 PM GMT
    FrostedFlakes said
    Claystation saidDo you work in a gay bar?

    Yep. It's quite an experience.

    I've been in just about every Seattle gay bar, and I've almost never seen any Asians. Not sure why, but there it is. Despite a large Asian population in the city.

    Perhaps I know your gay bar -- would be surprising if I didn't. Asians in general tend to be rather quiet and reserved. I've never known any to behave as you describe. This would be a new thing I haven't ever seen. Maybe they're overseas tourists, whose native inhibitions drop when they're away from home. We see that down here in Florida with foreign visitors, who can be quite obnoxious. When they're not home they seem to forget all the rules.
  • lykewise

    Posts: 30

    Dec 28, 2011 7:54 PM GMT
    What do you want people to say exactly?
    For you it could be very annoying that they have no manners and do that.
    But for the peace on this forum you could choose to not share these kinds of stories... because it sounds like you are making some kind of stereotype.

    Of course you have the right to share your stories. Maybe you can ask your co-workers if they have the same experiences and they might see why the Asians approach you and how you act.

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 28, 2011 8:14 PM GMT
    skykey and lykewise, the OP was trying to start a flame war. Many of us are not obliging him.

    What will infuriate him is NOT posting what you did.
    What you posted is what he was hoping for.

    icon_wink.gif