When making your New Year's Resolutions - Top five regrets of the dying

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    Dec 29, 2011 9:39 PM GMT
    Read the full article here:
    http://kellyoxford.tumblr.com/post/14958669440/nurse-reveals-top-5-regrets-of-the-dying

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    NURSE REVEALS TOP 5 REGRETS OF THE DYING

    1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

    2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

    3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

    4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

    5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

    These seem like great guidelines for setting your resolutions for the new year.

    I think #2 is currently my biggest challenge / regret, but #3 still needs some more work too. The others I'm ok with.

    If 2012 were your last year of life, what regrets would you have?
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    Dec 29, 2011 10:51 PM GMT
    Thanks for this citypolo. I volunteer in palliative, and I'll say no more.

    Happy New Year to you!

    warmly,

    -Doug
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    Dec 29, 2011 11:04 PM GMT
    citpolo saidIf 2012 were your last year of life, what regrets would you have?

    That I left my partner with so many practical things he still doesn't know how to do. His computer will lock-up hopelessly the day I'm gone, and he still hasn't the slightest clue how to properly load our dishwasher, nor how to use our 3-D flat screen HDTV, or even figure out his iPhone. The list is endless.

    As for myself, not a thing. Other than missing him. I've been everywhere, done everything, it's not like I'm being shortchanged if I check out tomorrow, no regrets on that account. I've lived a very full life, and I'll go without complaints.

    Other than, as I said, I won't be there to take care of him. I don't wanna leave him alone, let him down, I really don't. I do truly think he needs me, and that's the only real reason I have any more for hanging around, it certainly isn't to please myself.
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    Dec 30, 2011 12:02 AM GMT
    I would live my life exactly as I would.

    No regrets here...
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    Dec 30, 2011 1:30 AM GMT
    I've never made a resolution before but I needed to see these. I'm guilty of them all and they are all things I would regret in the future. Think it's a good time to wake up!

    Thank you for this.
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    Dec 30, 2011 1:37 AM GMT
    That I didn't come out in high school.
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    Dec 30, 2011 1:38 AM GMT
    citpolo saidRead the full article here:
    http://kellyoxford.tumblr.com/post/14958669440/nurse-reveals-top-5-regrets-of-the-dying

    In summary:

    NURSE REVEALS TOP 5 REGRETS OF THE DYING

    1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

    2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

    3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

    4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

    5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

    These seem like great guidelines for setting your resolutions for the new year.

    I think #2 is currently my biggest challenge / regret, but #3 still needs some more work too. The others I'm ok with.

    If 2012 were your last year of life, what regrets would you have?


    I have no problems with number 4, as I have a tendency to emotionally vomit all over the place.

    But, I would say that number 5 would be my weak point. I think ahead a lot, and worry about things a lot and find it hard to live in the moment.

    edit: I meant to bold 3. . .and say I have no problems with it, too stupid and fat to spend time correcting it the right way
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    Dec 30, 2011 2:40 AM GMT
    Honestly, i have no regrets about working hard or living up to people's expectations of me... I find it satisfying and makes me feel like I contribute to the world... I guess 3 is an issue for me at the moment
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    Dec 30, 2011 2:42 AM GMT
    #1 sadly
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    Dec 30, 2011 2:50 AM GMT

    #1 In past years I have regretted that but 2011 has been a good year for that,

    #2 is regretted. I worked an average of 75 hours a week, and did not get days off every week.

    My own regret is that I didn't go back to school but that is my resolution for this year.

    That's all I have to say about the list above. Thanks by the way for posting this list. Very appropriate.
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    Dec 30, 2011 5:31 AM GMT
    #6 I wish I had listened when they called me "cocksucker" in high school.

    I could have been the football team's bitch.
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    Dec 30, 2011 5:36 AM GMT
    If I were to drop dead at the stroke of midnight of 2012, my only regret would be that I didn't accomplish everything I wanted to do (and the list is pretty long).

    ... and maybe everyone I wanted to do? icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 30, 2011 5:36 AM GMT
    My goals for 2012 would be:
    To build on what I started on in 2011 in relation to study and health.
    Regain some of my financial wealth.
    Travel to the UK, Brasil and Norfolk Island.
    Meet some new and interesting people.
    Find my self in situations that my (so far elusive) ideal partner would likely be.
    Be happy stay focused and enjoy.icon_smile.gif



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    Dec 30, 2011 5:47 AM GMT
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    citpolo saidIf 2012 were your last year of life, what regrets would you have?

    That I left my partner with so many practical things he still doesn't know how to do. His computer will lock-up hopelessly the day I'm gone, and he still hasn't the slightest clue how to properly load our dishwasher, nor how to use our 3-D flat screen HDTV, or even figure out his iPhone. The list is endless.

    As for myself, not a thing. Other than missing him. I've been everywhere, done everything, it's not like I'm being shortchanged if I check out tomorrow, no regrets on that account. I've lived a very full life, and I'll go without complaints.

    Other than, as I said, I won't be there to take care of him. I don't wanna leave him alone, let him down, I really don't. I do truly think he needs me, and that's the only real reason I have any more for hanging around, it certainly isn't to please myself.

    And having just re-read this, I wonder what the fuck I'm doing at this computer at this hour, and not lying in bed with him, cuddling and holding his hand? Neither of us have that many years that I can waste them at a keyboard, rather than with him. Good-nite guys! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 30, 2011 6:57 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidNo Regrets ... damn I knew I should have thrown out that box external hard drive of porn


    Updated!
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    Dec 30, 2011 7:16 AM GMT
    I'd regret university.
    I wouldn't have had a chance to reap the rewards from it yet, and the years I've spent on it would have been wasted.
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    Dec 30, 2011 7:18 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    Ariodante said
    AMoonHawk saidNo Regrets ... damn I knew I should have thrown out that box external hard drive of porn


    Updated!

    Oh ... you know me so well .... I designate you to get rid of the evidence in case of my early demise icon_twisted.gif


    ..why is this hard drive so sticky....

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    have you been handling this after eating PB&J!!??
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    Dec 30, 2011 7:19 AM GMT
    2011 was my year for making spectacularly poor decisions.

    2012 is gonna be my year for making spectacular accomplishments! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 30, 2011 7:20 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    Ariodante said
    AMoonHawk said
    Ariodante said
    AMoonHawk saidNo Regrets ... damn I knew I should have thrown out that box external hard drive of porn


    Updated!

    Oh ... you know me so well .... I designate you to get rid of the evidence in case of my early demise icon_twisted.gif


    ..why is this hard drive so sticky....

    icon_eek.gif

    have you been handling this after eating PB&J!!??

    Ya ... pbj ... that's it ... that's what it is


    yummy =D *licks fingers*
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    Dec 30, 2011 8:22 AM GMT
    I could die quite satisfied with my life. The are certainly some things I still want to accomplish but they are not regrets.

    I try not to regret but simply accept my defeats and move forward. My biggest regret is not having the courage to move away from this shithole of a city. I am working on that because I will not let myself die here.
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    Dec 30, 2011 9:41 AM GMT
    If 2012 were my last year of life, what regrets would I have?

    My updated profile shows how happy I am. It's inevitable, we are all going to die. If I were to die in 2012, I have no regrets.

    1. I can truly say that I live a life true to myself. I do not want to live the life that someone else expects of me. Fuck the idiot that thinks he can make me feel any different! It ain't going to happen. I am a genuine, authentic, loving, honest, passionate and caring man. No regrets.
    2. What do I want to work so hard for? For what? What will that do for me? Where will that get me? Probably in a grave sooner than I would want to be! No regrets.
    3. I never had the courage to express myself up until now at age 65. I was afraid to express myself, for fear that men would reject me. But now... I'll express my feelings anytime I need to. 2011 has been a phenomenal year for me learning how to express myself and love myself! No regrets.
    4. I do need to improve my connects with family and friends. But I continue to get better reaching out to all those I love and who love me! I stay connected. No regrets.
    5. The happiness started at the beginning of 2011 and has gotten bigger and better every day! Without a doubt, I'm the happiest I have ever been in my entire life! No regrets.
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    Dec 30, 2011 9:57 AM GMT
    My near death experience had changed me completely.
    I am happy to be here to share it! What I saw you'll just have to see for yourself when your time comes... I'm glad I have the chance to start again, even though it was tempting not to return.
    Since then I've viewed the world and everything in it very differently.

    I no longer have regrets.