Getting Hitched: Would You If You Could?

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    Feb 22, 2007 8:59 PM GMT
    As ceremonies begin today in New Jersey with the recent state law establishing civil unions, I am curious to know... would you if you could?
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    Feb 22, 2007 11:19 PM GMT
    first i guess id have to meet someone... but certainly, im all for a monogamous relationship and having that culminate in a marriage -- or civil union
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    Feb 22, 2007 11:50 PM GMT
    Yes. I'm in a monogomous relationship with the love of my life. I would love to marry him and am thinking we will most likely do it regardless of legality.
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    Feb 23, 2007 1:48 AM GMT
    One day we we will all be able to everywhere, and i deserve a husband and children just as much as anyone else. So hell yea i would.
  • dfrourke

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    Feb 23, 2007 3:41 AM GMT
    If I was in a healthy relationship with a great guy...you bet!
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    Feb 23, 2007 4:50 AM GMT
    My boyfriend (of 10 years) won't marry me until it's legal in California. We're currently domestic partners, which has to be the least romantic-sounding term on earth. But if and when same-sex marriage is legal in CA, I'm going to drag his butt down the aisle.
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    Feb 23, 2007 5:04 AM GMT
    Like Margaret Cho said...only a fascist nation would deny a gay man his right to bridal registry.

    Honestly, I don't know if I would marry. It sounds great, and the tax breaks would be nice, but marriage seems to represent convenience more than union in many cases (especially when the love wears off).

    What the hell...there's always annulment.

    This doesn't mean I think marriage is bad for everyone. We should all have the right. I just wouldn't choose it for myself.
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    Feb 23, 2007 5:14 AM GMT
    yes with the right guy, I most definitely would. I dont see it happening anytime soon, but some day Im sure it will happen for me with the time is right.
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    Feb 23, 2007 7:00 AM GMT
    Married!?!?! Hell, I'd just like to get a second date!
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    Feb 23, 2007 9:48 AM GMT
    I would one day. And i wouldnt need the government or a ceremony to tell me its official. Filing my taxes together with someone doesnt mean i love them and neither does a party.
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    Feb 23, 2007 12:23 PM GMT
    Marriage is not for me. I don't believe in it in for heterosexuals anymore and I don't think it's a model that would suit my life and my ideal of regularly renewed and strengthened commitment - that piece of paper oft become an excuse for behaving diffently or to let indifference and routine set; there are no binding contracts that are suitable for matters of the heart as far as I am concerned.

    HOWEVER -

    It's legal here in Canada and I have been an active and avid advocate of gay marriage throughout: Everyone should be entitled to get married, if they want to. Not getting married has to be my choice, not by lack of other option.
  • Laurence

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    Feb 23, 2007 1:45 PM GMT
    I agree with TerryC.

    Why we want to copy these out-dated straight rituals is beyond me.

    As an advocate for equality I also believe that Gay couples should have the right to a marriage, the same as their straight counterparts.

    As some straight comedian said, 'Gays should have the right to get married - why shouldn't they suffer like the rest of us?'
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    Feb 23, 2007 3:12 PM GMT
    People should have the right to do whatever the hell they want. Screw the "common good." This means your agenda, too, Lefties. Universal health care is as moronic as banning gay marriage. Every man for himself. It's the way Mother Nature intended it. Government intervention is unnatural. But then that's what makes marriage so nice. Two people coming together and forging a force against the big, bad, evil world....
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    Feb 23, 2007 6:25 PM GMT
    it is scary, but, i think yes, i will do it,
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    Feb 23, 2007 6:57 PM GMT
    YOu know as stright as it sounds, i would love to get married one day, and have kids. I don't know why, i just do.

    But i am also a hopless romantic
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    Feb 23, 2007 11:53 PM GMT
    Responding to the question assuming that you meant "hitched to a man"....my answer is yes. I tend to committment with my friends, and would love to do so with a boyfriend.

    Oh, and you don't have to assume that any negative aspects of the straight model have to be carried over to the gay world.

    I'd like to love and be loved by someone enough so that we are willing to commit to one another in a formal way.

    So if you don't like the word "marriage" try "committment ceremony."

    John
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    Feb 24, 2007 6:00 AM GMT
    Okay, so I'm going a little off topic, but here goes...

    I am particularly disturbed by anyone that would outright say « screw the common good, every man for himself, that's how mother nature would intend it » I guess it's because I realize that I, for one, have won the lottery big time when my parents decided to immigrate to North America from a third world country, some half-century ago. I have no merit in being born here, and judging from the plight of billions all over the world, I guess the least that I can do for winning this birth-place random lottery is make an effort to contribute the common good. I an no more deserving of the life I was born into than the ones dying of hunger or being caught in a war waged for the interest of the occident are of their daily horrors.

    With this kind of reasonning, klansmen were the tools of natural selection, as was every basher who picked and beat a kid because he was stronger - natural selection! - and every other horror in our history that has proven that we're not as evolved a species as we'd like to pretend that we are.
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    Feb 24, 2007 2:29 PM GMT
    TerryC, thanks for the synopsis of CNN's daily news broadcast. Now back to the real world....
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    Feb 24, 2007 2:33 PM GMT
    P.S. If people minded their own businesses, just imagine how peaceful the world would be.... The do-gooders cause as much if not more trouble than the "klansmen," who, btw, think they are working for the "common good," also, just like Stalin, Castro, Pol Pot, Hitler, Saddam Huessein, Barbra Streisand, Rosie O'Donnel.... Get the picture? Yes, true humanitarians mind their own business and realize you cannot create a perfect world. Anyone who attempt to shape the world into perfection--as they interpret it--well, I guess we better start building the death camps...
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    Feb 24, 2007 6:24 PM GMT
    Hi guys.

    1st...
    Here in Portugal same sex marriage law was delayed this last week for 2009 - although you can establish what we call a legal civil union - not the same thing since it is obviously prejudicative.

    2nd...
    My reply to the forum: i strongly believe that we are political beings and so YES i would marry.

    All best!
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    Feb 27, 2007 12:39 PM GMT
    I would get "married" again, regardless if it was legalized.

    I was in a monogomous LTR for 7 years, and we had a commitment ceremony. We eventually grew apart and split up.

    If I meet the right guy, I'll still do it all over again.
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    Feb 28, 2007 4:55 AM GMT
    first of all i totally agree that marriage should be available to EVERYONE. as for me...i would do it, i think. i'm quite monogomous by nature and so is my boyfriend. we're a LONG way from marriage (dating about 6 months) but i like the idea that we could some day ;)
    great question!
  • christomax

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    Mar 23, 2007 4:18 PM GMT
    Technically I can, being that I live in Boston. Would I? If I met the right person, why not? I think it would be fun to have a celebration with friends and family about having found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Plus, smashing cake in faces is never boring.
  • nick_delta

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    Aug 03, 2009 10:25 AM GMT
    Hi, we are a Gay couple, my partner being Canadian
    and currently living and working in Canada. Im Indian by birth but of
    mixed origin (mostly refferred to as Anglo Indian here). We spend time
    together whenever my partner has work or business in India. Thus ever
    since he changed jobs his trips to India have now reduced to almost
    zero. We dont want to live apart and thus have been exploring the
    possibilities of us getting married. We know that this is possible
    only in Canada and not in India. With this in mind i would appreciate
    any advise extended. I am a Hospitality Professional and thus am
    wondering if it will be possible for me to get a job in a Hotel there,
    i am open to any entry level job and am hard working so will work my
    way up. My main intention is to be with my partner and so in this
    regard i would like to clarify what are the steps we need to take to
    move in the direction of marriage and what would its implications be.
    I had also planned to apply for immigration but need to know how our
    marriage will help in this regard or what further steps i need to
    take. Please advise. I really appreciate any advise on how to move
    forward.
    Thanks and Regards,
    Nick. P.S. Please mail me on delta.nick@gmail.com with your suggestions
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    Aug 03, 2009 10:28 AM GMT
    Yes icon_biggrin.gif I think it would be nice.

    My asshole country wont allow it though.