Awkward Dating Moment...

  • LuckyPierre

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    Dec 31, 2011 7:06 AM GMT
    O I've been chatting up a guy on Scruff for a couple of weeks. Named Chris. We just made a date to actually meet the past tuesday morning for tuesday night. Great. Tuesday PM I go to my Dr's office. Receptionist looks familiar but I'm not sure. Sitting there waiting for them to call me in, he answers the phone, 'Thank you for calling, this is Chris'. So I immediately get on Scruff to check out his photos-and it's him for sure. I go in to see the dr. As I'm leaving he's on the phone so I can't really do anything.

    I get to my truck, and text him. Tell him I really liked the blue scrubs he was wearing. Awkward.

    Sadly though he cancelled our date. I'm hoping that he will come around though.
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    Jan 01, 2012 6:38 AM GMT
    Hope it works out for you!..You sound excited for whatever reason...Happy new year and good luck!
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    Jan 01, 2012 8:47 AM GMT
    LuckyPierre saidO I've been chatting up a guy on Scruff for a couple of weeks. Named Chris. We just made a date to actually meet the past tuesday morning for tuesday night. Great. Tuesday PM I go to my Dr's office. Receptionist looks familiar but I'm not sure. Sitting there waiting for them to call me in, he answers the phone, 'Thank you for calling, this is Chris'. So I immediately get on Scruff to check out his photos-and it's him for sure. I go in to see the dr. As I'm leaving he's on the phone so I can't really do anything.

    I get to my truck, and text him. Tell him I really liked the blue scrubs he was wearing. Awkward.

    Sadly though he cancelled our date. I'm hoping that he will come around though.


    Awkward? More like creepy.

    See if you can explain the situation to Chris so that he doesn't think you were stalking him. Chris would have the records of when your appointment was made vs. when you started chatting with him, so he can put 2 and 2 together and see that you're not a cannibal or something like that.
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    Jan 01, 2012 8:50 AM GMT
    Ha! That's quite a coincidental encounter, but hey, it happens! Why cancel the date just because of that?
  • Trepeat

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    Jan 01, 2012 9:11 AM GMT
    Comfort zones are weird things. Unexpectedly show up in someone's life in a context they're unfamiliar with and it can totally freak them out, regardless of how close you were in a seperate context.
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    Jan 01, 2012 9:45 AM GMT
    Conflict of interest for one. I wouldn't hate texted him. I hope you get that call back but I highly doubt you will. Not to be a dick but just being real.
  • LuckyPierre

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    Jan 03, 2012 2:00 PM GMT
    We are still texting. I haven't given up yet!
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    Jan 03, 2012 2:06 PM GMT
    It sucks that he had been on the phone when you were about to leave - it actually could have been a cute situation if both of you realized at the same time who each other was.

    Either way, I'm sorry that he canceled! I'm sure if you just explain it well enough and use some puppy eyes that he'll come around and maybe give your date another chance.

    Best of luck!
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    Jan 03, 2012 2:08 PM GMT
    Glad you guys are keeping in contact but remember, texting back and forth can go on for so long...
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    Jan 03, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    LuckyPierre saidWe are still texting. I haven't given up yet!

    Will you see that doctor again? That may be the more awkward situation if Chris is the regular receptionist, and you guys never have that date.

    Frankly I wouldn't have texted him, but saved the "surprise" for during the date. He may have felt violated by the way you did handle it, not realizing you were being considerate in not interrupting him at his job, nor having your first meeting in his public place of work, unintentional though it was. All things you could have explained in person, when he might have appreciated your discretion & thoughtfulness in the office more.

    If you do expect to see that doctor again, and you have further communication with Chris, you might say: "Sorry if I startled you with my text, but Dr. Zxxxx is my own doctor. I recognized you from your pic right away, looks just like you, but you were too busy to interrupt and say hi... etc."

    The only other thing I can think is that this doctor specializes in certain conditions, and Chris prefers not to date guys who have them. My own primary is an HIV/AIDS specialist, and guys who know she's my doc assume it means I'm poz, which I'm not.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 03, 2012 2:35 PM GMT
    I don't think it was awkward... I think what you did was great.... pretty unusual circumstance. Unfortunate that he cancelled your date, maybe he will change his mind.. if not, his loss, right?

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  • LuckyPierre

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    Jan 05, 2012 1:35 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    LuckyPierre saidWe are still texting. I haven't given up yet!

    Will you see that doctor again? That may be the more awkward situation if Chris is the regular receptionist, and you guys never have that date.

    Frankly I wouldn't have texted him, but saved the "surprise" for during the date. He may have felt violated by the way you did handle it, not realizing you were being considerate in not interrupting him at his job, nor having your first meeting in his public place of work, unintentional though it was. All things you could have explained in person, when he might have appreciated your discretion & thoughtfulness in the office more.

    If you do expect to see that doctor again, and you have further communication with Chris, you might say: "Sorry if I startled you with my text, but Dr. Zxxxx is my own doctor. I recognized you from your pic right away, looks just like you, but you were too busy to interrupt and say hi... etc."

    The only other thing I can think is that this doctor specializes in certain conditions, and Chris prefers not to date guys who have them. My own primary is an HIV/AIDS specialist, and guys who know she's my doc assume it means I'm poz, which I'm not.


    We discussed me changing doctors and he said that would be a pretty stupid thing to do just for a hookup.

    I've since learned that he is a total top as is his boyfriend. it's funny that even though he wants to keep this 'friendship' non-sexual, it keeps turning to that. Although he backed away from it, he suggested his bf could top me while he watched.

    I'm keeping my next appointment though. I don't have a problem going in there and seeing him. And this is just a family practice, general dr. No specialities.