Is sex role playing common with gays?

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    Dec 31, 2011 4:14 PM GMT
    The term role play came up in another thread and got me thinking about my own experiences and wondering how common it is. I'm excluding BDSM, which I think deserves its own category. For example:

    I had a BF who thought locker room encounters were hot, so he'd stage them at home (although we did do the real thing, too). It'd start with me taking a shower alone, then stepping out of the bathroom with a towel wrap. He'd be waiting in the very minimalist sitting room that adjoined his bedroom, dressed in his gym attire, sitting on a wooden bench.

    He'd say hi, then start some innocuous conversation asking if I was new here, worked out often, etc. In the meantime I was combing my hair, applying deodorant, getting my clothes from my "locker" that was really a small cabinet. Finally he'd become bolder, commenting on the bulge in the towel I still wore. In the meantime I had to improvise dialogue back at him, something I don't do well in such a contrived situation.

    Naturally he was eventually pawing me, feeling me up under the towel, removing it, then letting me undress him. After more foreplay we'd end up in his bedroom, a place for which his locker room scenario had no plausible explanation. He had a few other scenes he liked, too, but I honestly didn't care much for the whole thing.

    Have you guys done this? Stage it yourself, or had another guy arrange it? Do you enjoy it?
  • rnch

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    Dec 31, 2011 4:25 PM GMT
    never appealed to me. the other guy and myself is all the scenery i need!


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  • ozhanSean

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    Dec 31, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
    Cant do it. When I have sex I like to me all myself, it is one of the only times where I can be truly myself with another human being. It is one of the only times I drop all act and truly act the way I feel. I think it is so sexy when I drop my mask and show who I am, and lay vulnerable. That is one of the intriguing parts of sex for me. So, even though I have tried it, I find that role playing is a hinder to that vulnerability.
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    Dec 31, 2011 4:40 PM GMT
    ozhanSean saidCant do it. When I have sex I like to me all myself, it is one of the only times where I can be truly myself with another human being. It is one of the only times I drop all act and truly act the way I feel. I think it is so sexy when I drop my mask and show who I am, and lay vulnerable. That is one of the intriguing parts of sex for me. So, even though I have tried it, I find that role playing is a hinder to that vulnerability.

    Interesting. Although I do have some fantasies, I guess they could be termed, yet not this formal role playing.

    A big one for me is having sex in the shower, the bigger the shower the better, even a gym gang shower if I can arrange it. My own theory is that it's a reaction to having been conflicted all those years in high school and later the Army, when I could look but not touch. Or often I dared not even look, lest I have a visible reaction.

    But it doesn't involve elaborate role playing, just enjoying the reality of hugging and kissing a wet, soapy, naked guy in my arms.
  • jackthejock

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    Dec 31, 2011 9:29 PM GMT
    I really just find it to silly to be turned on, maybe if the guy I really hot.

    I am attracted to a lot of older guys and a lot of times guys that are older and into younger guys want to do coach/jock role play or worse daddy/son..I just CAN NOT with that, creepy and gross.

    If I had to role play I guess my reference would be student/teacher since there was a teacher or two I had a mad crush on in younger times.
  • Trepeat

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    Jan 01, 2012 12:33 AM GMT
    Yeah, I can't take it seriously. Dad/son? Creepy as fuck- I hope you never have a male child. Coach/sport? Only brings to mind real life sexual assault allegations that aren't "sexy" at all. Everything else? Too silly for me to really become engaged by.
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    Jan 01, 2012 12:45 AM GMT
    Trepeat saidYeah, I can't take it seriously. Dad/son? Creepy as fuck- I hope you never have a male child. Coach/sport? Only brings to mind real life sexual assault allegations that aren't "sexy" at all. Everything else? Too silly for me to really become engaged by.

    Well, in defense of my ex, his locker room role playing involved us being 2 adult men, who happened to cross paths while dressing. There was never anything implying the underaged. I would never have seen him again if he had suggested that.

    But the role playing itself, no matter what the theme, just struck me as silly. I certainly needed no theatrical encouragements to be turned on by him. But maybe I was partly at fault, and it was my shortcomings, in appearance & sexiness, that had him relying on stagy enhancements. But in any case I didn't enjoy it, and much preferred when we could just jump in bed without the hammy preliminaries.