Dates

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    Jan 01, 2012 3:12 PM GMT
    i really looking someone to dates but seems like things doesn't work to me. I try match.com, i try use grindr application, this place never work for me. I don't know reason why, maybe the place or is just me the way i look. Is this normal?
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    Jan 01, 2012 3:17 PM GMT
    What are your standards?
  • DesireIron

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    Jan 01, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    Stand your ground...and write more in your profile.

    I'm not into hook ups. I clearly say I'm looking for dates, to go out and do things with a guy. I say that I'm not a fan of meeting for coffee, because it comes across like a job interview. I think you can learn more about a guy through a shared experience when doing something together. then I describe a couple of outings I recently had. It gets the message across and guys of similar feelings respond.

    It does have its downside. You start going out with multiple guys that are compatible and you like! Now what!?! And of course, nobody is 100% perfect, so it's not a clear choice. ... icon_confused.gif

    Here's my Scruff profile:

    Pic:11/28/11

    Fitness. Strengthening/conditioning my body.  I like to do the usual stuff on a date: dinner, movie, museum. Need someone to go hiking with. Also, country-western dancing. I love to 2-Step. If someone wants to go dancimg sometime, hit me up. I prefer to lead, but I can follow. 

    Two Queens in an Andy Warhol Exhibit! ... sounds like the name of a play. Just saw the Andy Warhol Shadows exhibit with a most delightful fellow. What a great time we had. Nothing like two gay men in the presence of the sweeping panorama of those Warhol panels in that unique gallery setting!

    Recently enjoyed an afternoon seeing the Anglo-Saxon gold artifacts exhibit with a very nice fellow. 

    I really enjoy going out and doing something with a guy. Just meeting for coffee is like a job interview. I think you can learn about a guy better by having a shared experience.

    When alone, reading: History, Linguistics.

    ...........................

    PS: anyone who recognizes my Scruff profile, keep it to yourself.
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    Jan 01, 2012 3:55 PM GMT
    Try Meetup to meet real guys in real life in group social situations. From my experience, online sites have never been a successful source for "dating". Online sites have been great for finding mindless "hook-up" sex, but not for dating.
  • DesireIron

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    Jan 01, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
    Oh and for the pesty people that I have no interest in on Scruff, Grindr, etc, I mention Realjock.com. I know they will come over here, see all the men, and, voila, they leave me alone. :-)
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    Jan 01, 2012 8:50 PM GMT
    Try OkCupid, it's great!
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    Jan 01, 2012 11:37 PM GMT
    DesireIron saidOh and for the pesty people that I have no interest in on Scruff, Grindr, etc, I mention Realjock.com. I know they will come over here, see all the men, and, voila, they leave me alone. :-)


    Ummm... you essentially just dumped your problems onto the whole community. LOL
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    Jan 01, 2012 11:41 PM GMT
    State precisely what you want in your profile, doesnt matter which site/app your profile is on. I met some decent folks on grindr. The guy I'm considering getting serious with I met on grindr. Just gotta put forth efforts weeding out the ones that want sex.
  • DesireIron

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    Jan 02, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    One1313 said
    DesireIron saidOh and for the pesty people that I have no interest in on Scruff, Grindr, etc, I mention Realjock.com. I know they will come over here, see all the men, and, voila, they leave me alone. :-)


    Ummm... you essentially just dumped your problems onto the whole community. LOL

    Oh no! You've got me all wrong. I am helping all these poor lonely souls find the man of their dreams.....cuz I know I ain't him. ... icon_lol.gif