Is This Awkward?

  • Joeyphx444

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    Jan 02, 2012 5:30 AM GMT
    So I met this guy for lunch today and then we watched TV at his house, nothing sexual at all. In the middle of watching TV he's like, "Can I be honest with you?" So I said yes icon_razz.gif and then he said something like you're a great guy, etc, etc, but we should be friends.

    I don't if that's happened to you guys but for me, that was really awkward. We still hung out a little more after he said that but it made things pretty awkward. I would actually agree with him cuz he isn't my dating type really but I like to see how things goes before making judgments like that. It was awkward cuz I actually hadn't thought about anything like that cuz we were just having a good time talking. I don't know if that was appropriate on a first "date" to say. I like to hang out with someone more than once before really making a decision like that. I don't if that's just me or not but it was weird. It's not like the whole date was terrible, we were talking and laughing, etc. What WAS weird was that we mostly talked about his life, so how can he say that when he doesn't truly know me? lol
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    Jan 02, 2012 2:58 PM GMT
    Awkward?
    Yes, but it will save you time and possible heart-break down the road. He's probably just faster to realize whether something has potential or not. He wasn't feeling it and 'let's be friends' means 'sorry, but this isn't working for me'.
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    Jan 02, 2012 3:12 PM GMT
    I think it was cool of him. I wish all guys were as honest. I've actually done the same thing and had the same thing done to me. Yeah, it's awkward, but I prefer to pull the band-aid hard and fast. Doesn't mean you guys can't be friends, which in alot of cases could be more awesome. And btw, I think you're gorgeous.
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    Jan 02, 2012 3:15 PM GMT
    Well yeah for a first date that would be a little odd but yeah.. Im with you... He should have felt things out but be greatful... why waste time on a dbag that doesnt want to take the time to get to know you? just saying... look at the postive. And agreed you are quite handsome.
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    Jan 02, 2012 3:18 PM GMT
    I wasn't there.

    Was it awkward?
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    Jan 02, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
    If I wasn't feeling it, I wouldn't have invited you back to my house to "watch TV"... which is generally a euphemism for "find place to make out".
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jan 02, 2012 4:21 PM GMT
    I think there are times when you just know that the chemistry or attraction is not there, and it's just better to make that clear from the get-go so there is no misunderstanding or false hopes. The guy did you a favor by being upfront and communicating how he was feeling so you knew where things were headed early on. Some guys don't have the confidence or communication skills to lay their cards on the table like that.
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    Jan 02, 2012 4:40 PM GMT
    I don't think it's awkward at all. At least he was upfront and honest to you instead of being a dog and leading you on. That's something to admire in a guy so I'd say you are lucky that you found someone who is man enough to be honest in the beginning before things get rocky and you end up feeling like you wasted your time and his.

    On that note, you really shouldn't beat him up fro his honesty. Everyone has looked at someone or spent a little with someone and has gotten that feeling that things just aren't gonna work out with that individual. This guy of yours got that feeling and didn't dispute it. It happens. You move on and so does he with no complications or drama attached. It kind does suck that you weren't given a chance but then again everyone is guilty of not giving others a chance when it comes to dating. If you have a preference then you know what I'm talking about.
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    Jan 03, 2012 12:24 AM GMT
    Kind of odd, awkward, and self-flattering of himself, but better in the end.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 03, 2012 12:31 AM GMT
    I do not read anything awkward about him saying he just wants to be friends. What's wrong with that. Its sounds like you are upset because you got put in the friend zone and you liked him. If someone is not the type of guy you usually go for than why would you try to drag it on out in hopes that something about this person may change. Listen, you usually know if someone is for you after 10 minutes of talking with them
  • dancedancekj

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    Jan 03, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    Kudos for him having the balls to let you know and being honest with you and taking responsibility and maturity to let you know that. You will move on and find somebody with whom they will want to be more than friends in no time.
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    Jan 03, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    Consider yourself lucky that he was upfront about it instead of stringing you along or being indecisive. Although it may seem quick and rash to you, perhaps he knew right away it wasn't a match. When you know, why delay? Of course it sucks to have a guy tell you that, but in the end it's better for the both of you. Maybe there's even a chance you two really can be friends.
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    Jan 03, 2012 12:51 AM GMT
    least he didnt make out with you for 2 hours, told you you were amazing, and neverrrr called you back. lol.
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    Jan 03, 2012 1:00 AM GMT
    Er yes... sounds awkward. But context is everything. If it was a presumed hook-up, then "being friends" might be a step up.

    Most dates are kinda awkward anyway.
  • confidentcrip

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    Jan 03, 2012 1:15 AM GMT
    Larkin saidIf I wasn't feeling it, I wouldn't have invited you back to my house to "watch TV"... which is generally a euphemism for "find place to make out".


    this.
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    Jan 03, 2012 1:20 AM GMT
    Some folks just don't possess much in the way of "grace under pressure" so it's best to just chuckle about it and move on to the next date with the next guy.
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Jan 03, 2012 1:25 AM GMT
    This social cad just saved you a lot of time..... move on.
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    Jan 03, 2012 3:26 AM GMT
    I respect his bluntness because that's how I am, but I just checked out your profile. Minus the weird colored eye special effect you have going on in your pics, I find you extremely attractive. He should have at least been like "we should just be friends...but let's have hot sex until you have those deeper emotions....then you can remember we had this conversation about our "platonic" arrangement and as a result, not think of me as a douchebag who led you on."

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    Jan 03, 2012 3:30 AM GMT
    Larkin saidIf I wasn't feeling it, I wouldn't have invited you back to my house to "watch TV"... which is generally a euphemism for "find place to make out".


    Larkin?!? WTF? We watched the entire first season of Arrested Development and.......nothing. You really should have said something after the first episode.
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    Jan 03, 2012 3:40 AM GMT
    You are very young. As you get older, you will come to value people who can communicate up front and save you the trouble of getting too emotionally invested - which then becomes exhausting....