Aquarian Gay Men

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    Jul 25, 2007 8:24 AM GMT
    Okay to all the Aquarian Men out there... I have a situation that I hope you can help this Libra with.

    So there is this guy that I met in college. He's 21 and I'm 23. So many little things have happened between us (in non sexual ways) that make our meeting more than chance and at sometimes almost devine.

    I actually saw this cutie walking around campus with a friend of his and I liked him from the first glance. I thought he was straight and said oh well and put it from my mind only until hours later did I actually get to meet this guy through a friend of mine that had no previous knowledge of me seeing or having a liking for him.

    Then there is this time where he and I are sitting in the back of my friends car while shes driving and these papers start falling over and it feels like someone is gently touching our arms. We slowly turned to each other and are like what are you doing then all that crap falls over and we laugh our asses off at the situation.

    hes a great guy for converstaion sake and he has a totally amazing brain. Hes so smart its almost insane. I dont know but brains are a turn on for me. He likes to talk about politics and starwars and in so way or how I get turned on by it lol.

    I dont know how to figure him out and to get him to see or notice that I totally have the hots for me. Ive tried to drop signals and all that. Now Im just fustrated and really just want to get it across. Any recomendations or should I just accept and enjoy his friendship and leave it at that?
  • Laurence

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    Jul 25, 2007 1:32 PM GMT
    Firstly Ryan, forget this star-signs stuff, it's a load of bull and there's nothing in it.

    From your little story it sounds like you've got it bad for this guy. But you're not going to know if he feels the same unless you ask him, or get your mate to do some probbing for you.

    My advice is not to waste too much time wondering if there's anything gonna happen here, but do something productive to see where his attentsions lie and if you actually have a chance.

    Whilst at college I spent 3 years mooning after a guy, interpreting all the wrong signs, and ultimately wasting my time. Don't be guilty of the same.

    Good Luck

    Lozx

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    Jul 25, 2007 5:15 PM GMT
    Eh maybe you're right. its just had to get anyone to probe for me considering that we dont have any of the same mutual friends anymore. The friend that introduced us is now one of his mortal enemies and I completely understand why because I dont really talk to that person either. =

    As for putting to much on the stars... na. I think just part of who I am as a person and the back ground in my family. My grandmother is a folk healer and all in to that as is the rest of my family so hum. Kind of hard to just bursh aside what ive seen and known over the years.
  • Laurence

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    Jul 25, 2007 5:28 PM GMT
    Hey Ryan

    That's cool, I wasn't being too down on your family and their beliefs. I'm a natural cynic and tend to vere towards science rather than stuff like that...but hey who knows eh?

    And sorry I thought the girl who gave you the lift might prove a good detective for you. Looks like you're gonna have to use your own skills.

    If you know the guy well enough to broach the subject, then I think you should. As I said I speak from experience and there's nothing more frustrating than fancying someone who doesn't feel the same way. And surely it would be better to know and move on than waste time wondering.

    Loz
  • jc_online

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    Jul 25, 2007 8:47 PM GMT
    Friendships are very important to us; don't discount the benefits of just being friends. Many of the men I've dated but didn't want to get into a relationship with are still close friends.

    Aquarians are also rather experimental; if general life and sexually. For whatever that's worth...

    I would appreciate your being forward and telling me that you were crazy about me; but don't be surprised if it isn't reciprocated. I've been accused of sending mixed or wrong signals to people before about how interested I was in them; while all the time being totally oblivious to those signals I was sending.

    We're generally smart and passionate, but we can also be very obtuse.

    There's a good book I refer to, "Astrology for Gay Men" that is funny as well as useful.

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    Jul 26, 2007 4:39 AM GMT
    The only way your going to know something is ask. hint hint.
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    Jul 26, 2007 10:47 AM GMT
    haha... Ive actually read that book which is why even after reading that Im still clueless. He's really scatter brained and i think thats a universal trait. I think i might just take the advice, plan a day out with him and ask him. wish me luck. =)
  • Lincsbear

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    Jul 27, 2007 11:19 PM GMT
    Tell him how you feel about him!
  • imaxim

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    Jul 27, 2007 11:37 PM GMT
    About the first post from Laurence:

    I'm technically an aquarian myself, but I find it an instant turnoff when someone asks my sign or birthday early on to assess compatibility. I think only a limited number of those traits really apply to me moreso than anyone else, and I feel rather marginalized when someone reduces my personality down to any astrological template.

    Perhaps I'm an extreme in this case, but the point is to make sure you see that your familiarity with a person's astrology does not prevent you from seeing the uniqueness of their personality... and that they know you are seeing them as a person (rather than as a sign).

    Good luck with your guy.
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    Jul 28, 2007 10:16 AM GMT
    well i know that everyone is different and just because they are a certian sign doesnt mean they are to a tee what astrology says they should be. And I totally know so many things about him that are totally off from what the "stars" say he should be. I just have a nack for telling almost right a way what sign a person might be and I look for that only as a converstaion starter to see what their intrest might be. i just for some reason notice that I have a thing for guys that are very intelligent and scatterbrained. its like trying to put a puzle together and no matter how hard you try you cant quite get the last few peices to fit in to place. Maybe its just that im intrigued or something I dont know.
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    Oct 29, 2007 1:01 PM GMT
    Ryan, about your post.

    Being an Aquarian myself all I can advise is you tell him the truth. Us Aquarians appreciate honesty.

    However as Aquarians we are faithful but you should still respect his need for independence. However I think its good you are friends because Aquarians generally have to be good friends with a person before they can even think of developing a personal relationship. But dont kepp all your feelings bottled up. Let him know, and he should if he is true Aquarian respect your feelings and accept you for being honest with him. Good Luck and Be Safe. Iain