"I'm a STRAIGHT-ACTING gay guy"...

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    Jan 02, 2012 5:43 PM GMT
    ^^above phrase: 'straight-acting gay guy', doesn't that just piss you off and anger you? On gay dating sites (and on real-jock) people say that they're 'straight-acting' as if to assume that straight guys are masculine and gay guys are camp...I just think that this constant stereotyping has lead the LGBT community itself to believe that these stereotypes are actually true, so much so that when you do get a masculine gay guy, he has to state that he's 'straight acting'. Personally, it irritates me...most of us are average Joes...and not just that, but you can also get 'gay acting straight guys' (see what I did there)...

    What do you think?....
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    Jan 02, 2012 5:46 PM GMT
    Ah, this thread again.

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    Jan 02, 2012 5:47 PM GMT
    I'm a totally straight-acting, masculine, butch, beer drinking gay guy.

    No homo.
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    Jan 02, 2012 5:48 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI'm a totally straight-acting, masculine, butch, beer drinking gay guy.

    No homo.


    I love pussy and tits, man...I just wanna fuck all of them bitches out there.

    No hetero.
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    Jan 02, 2012 5:49 PM GMT
    Three posts in and I think this could be one of my favorite threads.

    We've already had the use of British slang and a Boondocks reference. I'm gleeful.

    No homo.
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    Jan 02, 2012 5:52 PM GMT
    deeley1 said
    paulflexes saidI'm a totally straight-acting, masculine, butch, beer drinking gay guy.

    No homo.


    I love pussy and tits, man...I just wanna fuck all of them bitches out there.

    No hetero.
    I love little boys and doggies and kittehs and even fucked a rabbit once.

    No priest.
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    Jan 02, 2012 5:53 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    deeley1 said
    paulflexes saidI'm a totally straight-acting, masculine, butch, beer drinking gay guy.

    No homo.


    I love pussy and tits, man...I just wanna fuck all of them bitches out there.

    No hetero.
    I love little boys and doggies and kittehs and even fucked a rabbit once.

    No priest.


    I like leather.

    No bondage....:/
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    Jan 02, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    ConfederateGhost saidThree posts in and I think this could be one of my favorite threads.

    We've already had the use of British slang and a Boondocks reference. I'm gleeful.

    No homo.


    ...British slang? What British slang?
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    Jan 02, 2012 5:55 PM GMT
    deeley1 said
    paulflexes said
    deeley1 said
    paulflexes saidI'm a totally straight-acting, masculine, butch, beer drinking gay guy.

    No homo.


    I love pussy and tits, man...I just wanna fuck all of them bitches out there.

    No hetero.
    I love little boys and doggies and kittehs and even fucked a rabbit once.

    No priest.


    I like leather.

    No bondage....:/
    I have a studded leather dog collar.

    I've worn it to the leather bar.

    My doggie wore it to Alibi's when I met GAMrican.

    No lie. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 02, 2012 5:58 PM GMT
    No doubt.

    No diggity.
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    Jan 02, 2012 6:03 PM GMT
    ...this thread has made me think the following:

    I always get homophobia and claustrophobia mixed up, it's probably because they're both associated with a closet.
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    Jan 02, 2012 6:05 PM GMT
    seriously though, try saying straight acting when my cock is down your throat
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    Jan 02, 2012 6:06 PM GMT
    deeley1 said...this thread has made me think the following:

    I always get homophobia and claustrophobia mixed up, it's probably because they're both associated with a closet.
    Claustrophobia is the fear of being in the closet.
    Homophobia is the fear of being out of the closet.

    Fucked in the head is the fear of being a claustrophobic homophobe.
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    Jan 02, 2012 6:08 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    deeley1 said...this thread has made me think the following:

    I always get homophobia and claustrophobia mixed up, it's probably because they're both associated with a closet.
    Claustrophobia is the fear of being in the closet.
    Homophobia is the fear of being out of the closet.

    Fucked in the head is the fear of being a claustrophobic homophobe.


    The closet's horrible...all of those years in narnia...having to talk to a queen constantly...jeez

    (notice how I'm using stereotypes as a form of social satire)
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    Jan 02, 2012 6:09 PM GMT
    You said camp.

    And "no homo" comes from an episode of the Boondocks.

    "You gotta say no homo now, granddad!"




    deeley1 said
    ConfederateGhost saidThree posts in and I think this could be one of my favorite threads.

    We've already had the use of British slang and a Boondocks reference. I'm gleeful.

    No homo.


    ...British slang? What British slang?
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    Jan 02, 2012 6:09 PM GMT
    You are who you are......now close this bitch down.....

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    Jan 02, 2012 6:10 PM GMT
    You're on a gay website...you think they don't know how to get through the back door?


    mybud saidYou are who you are......now close this bitch down.....

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    Jan 02, 2012 6:11 PM GMT
    deeley1 said^^above phrase: 'straight-acting gay guy', doesn't that just piss you off and anger you? On gay dating sites (and on real-jock) people say that they're 'straight-acting' as if to assume that straight guys are masculine and gay guys are camp...I just think that this constant stereotyping has lead the LGBT community itself to believe that these stereotypes are actually true, so much so that when you do get a masculine gay guy, he has to state that he's 'straight acting'. Personally, it irritates me...most of us are average Joes...and not just that, but you can also get 'gay acting straight guys' (see what I did there)...

    What do you think?....


    I don't like the term, but not for the reasons you state. I don't like the "acting" word, makes it seem like they are just acting straight the way it's phrased.

    I and all of my acquaintances consider me masculine. The only beef my straight roommate holds against me as un-masculine is that sometimes I get too emotional about some situations, but I'm getting better killing off that part of me.

    I just don't like hanging out with walking/talking stereotypes, and all of my gay friends are, generally, unstereotypical (some still hang in the scene on occasion, but are otherwise masculine). So it's not really the masculine guys or even society stereotyping, it's the gay men who do sound, dress, and act "camp" who keep the stereotypes going.

    To put it in perspective, what if all gay men were similar to Neil Patrick Harris, a generally masculine dude by all appearances and accounts? Would society be able to continue to portray gay men as lisping, sashaying, limp wrist-ed drama queens?

    I always like to point out the Jack character from Will and Grace (played by a straight dude for comedic effect). You know, when white people dress up in black face and talk about fried chicken and watermelon, the black community understandably gets pretty damn pissed off. Yet when we have a straight dude acts in a stereotypical gay fashion (and I consider Jack's character a prime example of a gay stereotype) the gay community seems to actually revel in, rather than be repulsed by, this sort of stereotypical acting from a straight actor.

    So I don't know if non-masculine guys can "butch themselves up" but I personally think flamboyancy is socialized, it comes from who you hang with and is reinforced by the folks you hang with. Quit hanging with the queens and Nelly types and chances are you will eventually get out of the gay stereotype and be a little more masculine in your behavior and dress at least, if not voice as well.
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    Jan 02, 2012 6:17 PM GMT
    Some gay guys act feminine, some act masculine. I don't understand why announcing that you personality is one that resembles a straight guy would be a problem. Personality types are important in defining attraction.
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    Jan 02, 2012 6:23 PM GMT
    Problem here is that sexuality and gender identity are disconnected.

    A man can be a man, be sexually homosexual, but his gender identity is feminine and all other combinations.

    I think what the "gay community" as whole needs to get off it ass and reject these ideas that sociaty has placed on them

    a) Being sexualy attracted to men does not make you any less of a "man".
    b) Being sexualy attracted to women does not make you any more of a "man".

    But then I know a few guys that deliberately act camp to pick up other guys (thier argument is "How will they know if I don't?"). These are the guys we need to do something horrible to...

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    Jan 02, 2012 6:24 PM GMT
    Yes, yes...you have my interest...go on.


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    These are the guys we need to do something horrible to...

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    Jan 02, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    Oye, straight acting perpetuates the idea that straight is ideal while gay is less than.

    Which I find hilarious, because, you know, its not like women bitch and moan all the time about how attractive gay men are. Never do you hear that!
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    Jan 02, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    somedaytoo saidSome gay guys act feminine, some act masculine.
    Some straight guys act feminine, others are in the closet.
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    Jan 02, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    If someone says he's "straight acting", does that mean that his nature is to be an effeminate flamer who talks with a lisp, swings his hips when he walks, gestures with limp wrists, and dances like Beyoncé alone in his room, but he just covers it up by pretending to be otherwise?

    I call myself what I am: masculine. I'm a guy. I'm not faking anything. I'm not pretending to be anything I'm not.
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    Jan 02, 2012 6:28 PM GMT
    A very interesting thread for someone coming out late in life and having played it straight for some many years. Seems we all have to be able to put things in boxes. I can not tell how many of my straight friends have been absolutely floored when I've told them I am gay. I even had one tell me 'I just don't believe it, I know gay people and you don't fit the mold'. I offered to show him pictures, but he declined icon_twisted.gif


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