Need help writing wedding vows

  • grnranger99

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    Jan 03, 2012 1:14 AM GMT
    Hey Guys
    I need a little help writing my wedding vows. I am not getting married till July, but I have been banging my head against the wall trying to do this.
    Its either too sappy, generic or personal for me to feel comfortable with reciting in front of many people. I really want it to be special. I don't want to use some one else lines but a little help on what you would say, or how to say it would be appreciated. I am not a very articulate kind of guy, so it is difficult for me to choose the right words.
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    Jan 03, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    grnranger99 saidHey Guys
    I need a little help writing my wedding vows. I am not getting married till July, but I have been banging my head against the wall trying to do this.
    Its either too sappy, generic or personal for me to feel comfortable with reciting in front of many people. I really want it to be special. I don't want to use some one else lines but a little help on what you would say, or how to say it would be appreciated. I am not a very articulate kind of guy, so it is difficult for me to choose the right words.
    Just tell em "this is my fucking husband, aint he grand?"

    Thats all.. he knowsicon_wink.gif
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    Jan 03, 2012 1:23 AM GMT
    It's hard to give you suggestions when I don't know how you feel
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    Jan 03, 2012 3:42 AM GMT
    My Granddad snuck one in about "cleaning and cooking all fish caught by..."
  • PipHop

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    Jan 03, 2012 4:01 AM GMT
    Talk about the great things that he does for you, that some of the people in attendance may know about, in a general way. At my best friend's wedding (geez how corny was that to say lol) last summer, they both spoke on what the other person meant and what the other person has done. He obviously makes you happy and is so special you chose to dedicate your life to him; that sounds like a good start. Just put some bass in your voice when you say iticon_wink.gif

    In any event : CONGRATULATIONS!
  • cookingitswee...

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    Jan 03, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
    You should speak from the heart. Guys like to hear how they make their man feel (that would be you!) try starting there.
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:12 AM GMT
    Too sappy is the new in thing in 2012.. Just FYI
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:13 AM GMT
    Make a list of the top 3 things you like about him. Then make a list of your favorite 3 memories. Combine the two lists into a funny story. Voila!
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:30 AM GMT
    grnranger99 saidHey Guys
    I need a little help writing my wedding vows. I am not getting married till July, but I have been banging my head against the wall trying to do this.
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    You need to be banging something else. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 03, 2012 2:48 PM GMT


    Take a look at our profile and you'll see our vows there. You might find something in them that inspires you to say what you want to say in your own words. icon_wink.gif

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    Jan 03, 2012 2:53 PM GMT
    May I suggest that you start by simply making a list of all the things you value about your partner. Once you can sort out those thought, you might be able to see a thread that will help you get started.
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    Jan 03, 2012 2:57 PM GMT
    grnranger99 saidI need a little help writing my wedding vows.

    Is this a legal wedding? I note you live in Illinois; I presume you'll be doing a State civil union there? If legal then you should check if you are required to include certain verbiage as specified by that jurisdiction, and then build around that. What will the person officiating be saying to you, and what are your minimum responses? Are you permitted to elaborate and say more?

    If an extralegal commitment ceremony then your choices for a vow could be quite broad. The example cited by meninlove from their own legal Canadian wedding is quite beautiful.
  • UncleverName

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    Jan 03, 2012 3:03 PM GMT
    This is YOUR wedding.

    Who's going to be at it that you don't feel comfortable saying certain things in front of them? I say ignore everyone else. The purpose of the day is for you and your partner to make commitments to each other, regardless of what anyone else tells you. Well, it's also to celebrate, but the really important part is the commitments. Say whatever you feel that you want your partner to hear.

    If there's one day you can (and possibly should be) sappy, it's your wedding day.

    Just think about what you think you want to hear from him, and what you think he'll want to hear from you. Doesn't have to be complicated or overthought. You love him, don't you?

    That is all. Good luck, and congrats!
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    Jan 03, 2012 5:50 PM GMT
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    Jan 03, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    Just dropping by to say congrats! icon_biggrin.gif