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  • Teacherguy

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    Jun 18, 2008 5:34 PM GMT
    So this past weekend an amazing looking super buff/masc guy initiated contact at this club with me and was very aggressive, dominant, super hot....all the good things you know. Bout a year ago i tried to talk to this guy when i was not in such super shape but he didn't take much notice that i was even there. Well now that i have muscle definition and look good in a tight tee, he came up to me and was totally into me. Well needless to say I was very flattered and excited...really appealed to my insecurities. Anyways i thought more about the situation later and came to realize that I was invisible to this man in the past..but now that i'm in better shape i suddenly exist. I don't really know how to take the situation...i'm still the same person on the inside...just better packaging.
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    Jun 18, 2008 5:39 PM GMT
    I would recommend enjoying the attention. Guys generally speaking are really stimulated by the visual (blame evolution and the hunter/gatherer aspect of the male brain).

    In 1991 I shaved my head and grew a moustache and goatee. Gays that had never looked at me twice, started cruising me. I was exactly the same person just a different look. I appreciated the attention and went with the flow.
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    Jun 18, 2008 5:48 PM GMT
    Keep in mind there could be a billion other variables involved, too. Once a guy tried hitting on me at a party, and I kinda blew him off because I was into somebody else. A year later, we ran into each other again, we chatted, and we ended up dating for 10 months. The packaging hadn't changed.

    At any rate, enjoy the attention. Sounds like you've done a lot to work for it.
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    Jun 18, 2008 5:51 PM GMT
    I can relate with that fellow. But for me, besides some definition, it's height. To me a tall guy, no matter how well built, just blocks the view. Give 'im some leaves to hold and let him make like a tree. ... icon_lol.gif
  • Timbales

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    Jun 18, 2008 6:07 PM GMT
    I'm like a chameleon, I blend into the wallpaper.
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    Jun 18, 2008 6:09 PM GMT
    Try to see it from his perspective....

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  • Teacherguy

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    Jun 18, 2008 6:10 PM GMT
    thanks for the advice fellas....i will enjoy it....guess its also motviation to keep workin out.

    One thing i love is the positive attitude of a lot of the guys on here....you don't always see that in the gay community....
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    Jun 18, 2008 6:11 PM GMT
    Your bodily improvement may have had an impact on this guy taking notice to you. but then again is that not a small reason behind going to the gym or working out? to look better?
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    Jun 18, 2008 6:47 PM GMT
    Teacherguy said One thing i love is the positive attitude of a lot of the guys on here....you don't always see that in the gay community....


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  • Timbales

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    Jun 18, 2008 6:51 PM GMT
    It's ok to get us wet, though.
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    Jun 19, 2008 1:05 PM GMT
    Timberoo saidI'm like a chameleon, I blend into the wallpaper.


    I'm the wallpaper Timberoo blends into.
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    Jun 19, 2008 1:24 PM GMT
    I'd enjoy the attention too, but take it for what it is. If he's a good guy, you should be able to tell fairly quickly. If he really is incapable of a conversation with someone based strictly on their appearance, you'll probably see that just as quickly.

    It's been 4 years for me and I still get surprised by how differently people react to me these days. Of course I love it. I just try to keep it in perspective. It's all on the outside and I've got to work just as hard on things inside.
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    Jun 19, 2008 1:37 PM GMT
    I've been in similar situations, but I've been pretty vindictive and politely informed the guy of his previous snub. I admit it's an ego/dignity/maturity issue for me, but I don't do second chances in that sort of situation.
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    Jun 19, 2008 1:41 PM GMT
    One nice thing about being invisible is that you get to know the person for what he really is and not for what he acts like he is.

    If he's an asshole when you were still the duckling, he'll still be an asshole when you're a swan.
  • Teacherguy

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    Jun 19, 2008 2:08 PM GMT
    Sedative saidOne nice thing about being invisible is that you get to know the person for what he really is and not for what he acts like he is.

    If he's an asshole when you were still the duckling, he'll still be an asshole when you're a swan.


    yeah thats for sure!

    guess i need to stop thinking bout it and enjoy it for what it is......i'm a teacher....i like to analyze things to death.
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    Jun 19, 2008 2:31 PM GMT
    Teacherguy, DO NOT THINK TOO MUCH INTO IT!! Just enjoy the attention and have a BLAST with it all!!!
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    Jun 19, 2008 2:35 PM GMT
    Sedative saidOne nice thing about being invisible is that you get to know the person for what he really is and not for what he acts like he is.

    If he's an asshole when you were still the duckling, he'll still be an asshole when you're a swan.


    There's nothing wrong with having sex with an asshole.

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    Jun 19, 2008 2:43 PM GMT
    You could always fuck him and then as he's wiping the lube off his butt remind him that he was an asshole to you and walk out leaving him sticky and confused. That's something I would do, but like I said before, I'm a bit of a vindictive cunt when it comes to such matters.icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 19, 2008 2:49 PM GMT
    I have noticed that I get attention from people I did not before. I would love to say what is inside is all that matters, but let's face it, attraction is physical first. So, being in better packaging is gonna make you better looking (that's what packaging does). Now if that carries on into an interpersonal attraction.... well you shall see.

    I would not take offense, but be happy that you are looking better. Its no judgment on who you were before though. Also, don't underestimate the power of feeling sexy and confident. If that exudes from you, it will only make you more desirable. Attitude and the way you carry yourself, has a lot to do with overall attractiveness, even more than good packaging.
  • Teacherguy

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    Jun 19, 2008 2:51 PM GMT
    your right DJbens77...btw you are super hot!
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    Jun 19, 2008 2:56 PM GMT
    Teacherguy saidyour right DJbens77...btw you are super hot!


    I agree!! Yes he is!!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 19, 2008 3:00 PM GMT
    Hey there Teacher, glad to hear you are getting the notice you deserve. With your efforts and focus with your students, I'm sure its fun to have this kind of attention....

    I'd approach this guy carefully. He may be sincere and have truly just noticed you. Give him a partial "pass" on his earlier behavior.. but not totally. I'd watch how he treats other people. If you find he totally bases his positive or negative view of other gay men on how they look.. I'd probably leave him at the curb. You don't need someone who
    bases his views of you soley on your appearance.. after all, we know you are a quality guy and are much more than a nice package!
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    Jun 19, 2008 3:01 PM GMT
    You were at a club. Clubs are not the best places for people top see you for the unique and wonderful individual you are. But if you want to show off lats you can serve sushi for 12 on then the club is where it is at.

    Don't take too much offense. Just enjoy the fact that you are now a sex god made flesh. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Teacherguy

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    Jun 19, 2008 3:02 PM GMT
    ah shucks HndsmKansan...your the best! and well a cutie as well!
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    Jun 19, 2008 3:03 PM GMT
    Caslon4000 saidI can relate with that fellow. But for me, besides some definition, it's height. To me a tall guy, no matter how well built, just blocks the view. Give 'im some leaves to hold and let him make like a tree. ... icon_lol.gif


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