Do you prefer guys that are a 'polished' in how they present themselves?

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 10:38 AM GMT
    I am a often turned off by guys who present themselves so immaculately. This seems to be quite common among gay guys. Sometimes it seems everything they wear looks so coordinated and polished (usually with all the big brand names evident). They can take their appearance so seriously.

    My personal preference is for guys who care a little less about their appearance and how they present themselves. I am not suggesting I am attracted to scruffy or unfit guys but I prefer guys that are less focused on their appearance/presentation. For example - there is a guy i see on the train who wears a suit but sometimes just carries a back pack and at times can't be bothered making sure his tie has the perfect knot or even matches the best with his shirt. He doesn't wear the latest flashiest clothes. He just doesn't really care that much. He probably spends 5 mins in front of the mirror getting ready. I like that. He is also fn hot.

    What is your preference here? This post is purely about personal presentation and your preference in terms of attraction. Please do not discuss how shallow I am judging people on their appearance! icon_biggrin.gif

  • rnch

    Posts: 11524

    Jan 03, 2012 11:02 AM GMT
    it's been my experience and observation that the more "polished" in appearance, manners and personality they appear to be; the more full of shiote they usually are.


    icon_idea.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 12:25 PM GMT
    No it's not homophobic!
    He is asking what your preference is.
    All gay people are different and I also don't like "polished" guys.
    They look camp straight away.
    Prefer a bit rugged look.
    More manly.
  • masculumpedes

    Posts: 5549

    Jan 03, 2012 1:11 PM GMT
    doubleyou said
    maleguy3333 saidNo it's not homophobic!
    He is asking what your preference is.
    All gay people are different and I also don't like "polished" guys.
    They look camp straight away.
    Prefer a bit rugged look.
    More manly.


    How you can you say this isn't homophobic? Like what you like but there is no need to name call that which you don't like.

    For instance, I could say that I don't like the "rugged, manly" look because I'm not attracted to lazy, homeless-looking redneck wildebeests. But I won't. icon_rolleyes.gif


    I think that you took offense where none was intended. Truthfully we all have preferences. If you are attracted to the immaculate looking type of guy, then fine, if you like the average jeans and t-shirt then that's fine also. If you prefer to be one of the immaculate type of guys or the average type, then you shouldn't get offended by someone who prefers the other look. Too many times people tend to get offended by others who do not like a certain way of things or the things that we ourselves prefer. We all like someone that we feel comfortable around. icon_wink.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 1:17 PM GMT
    maleguy3333 saidNo it's not homophobic!
    He is asking what your preference is.
    All gay people are different and I also don't like "polished" guys.
    They look camp straight away.
    Prefer a bit rugged look.
    More manly.


    I agree with you buddy, I am not attracted to "polished" guys either. That does't mean I hate them. I have a lot of "polished" friend. They just don't do much for me sexually. I prefer a bit rugged look. It's just my preference.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 1:18 PM GMT
    maleguy3333 saidNo it's not homophobic!
    He is asking what your preference is.
    All gay people are different and I also don't like "polished" guys.
    They look camp straight away.
    Prefer a bit rugged look.
    More manly.


    I agree with you buddy, I am not attracted to "polished" guys either. That doesn't mean I hate them. I have a lot of "polished" gay friends. They just don't do much for me sexually. I prefer a bit rugged look. It's just my preference.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 1:20 PM GMT
    rnch saidit's been my experience and observation that the more "polished" in appearance, manners and personality they appear to be; the more full of shiote they usually are.


    icon_idea.gif


    When I head out and about, some may say I looked "polished." I am hardly full of shit, I just like to look nice. If I see a sexy guy who is well put together, it will certainly turn my head. I think it portrays self confidence; something in a man I find very sexy.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 1:28 PM GMT
    fitsurfer saidI am a often turned off by guys who present themselves so immaculately. This seems to be quite common among gay guys. Sometimes it seems everything they wear looks so coordinated and polished (usually with all the big brand names evident). They can take their appearance so seriously.

    My personal preference is for guys who care a little less about their appearance and how they present themselves. I am not suggesting I am attracted to scruffy or unfit guys but I prefer guys that are less focused on their appearance/presentation. For example - there is a guy i see on the train who wears a suit but sometimes just carries a back pack and at times can't be bothered making sure his tie has the perfect knot or even matches the best with his shirt. He doesn't wear the latest flashiest clothes. He just doesn't really care that much. He probably spends 5 mins in front of the mirror getting ready. I like that. He is also fn hot.

    What is your preference here? This post is purely about personal presentation and your preference in terms of attraction. Please do not discuss how shallow I am judging people on their appearance! icon_biggrin.gif



    I was going to say plus one, but while I don't like too polished, I don't want too rough either. Casual and hot suits me best. No style of clothing is going to change the face or body, so guys should just relax.
  • masculumpedes

    Posts: 5549

    Jan 03, 2012 1:29 PM GMT
    swimguychicago said No style of clothing is going to change the face or body, so guys should just relax.


    OMG...You mean a pretty package doesn't automatically mean that the guy is simply fabulous? icon_eek.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 1:33 PM GMT
    maleguy3333 saidNo it's not homophobic!
    He is asking what your preference is.
    All gay people are different and I also don't like "polished" guys.
    They look camp straight away.
    Prefer a bit rugged look.
    More manly.


    ...i must say also that although i agree with you that I am not attracted to "polished" men (i like a bit of rugged looks), i have a lot of "polished" gay friends. and they look camp, and there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG with that.

    all gay people are different in their preference. some like "polished" men and some prefer rugged men. and we should respect them

    all gay people are also different in the way they carry themself, how they look, how they do things. some gay man are more musculine and rugged, while other a "polished" or camp. and we should respect that too.

    there is nothing wrong with men trying to be who they are.

    the main thing is to be honest and comfortable with ourselves, and be who we are and not who others want us to be. and know what we want and respect what others want, and respect them for who they are whether they are "polished" or rugged.

    lets respect and celebrate diversity...

  • masculumpedes

    Posts: 5549

    Jan 03, 2012 1:37 PM GMT
    travoire said
    maleguy3333 saidNo it's not homophobic!
    He is asking what your preference is.
    All gay people are different and I also don't like "polished" guys.
    They look camp straight away.
    Prefer a bit rugged look.
    More manly.


    ...i must say also that although i agree with you that I am not attracted to "polished" men (i like a bit of rugged looks), i have a lot of "polished" gay friends. and they look camp, and there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG with that.

    all gay people are different in their preference. some like "polished" men and some prefer rugged men. and we should respect them

    all gay people are also different in the way they carry themselves, how they look, how they do things. some gay man are more masculine and rugged, while other a "polished" or camp. and we should respect that too.

    there is nothing wrong with men trying to be who they are.

    the main thing is to be honest and comfortable with ourselves, and be who we are and not who others want us to be. and know what we want and respect what others want, and respect them for who they are whether they are "polished" or rugged.

    lets respect and celebrate diversity...



    Very well said my handsome friend...icon_wink.gif
  • LuckyGuyKC

    Posts: 2080

    Jan 03, 2012 1:46 PM GMT
    I've known polished guys who are also ruggedly handsome.

    I prefer ruggedly handsome whether they are polished or not.... and I agree that the OP was NOT homophobic rather stating a preference.

    I meet very few men that meet mainstream society's gay stereotype .... however when I do I like them and enjoy them socially just the same (I'm just not sexually attracted to them).

    Love yourself first and the whole world looks differently.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 1:51 PM GMT
    If "immaculate" means too fastidious, prissy and self-conscious, then yes, I don't like it either. A man's daily wear and grooming should not be overly attention-getting in either direction, neither too scruffy & careless, nor too much like a store window display. (Exceptions for doing yard work, and for very formal occasions)

    Personally I like the casual New England preppy look, US companies like J. Crew currently being the among the principle exponents of that style. Also the outdoorsy camper look from L.L. Bean. Although here in the Florida heat my attire tends to be a tad looser & sloppier until the sun goes down.

    Plus I confess to a gay weakness toward eccentricity in dress, which can violate my first rule above, like the wide-brimmed Aussie-like hats I started wearing when I was sun sensitive from my meds (see my profile pic). Now I wear them most of the time just for the unique appearance, at a time when other styles of brimmed hats have become fashionable here. Nothing very polished about THAT. icon_cool.gif
  • HndsmKansan

    Posts: 16311

    Jan 03, 2012 1:52 PM GMT
    Remember, you can have a combination in guys..... I'm into Ralph Lauren and yeah, I can make a statement pretty easily when wearing jeans, polo,
    Give me my western belt & buckle anytime!

    Don't have to have perfect anything however. I'm just me and it all works.

    However, in business clothes, I'm pretty conservative and I'm not in to big name suits (ick.). I'm into those that are reasonable and fit me well.

    For me, I'm more focused on the personality of the dude and not his clothing.
    My partner wears polo (compliments of me...lol), but he never used to ...just a very handsome dude and really liked his long sleeved button ups.... I could care less where the shirts came from...LOL
  • Diceroll

    Posts: 224

    Jan 03, 2012 1:56 PM GMT
    I don't mind how guys present themselves in terms of how they dress - smart and scruffy can both be hot icon_biggrin.gif

    For me it's much more important that they know how to present themselves in terms of how they talk to people for the first time (showing good manners is a good example). There are so many grown men out there who don't seem to know how to talk to other adults it's not even funny.
  • LuckyGuyKC

    Posts: 2080

    Jan 03, 2012 2:01 PM GMT
    Diceroll saidI don't mind how guys present themselves in terms of how they dress - smart and scruffy can both be hot icon_biggrin.gif

    For me it's much more important that they know how to present themselves in terms of how they talk to people for the first time (showing good manners is a good example). There are so many grown men out there who don't seem to know how to talk to other adults it's not even funny.


    +1
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 2:05 PM GMT
    malefeet said
    I think that you took offense where none was intended.
    Doubleyou ALWAYS does..he's here only to stir shit up and nothing more.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 2:06 PM GMT
    Diceroll saidI don't mind how guys present themselves in terms of how they dress - smart and scruffy can both be hot icon_biggrin.gif

    For me it's much more important that they know how to present themselves in terms of how they talk to people for the first time (showing good manners is a good example). There are so many grown men out there who don't seem to know how to talk to other adults it's not even funny.


    Thank you!

    I like to look good, I tend to dress more fashionably but I certainly am not a prick.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 2:09 PM GMT
    swimguychicago said
    No style of clothing is going to change the face or body, so guys should just relax.

    .

    Saw this quoted about the gay Abercrombie obsession: "You can put a Halston dress on a monkey, but it's not going to make him Cindy Crawford."

    Ouch
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 2:11 PM GMT
    I like a mix of sophistication and ruggedness.

    +_lsfzp3KWql1qjkye2o1_500.jpg
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 2:47 PM GMT
    I like a guy who looks like they put a little effort into their look, that whole just woke up and threw the first thing on with greasy hair not so much.

    I do prefer rugged even with a bit nerdy with a slight edge. I dress very J.Crew. I like the style of their clothing. Every time I'm in the store their are always these hot guys shopping too! But their str8 icon_cry.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 2:50 PM GMT
    onaquest saidI like a mix of sophistication and ruggedness.

    +_lsfzp3KWql1qjkye2o1_500.jpg


    This would be a hot example of a bit nerdy with an edge and slight rugged. I bet in 10 years he will look hotter though. Not that I would kick that out of bed.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 2:52 PM GMT
    I like to look as good as I can.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2012 2:52 PM GMT
    Recently went and got a haircut with my boyfriend at the place where he goes. His friend cuts his hair.
    It was my turn to sit in the chair and his friend was asking me all these questions.
    My response, i like it short and easy to manage.
    He asked if i used product in my hair. and my bf quickly replied, no he doesn't. They both were mumbling, we need to change that.
    I got a great haircut, I like to trust the barber that they know what they are doing and can take little input and produce a quality product. I need a haircut, and I go to get a haircut. If I need electrical work, i'll go to an electrician. This is what I need, and you have excelled at the skill set and this is what you enjoy doing.

    Fast forward to new years eve. Boyfriend was looking me over, and grabs my head, tilts it down (i'm about 4-5" taller than him) and said, "Hair check"... Ok.

    It's cute, but sometimes I just wonder if you are in a relationship, would you rather have your man feel comfortable with who is he and how he looks rather than try to mold (in this case, his hair style...) etc.

    So, I can be polished in a suit, or just comfortable sweats/flannel, etc.
    Thus, why I like Denver and the relaxed atmosphere of the guys here. Yes, there are polished ones, yes there are ones that just look like they walked off the side of their trailer (because the bed only fits on the roof), but there are a majority that are in the middle (IMHO.. )

  • CuriousJockAZ

    Posts: 19129

    Jan 03, 2012 3:10 PM GMT
    I think part of someone's personality is the "style" they exude. Some guys have a fashion sense, others don't. Some guys can pull off a "look", others can't. "Polished" to me means someone who has found a sense of style that works for them, and they wear it well and with confidence. Guys who clean up well are sexy, as long as it doesn't look like they are trying to hard.