Yet another, boring "i came out" story

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    Jan 03, 2012 2:07 PM GMT
    Well I finally came out to my parents this holiday and it went pretty well.

    I know u have all prob heard these kind of stories before, but I am just excited to tell people.

    Their reactions were kinda strange, but not all that bad compared to some of the stories I had heard.

    My dad's reaction was, "is that why u have been an asshole to us lately". To which I replied, maybe, but its more likely the fact that I was living with my parents at 24 and no twenty year old can live with their parents and get along, but now that I'm moved out, things will b better. He seems to think that now my mom and I will get along better, but I don't think its that easy.... Anyway

    My mom said, "but your so masculine". To which I replied that not all gay guys are flaming stereotypes. She then kinda started crying and after they left she kept texting ne saying she was crying because I had to hide this secret, not cause she was sad.


    Well whatever, they took it as a bigger deal than I did. I guess at this point I have had enough time to completely come to terms with it and not give a flying fuck what others think. Still I'm glad it went well and that they accept me for who I am.

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    Jan 03, 2012 2:10 PM GMT
    Congrats! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 03, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
    I think your mom is super cool. not only that she's a mom that knows how to text icon_smile.gif but that she was able to say what she did, and understands your agony for all these years. Wish my mom could have been as understanding.
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    Jan 03, 2012 2:22 PM GMT
    wolverinecub86 said
    I know u have all prob heard these kind of stories before, but I am just excited to tell people.




    Who cares what others think! We're just always excited to share YOUR excitement!
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    Jan 03, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    TropicalMark said
    wolverinecub86 said
    I know u have all prob heard these kind of stories before, but I am just excited to tell people.




    Who cares what others think! We're just always excited to share YOUR excitement!



    +1
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    Jan 03, 2012 2:28 PM GMT

    "She then kinda started crying and after they left she kept texting ne saying she was crying because I had to hide this secret, not cause she was sad."


    You know I think that's terribly sweet of your Mom. You could always tell her you've told her because you love her, and that you were just waiting for a boost of self confidence before doing so.

    Congrats!

    warmly, -Doug
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    Jan 03, 2012 2:31 PM GMT
    a303guy saidI think your mom is super cool. not only that she's a mom that knows how to text icon_smile.gif but that she was able to say what she did, and understands your agony for all these years. Wish my mom could have been as understanding.


    Well my mom is a shrink so I knew she would either take it real well or real badly. I say badly cuz if she had no idea it could have been a blow to her professional pride. Afterward she told me that she thought maybe I was gay because I never seemed interested in woman, but she said she thought it was more likely that I had aspbergers. Which is ridiculous, if u ever met me, you would know I don't have aspbergers.

    And I totally trained her to txt lol.
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    Jan 03, 2012 2:33 PM GMT
    Aww thanks for all the support : )
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    Jan 03, 2012 2:40 PM GMT
    wolverinecub86 said
    a303guy saidI think your mom is super cool. not only that she's a mom that knows how to text icon_smile.gif but that she was able to say what she did, and understands your agony for all these years. Wish my mom could have been as understanding.


    Well my mom is a shrink so I knew she would either take it real well or real badly. I say badly cuz if she had no idea it could have been a blow to her professional pride. Afterward she told me that she thought maybe I was gay because I never seemed interested in woman, but she said she thought it was more likely that I had aspbergers. Which is ridiculous, if u ever met me, you would know I don't have aspbergers.

    And I totally trained her to txt lol.


    Wow, yeah, i've never met you, but i've read plenty of your posts, and nope, dont see the aspbergers thing either - but knowing that she's a shrink, it does fall into the realm of people in that profession having a need to pigeon hole everyone into some sort of psychological compartment. Regardless, that she was able to rationalize and accept you so quickly is super cool, I'm sure she will be your champion from this point forward. So happy for you!
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    Jan 03, 2012 2:43 PM GMT
    wolverinecub86 said
    a303guy saidI think your mom is super cool. not only that she's a mom that knows how to text icon_smile.gif but that she was able to say what she did, and understands your agony for all these years. Wish my mom could have been as understanding.


    And I totally trained her to txt lol.


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    Jan 03, 2012 3:02 PM GMT
    From what you say, it seems to have gone very well. Mom's know these things -- they just do. And many Dad's sense them.

    Congrats.
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    Jan 03, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    Nothing boaring about your story my friend. Congratulations. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 03, 2012 3:09 PM GMT
    Well done fella!

    My mum was a bit upset too, she said something like "I just keep thinking of how lonely and unhappy you must have been" and I was just like, hey don't worry about it I'm fine now!

    Hooray for being gay!

    Weird thing is, dunno if anyone else gets this, I still sometimes have to remind myself that I AM gay! I'm just me!
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    Jan 03, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    wolverinecub86 saidMy mom said, "but your so masculine".

    [SNIP]

    Well my mom is a shrink...

    First, CONGRATS! No, these stories aren't boring, especially when they're unique to my experience, like yours is. And as TropicalMark said: "We're just always excited to share YOUR excitement!"

    Interesting that even a professionally trained person (a psychologist, psychiatrist, counselor?) would still see masculinity as being incompatible with homosexuality. Not to criticize your mother, rather I suspect she may represent the attitudes of many people, layman and "shrinks" alike.

    Well, do your best to demonstrate to her how those 2 individual male features are quite compatible, and even common, in the gay world. And you may owe her an apology for not telling them sooner. She may be hurt by the appearance that you didn't trust her enough, and that she missed an opportunity to support you when you were younger.
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    Jan 03, 2012 3:58 PM GMT
    hey, it went well considering what could have happened. good job.icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 03, 2012 3:59 PM GMT
    Not boring at all. Congratulations man!

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    Jan 03, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    Congratulations. Your situation wasn't boring at all. Everybody has to do this in their own way and in their own time. Good job.
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:45 PM GMT
    wolverinecub86 said
    My mom said, "but your so masculine".

    This! LOL! You know there are people reading this who have actually met you in real life, right? .......(I'm totally kidding...You ARE masculine icon_wink.gif )


    Aww buddy I'm glad that you did it, and so happy they weren't judging you badly or things like that. icon_biggrin.gif it's a rite of passage that through your parents accepting you, you'll love appreciate yourself more. You are a lucky one that you have good parents that understood. icon_biggrin.gif Congratulations I'm really happy for you. hugs
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:53 PM GMT
    Thanks again guys for all your kind words


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    wolverinecub86 said
    My mom said, "but your so masculine".

    This! LOL! You know there are people reading this who have actually met you in real life, right? .......(I'm totally kidding...You ARE masculine icon_wink.gif )


    Aww buddy I'm glad that you did it, and so happy they weren't judging you badly or things like that. icon_biggrin.gif it's a rite of passage that through your parents accepting you, you'll love appreciate yourself more. You are a lucky one that you have good parents that understood. icon_biggrin.gif Congratulations I'm really happy for you.




    Lol well in real life most people don't think I'm gay until they see me with my tongue down another guy's throat : ). What's funny is I don't think I'm overly masculine, just an average guy. I care little about shoes and clothes, but equally as little about watching baseball (so boring....)

    I'm always told that my gay card is gunna b revoked : (


    But w.e. at least I can educate people I meet that being gay has nothing to do with pink feather boas or talking with a lisp (it has all to do with hot sweaty mansex tho)
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    Jan 03, 2012 6:14 PM GMT
    Congratulations!!!!

    Ya big flaming Queen Ya!!!!!!!

    JK - it takes a REAL man to wear a harness to Christmas Dinner!!!!

    XOXOXOXOXO

    Glad it went well!!!!!!
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    Jan 03, 2012 6:18 PM GMT
    wolverinecub86 saidThanks again guys for all your kind words


    Cityaznguy said
    wolverinecub86 said
    My mom said, "but your so masculine".

    This! LOL! You know there are people reading this who have actually met you in real life, right? .......(I'm totally kidding...You ARE masculine icon_wink.gif )


    Aww buddy I'm glad that you did it, and so happy they weren't judging you badly or things like that. icon_biggrin.gif it's a rite of passage that through your parents accepting you, you'll love appreciate yourself more. You are a lucky one that you have good parents that understood. icon_biggrin.gif Congratulations I'm really happy for you.




    Lol well in real life most people don't think I'm gay until they see me with my tongue down another guy's throat : ). What's funny is I don't think I'm overly masculine, just an average guy. I care little about shoes and clothes, but equally as little about watching baseball (so boring....)

    I'm always told that my gay card is gunna b revoked : (


    But w.e. at least I can educate people I meet that being gay has nothing to do with pink feather boas or talking with a lisp (it has all to do with hot sweaty mansex tho)


    Deny it all you want, you like the pink feathery boas. Congratulations on coming out to your folks and them taking it well!
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    Jan 03, 2012 6:51 PM GMT
    Warm and hardy congrats! And heaps o' praise for your folks!

    But seriously, Gurrrl... don't expect us to buy your bit that it's not about the pink feather boa. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 03, 2012 6:56 PM GMT
    Lol thx guys : )


    And u caught me, I do love pink feather boas
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    Jan 03, 2012 7:31 PM GMT
    Congratulations. Hope it turns out better for you from here on out.
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    Jan 03, 2012 7:35 PM GMT
    Hey Wolv:

    I do not think your story is boring for coming out...its a celebration manicon_smile.gif Congratulations!...Every story is an inspiration and encouragement to others.

    I think your parents took it quite well give them time to digest, they still love youicon_smile.gif