The perfect boyfriend

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    Jan 03, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    In your eyes, what thing would make a guy a good boyfriend?.....or what makes the guy your with at the moment (or have been with) so special to you?

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    Jan 03, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    deeley1 saidIn your eyes, what thing would make a guy a good boyfriend?.....or what makes the guy your with at the moment (or have been with) so special to you?

    Make a list...
    Can't wait for the responses icon_biggrin.gif


    why is everyone always looking for the perfect boyfriend, why not try to become the perfect guy yourselficon_cool.gif
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:01 PM GMT
    NO SUCH THING! You love and accept them for who they are not for what your ideal is. Most people's ideals can be unrealistic.

    If your boyfriend was 'perfect' a relationship would get boring pretty damn quick.
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:02 PM GMT
    Xelorate saidNO SUCH THING! You love them for who they are and accept them for who they are not for what your ideal is.

    If your boyfriend was 'perfect' a relationship would get boring pretty damn quick.


    but i am perfect, are you trying to say i am boringicon_evil.gif
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:03 PM GMT


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    You begin, deeley1, so we know a little better what you refer to. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:03 PM GMT
    archon said
    Xelorate saidNO SUCH THING! You love them for who they are and accept them for who they are not for what your ideal is.

    If your boyfriend was 'perfect' a relationship would get boring pretty damn quick.


    but i am perfect, are you trying to say i am boringicon_evil.gif


    LOL Archon!
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
    Xelorate said
    archon said
    Xelorate saidNO SUCH THING! You love them for who they are and accept them for who they are not for what your ideal is.

    If your boyfriend was 'perfect' a relationship would get boring pretty damn quick.


    but i am perfect, are you trying to say i am boringicon_evil.gif


    LOL Archon!


    what, i am!
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:19 PM GMT
    ......fine....what makes a good boyfriend? jeez....
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:24 PM GMT
    deeley1 said......fine....what makes a good boyfriend? jeez....


    It's a very very very broad question deeley.
    So, to get this rolling;

    fidelity
    trust
    attractiveness
    attracted to me
    responsible
    sensible
    kind
    empathetic
    fun
    serious
    communicative
    subtle
    overt
    reciprocal in love

    ...and there's a lot more.


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    Jan 03, 2012 4:28 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    deeley1 said......fine....what makes a good boyfriend? jeez....


    It's a very very very broad question deeley.
    So, to get this rolling;

    fidelity
    trust
    attractiveness
    attracted to me
    responsible
    sensible
    kind
    empathetic
    fun
    serious
    communicative
    subtle
    overt
    reciprocal in love

    ...and there's a lot more.




    what do you mean by 'subtle'.....and....what's involved in the 'lot more' bit...?...
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:35 PM GMT
    Obviously, there is no "perfect boyfriend" but close to it would be someone who is first and foremost my best friend...someone who is independent and has his own life separate from our life together....someone who I can't wait to see at the end of the day and who makes me smile when I wake up in the morning...and someone who never makes me doubt for a second how much he loves me. A guy can dream can't he? icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:41 PM GMT
    deeley1 said
    meninlove said
    deeley1 said......fine....what makes a good boyfriend? jeez....


    It's a very very very broad question deeley.
    So, to get this rolling;

    fidelity
    trust
    attractiveness
    attracted to me
    responsible
    sensible
    kind
    empathetic
    fun
    serious
    communicative
    subtle
    overt
    reciprocal in love

    ...and there's a lot more.




    what do you mean by 'subtle'.....and....what's involved in the 'lot more' bit...?...

    A lot more in that you realise we could be at this for days?

    Subtle is just what it is. Sometimes a look alone speaks of love without words.
    Overt, in that declarations of love are also nice, depending on the circumstances.
    Subtle, like the touch of your man's foot under a table at a formal family gathering.

    Curiousjock just gave you a good one; friendship.
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    Jan 03, 2012 4:43 PM GMT


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    Jan 03, 2012 4:58 PM GMT
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    Jan 03, 2012 5:04 PM GMT
    Someone they loves you.
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    Jan 03, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    For me, I hope to find someone who is loving, loyal, intelligent(nerdy), and ambitious. Someone that I could confide with and vice versa. I also like a guy with flaws, and imperfections. A rough diamond.

    I don't mean insane or anything haha, but I think like everyone else said perfection is rather boring. Someone who is honest with their problems and fears show character and trust to me. It also makes me want to hug the crap out of them. So screw prince charming I say. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 03, 2012 5:09 PM GMT
    There is no such thing
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    Jan 03, 2012 5:17 PM GMT
    Passionplay88 saidThere is no such thing


    ...what as a 'good boyfriend'?

    *shoots himself in the head*
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    Jan 03, 2012 5:25 PM GMT
    The perfect boyfriend

    No one is perfect, so I take this to be rhetorical, actually meaning "best" or at least "good" or "right" boyfriend. And one who's best for ourselves, not necessarily for everyone else.

    And so for me, the thing he must be, first & foremost, is:

    - Able to put up with me. I'm very much an acquired taste, which many find bitter at first. And which sometimes turns sour again as I fall back into bad habits, tempting them to throw me out as rotten, if I don't turn back sweet quick enough.

    For the rest, it's pretty much the same as others have listed above:

    - Basically good, loyal, kind, helpful, loving, & honest.
    - Having much the same interests as me, but not so much the same talents, hobbies and pursuits. These latter should be complimentary in a couple, not competitive, that makes them into a team, not tug-of-war contestants.
    - And not into ugly things, like addictions, criminality, tempers, selfishness and meanness.

    Appearance, wealth & possessions barely attract my attention. Even hot sex at my age is not a big factor. But age does need to be fairly close to my own. I relate best to my own generation.
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    Jan 03, 2012 5:25 PM GMT
    first off it would be a MAN and not a boy icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 03, 2012 5:33 PM GMT
    We laughed at the same things.

    The love of my life and myself had identical humors. It is why our parents introduced us. Many of our friends commented on it. Even our laughter was the same. My hearing him at a party was like listening to myself from across the room. We were each other's echo.

    I've often experienced similar humor with others in varying degrees but never before nor since have I known what it feels like to be so completely in synch with another human being. I think that is probably rare and it turned out to be ephemeral. One decade out of 50 years so far. I wouldn't have traded it for anything.

    I don't ever expect to know that ever again. Certainly I'd be surprised if it happens. But regardless now of sexual attraction, of intellectual curiosity, of any level of admiration or even of pity, what signals me that there might be some best bud potential in someone I meet is always their humor.

    If I can get them to laugh. If they can get me to laugh. We have a chance. We can build on that.
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    Jan 03, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    deeley1 said
    Passionplay88 saidThere is no such thing


    ...what is a 'good boyfriend'?

    *shoots himself in the head*



    There is no wrong or right answer to this question because what makes a "good boyfriend" is different depending on who you're asking.
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    Jan 03, 2012 6:09 PM GMT
    I've finally found the most perfect guy for myself. After a whole lot of years of relationships - long and not-so-long with a lot of great guys, I never thought I'd find anyone so perfect for me. What I wanted was the right chemistry and mix of attributes, including: integrity, brains, humor, style, savoir-faire, clean healthy living, and someone I can get along with. Sometimes it takes you thirty years to find the right guy.
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    Jan 03, 2012 6:13 PM GMT
    it's not about being perfect, it's about having someone who accepts you for your flaws.

    someone who makes me laugh

    someone who is willing to admit when he is wrong/say i'm sorry

    someone HONEST. biggest thing to me.

    somoene who isn't afraid to show emotion.

    someone who makes me feel safe.

    someone who is there for me during good/bad/great/horrible times. Ride or die.
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    Jan 03, 2012 6:14 PM GMT
    Mine is 90% the best and the other 10% is his jealousy which l do not like at all as l am not the jealous type!