Am I in the wrong?

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    Jan 04, 2012 5:29 AM GMT
    So a couple months back I wasnt openly gay to anybody, but now some friends and family know. However, at a cousins wedding, a girl, who I must insist isnt the nicest of people, decided to call me out on being gay (this being probably the 4th time) when I was deeply closeted. She wasnt very nice about it either. She would always have some smug "i'm better than you/you have flaws and i'm going to make fun of them/i'm absolutely perfect" kind of attitude whenever she did and her assessment was based on stereotypes. Now obviously this upset me and my first reaction was to lash out at her so I made fun of her being divorced and my brother stood up for me and eventually made her cry and go home.
    So recently, I was talking with my brothers about being gay, nothing serious, in fact they were joking around the whole time (totally accepting of me being gay) when one of them claimed I owed her an apology. Now I thought, no, I will never apologize because 1) Shes just an awful person in general 2) I found it rather rude to call someone out on being homosexual based on a stereotype, especially when this was somewhat of a problem for me and 3) The way she acted when she called me out......however it got me thinking.
    My best friend who I first came out to agrees with me while my siblings feel I still owe her an apology, whats your take?
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    Jan 04, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    What goes around, comes around. She gave you hers, and you gave it right back. I say, you guys are even.
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    Jan 04, 2012 5:34 AM GMT
    Yes and No. Maybe apologize for stooping down to her level and publicly humiliating her, but not for your defending yourself. And I'd make it clear that I would defend myself again, and in public, if she ever pulled that shit on me, or my friends again.
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    Jan 04, 2012 5:37 AM GMT
    It does seem like they're even, but I think they should talk it out civilly. Let her know that it wasn't her place to say things like that and that you said what you said out of spite.
    Unless she's a bigoted megabitch, in which case the best thing to do is just avoid her.
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    Jan 04, 2012 5:44 AM GMT
    ry77no saidUnless she's a bigoted megabitch, in which case the best thing to do is just avoid her.


    yeah ive just been avoiding her, no need to talk to her anyways
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    Jan 04, 2012 5:53 AM GMT
    I'd try to work things out, possibly apologize even if it's not genuine . She sounds like a loose cannon. I wouldn't want someone like that to be my enemy.
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    Jan 04, 2012 1:03 PM GMT
    Sounds like she is making her self feel better by pointing out your insecurities at the time. She is wrong, it may have not been handled right, but the bitch got a cunt lashing that she needed to realize its not ok to do things like that. Is she 14 or something.

    Women..... Ugh! Pull her hair and lash that box with a whp!
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    Jan 04, 2012 1:13 PM GMT
    You probably should apologize to her. Even though she gave you a good reason to be mean to her, you still have hurt her feelings.
    By apologizing to her you show her that besides being gay your are still so much more mature and nicer than her.
    So you kind of get your "revenge", but acted polite.

    You shouldn't expect an apology from her though. A simple text would be enough the drama ended and you don't have to talk to her again besides the usual family small-talk.

    And I'm really sorry to her what she has done for you, that was just mean and in no way ok
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    Jan 04, 2012 1:14 PM GMT
    *done to you