darren222 saidOk, long story short, I joined an lgbt society at my university last year. I met this man who was the most charismatic, amazing person I have ever met. Then I quickly realised that he was a sadistic psychopath who proceeded to use and abuse me until I had a nervous breakdown. This guy was an evil creative and the torture went on for a long time. He was ex chairman, very popular, and manipulated the society to his advantage. He even stole my next boyfriend, this is what I need insight on, he texted me "I didn't pull david(bf) to spite you. I did it because I can". My boyfriend said, "ok I'm sorry I hurt you, but I am not going to let that stop me from doing what I want to do" my question involved human nature and it's cruel side, do you need to be cruel to be happy? People do things because they can? What does that mean?
Well, personally your problem raises 3 red flags. First off was the man you met in this lgbt society, because you found out that he just wants to use people to help further his agenda.
Then he steals your next boyfriend. Red flag #2.
And finally, your boyfriend says that he's gonna do what he's gonna do period. Red flag #3.
And the answers to the questions at the bottom of your post. Answer to question1: Do you need to be cruel to be happy? No, in a matter of fact, this man is very unhappy with his life. He's one of those people who wears a mask. Sure, he looks great, charismatic, and can talk the talk, but he's one of those people who ignores his internal issues, therefore bringing out inner conflict. If anything, he needs help, but since he's going to be the stubborn person he's gonna be, he won't seek it. So, sucks to be him.
Answer to question 2: People do things because they can? Wrong. This is a piss-poor, if anything, horrible excuse. It shouldn't even be called an excuse...it's assholery to a whole new level. This guy is playing with your head. Get him out of your head and move on, it's obvious this guy doesn't have a caring bone in his body.
Answer to question 3: It means that you got caught up in a mess that you can't control, and unfortunately that's how it goes sometimes. I can't tell you how many times I was caught up in a mess. I used to be one of those people who used people to my advantage, only to find out that well, the world just simply doesn't revolve around me.
This is one of the BIG reasons why I don't get involved in relationships (be they romantic or friendly). I go by a saying, as sad as it sounds, to "trust no one." Yes, I understand, life is about taking risks and doing the impossible, but my past is so fraught with error that I just can't take risks...at least not right now. Maybe later on I will, but for right now, I steer clear of people. I don't get involved in their business, and therefore, I don't want them to get involved in mine. I have enough things to worry about already then to have stupid drama go on between someone. I can watch that shit on t.v., I certainly don't need it now, and I won't need it later. Always be on your guard, because you never know when someone's gonna use you.