How do you prepare for bottoming?

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    Jan 05, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    I am actually really embarrassed to ask this question, because I am already 26 years of age, and I have not bottomed yet. Now with my BF (my first gay relationship) I think I am finally ready for something like this. I am not sure how I should be preparing though. Is there a standard thing that I should do (like douche or stretch) before being penetrated? Before this relationship I have been with women and I have only topped before, so I am not sure what the standard operating procedure is. I am too embarrassed to ask my BF what he does, because I kind of do not want to ruin the surprise, as he has been talking about wanting to top me.

    I would really appreciate all the help and pointers that I can get. Thanks in advance! This site is awesome.
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    Jan 05, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    Hold your breath and count to ten
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    Jan 05, 2012 12:56 AM GMT
    Modify your diet about 24 hours before you plan to play. Switch to soy milk or something.

    Buy and regularly use one of these...
    41bYCwPNrSL._SL500_AA300_.jpg

    Google: shower douche
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    Jan 05, 2012 1:00 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidModify your diet about 24 hours before you plan to play. Switch to soy milk or something.

    Buy and regularly use one of these...
    41bYCwPNrSL._SL500_AA300_.jpg

    Google: shower douche


    I thought that was a rope at first lol
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    Jan 05, 2012 1:18 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidModify your diet about 24 hours before you plan to play. Switch to soy milk or something.

    Buy and regularly use one of these...
    41bYCwPNrSL._SL500_AA300_.jpg

    Google: shower douche


    I am really sorry and I know I am going to sound like a complete idiot, but do I douche with just tap water or some kind of other water, like saline or something?

    Also, should I stretch? Maybe pre-lube my, umm, anal-canal? (rectum)? icon_redface.gif
  • jackthejock

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    Jan 05, 2012 10:27 AM GMT
    I usually don't douche, it's never been a problem for me of it being messy, but it might depend on your diet and bowel movements (if you're not feeling 100% down their on a certain day don't do it) but I always go to the bathroom first and then take a shower and make sure to clean my ass really well. I also usually finger it a bit in the shower if I feel like I'm going to be in the mood to bottom.


    Most importantly if you've not done it before use lots and lots of lube, then finger yourself to loosen up a bit and then let him finger you...you'll notice right away that it feel totally different when it is somebody else doing it. You just need to give yourself some time to adjust to the feeling of something going in there. Then when you're ready for him to actually top you make sure he know you want him to start slow. I find laying on our sides like spooning is most comfortable for me to relax, but different people like different positions. Keep in mind the first time you might not be able to last long, you might cum right away or you might be tight and need him to stop. My boyfriend is pretty big, so if it's been a while since I've bottomed we usually have to stop and start and adjust a bit.

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    Jan 05, 2012 10:30 AM GMT
    Chippup said I am too embarrassed to ask my BF what he does, because I kind of do not want to ruin the surprise, as he has been talking about wanting to top me..



    Also, don't worry about spoiling the surprise. He is your boyfriend and you're new at this, surprise him with it early on in the evening and then maybe shower together and find out what he does to get ready. It seems embarrassing but if he wants to fuck you, he should be OK with helping you figure out how to do it safely and comfortably.
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    Jan 05, 2012 3:20 PM GMT
    jackthejock said
    Chippup said I am too embarrassed to ask my BF what he does, because I kind of do not want to ruin the surprise, as he has been talking about wanting to top me..



    Also, don't worry about spoiling the surprise. He is your boyfriend and you're new at this, surprise him with it early on in the evening and then maybe shower together and find out what he does to get ready. It seems embarrassing but if he wants to fuck you, he should be OK with helping you figure out how to do it safely and comfortably.


    Thx for all your comments! icon_smile.gif
  • Rolland

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    Jan 06, 2012 9:53 AM GMT
    oh god dont do it! its painful! jk... but seriously it does hurt and i've only done it a few times... it sucks i'm a bottom that doesnt like to bottom. make sure you dont cum too early (just dont jerkyourself or anything) otherwise... you'll be bored icon_surprised.gif
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    Jan 06, 2012 10:20 AM GMT
    Rolland said it sucks i'm a bottom that doesnt like to bottom.


    That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. What, did God come down personally, brand the word "BOTTOM" across your ass and now you have no choice but to fulfill this obligation despite your own displeasure? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 06, 2012 1:22 PM GMT
    Douching is... maybe overkill, depending on who you are. The colon is naturally pretty clean if you have a good diet. The purpose of the organ is get waste out of the body, not to hold onto it. Only a poor diet will give you a dirty colon.

    I bottomed for my last boyfriend frequently and in our whole time together I think there may have been maybe two times where I knew I wasn't ready down there for anything to happen. Otherwise, apart from just normal shower hygiene, there weren't any issues.
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    Jan 06, 2012 3:55 PM GMT
    I was just like you.
    Always topped.
    Bottoming hurt like hell.
    Until only few months ago I ordered online training butt plugs.
    Only small + medium and some str8cam lube (Really good one!)
    Started practising, whilst I'm at work sitting by the computer anyway.
    And now I'm really chuffed as I can do it!
    I still don't feel any pleasure from it as I'm not a bottom, but I CAN DO IT!!!
    Yay!
    Training butt plugs are not very expensive.
    Try it.
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    Jan 06, 2012 6:19 PM GMT
    buy a douche... use lube on it to insert it... a couple of squisches should do fine. Be gentle, use plain water, no soap... not so sure about the modifying the diet 24 hrs before, as one guy said, if u eat healthy it should be fine. Remember communication is key.... LOL
  • PRDGUY

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    Jan 07, 2012 12:58 PM GMT
    as I never know when is going too happened, I have never done anything special 4 it. I simply have continued to do what I have been tugjt to all my life... I shower everyday and make sure that area is clean
  • sportsguysd7

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    Jan 07, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    Shower before, use plenty of lube, clamp down right before he goes in to help loosen up, and don't touch yourself until after he's in. This from someone who's not a big fan of it either.
  • frelling_cute

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    Jan 07, 2012 6:40 PM GMT
    My partner and I trade off but I prefer being a top because it hurts for me to be bottomed.
    Just make sure everything is clean.
  • PRDGUY

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    Jan 07, 2012 7:26 PM GMT
    I basically only top however With my fuck buddy I do bttm. He is over 9 inches And a little above average girth... and point being I've never been hurt no work experience pain. the first time I did feel discomfort however every time including me first my cock is rock hard and on 1 occasion shot a massive load with nothing touching it.
  • Soccorjock95

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    Jan 08, 2012 9:58 PM GMT
    for ur first time, even before u get to it.. u should finger urself a lot and maybe even use a dildo, loosen u up a bit so u can enjoy it more.. and then wen u get down to it, have ur bf rim u and finger u, then use lost of lube and go slow.. good luck icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 07, 2012 1:12 AM GMT
    The only way to prepare is to just relax let the guy hit a spot that feels good and make sure he does it every time just because your a bottomg doesnt mean you cant be in controlicon_wink.gif
  • satakas

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    Mar 10, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    yea...shower hose is the best option. when i'm preparing, it can take a couple of hours to get really clean from inside. of course i don't sit all that time in toilet with a hose in my ass...to get totally clean it just needs some flushing and some settling and some dildo-working over and over again. but at last i'm ready and have no worries of brown dicks and can do ass-to-mouth with no problems.

  • Apr 16, 2012 9:24 AM GMT
    most gay guys seem obsessed with anal sex

    relax and let the top push his dong inside you. it will hurt at first, maybe very bad, but if you relax and are psychologically prepared for it, it will get better than pleasurable.

    if you are a total bitch bottom, then none of this matters,because as soon as he enters you, you will be in heaven
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    Apr 19, 2012 5:23 PM GMT
    If the top knows what he is doing and is not trying to be abusive then its a wonderful experience
  • MikemikeMike

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    Apr 19, 2012 6:10 PM GMT
    Chippup said
    GAMRican saidModify your diet about 24 hours before you plan to play. Switch to soy milk or something.

    Buy and regularly use one of these...
    41bYCwPNrSL._SL500_AA300_.jpg

    Google: shower douche


    I am really sorry and I know I am going to sound like a complete idiot, but do I douche with just tap water or some kind of other water, like saline or something?

    Also, should I stretch? Maybe pre-lube my, umm, anal-canal? (rectum)? icon_redface.gif


    DO NOT use a shower douche- this will hurt more than a hard dick if you never did it before. Eat a good clean diet, plenty of fiber. If you need to eat high fiber cereal. Drink a fiber supplement. Just take a good shower clean up there well so he can rim you and get you ready. Let him finger you to help dialate your anus first one finger than two. Use plenty of lube. In a short time you will want more. Remember to breathe and relax- make him wear a condom! and have fun!!! I have topped a few virgins and I am not small. It will work. There will be a little pain unless he isn't hung. Enjoy- shower and repeat.icon_idea.gif
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    Apr 20, 2012 6:15 PM GMT
    MikemikeMike said
    Chippup said
    GAMRican saidModify your diet about 24 hours before you plan to play. Switch to soy milk or something.

    Buy and regularly use one of these...
    41bYCwPNrSL._SL500_AA300_.jpg

    Google: shower douche


    I am really sorry and I know I am going to sound like a complete idiot, but do I douche with just tap water or some kind of other water, like saline or something?

    Also, should I stretch? Maybe pre-lube my, umm, anal-canal? (rectum)? icon_redface.gif


    DO NOT use a shower douche- this will hurt more than a hard dick if you never did it before. Eat a good clean diet, plenty of fiber. If you need to eat high fiber cereal. Drink a fiber supplement. Just take a good shower clean up there well so he can rim you and get you ready. Let him finger you to help dialate your anus first one finger than two. Use plenty of lube. In a short time you will want more. Remember to breathe and relax- make him wear a condom! and have fun!!! I have topped a few virgins and I am not small. It will work. There will be a little pain unless he isn't hung. Enjoy- shower and repeat.icon_idea.gif

    Actually, for me this works perfectly. Me and my boyfriend have been living together for two years now, and at first we wouldn't have penetrative sex as often as we do now simply because of the hustle of getting "ready." But ever since we got the shower douche its much easier to clean myself and be ready. In fact we do it almost every day now.
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    Apr 20, 2012 8:24 PM GMT
    Spooning might be the easiest position to go with for your first encounter. At least for me it was the only way I could handle it, otherwise it was too painful.