Dude why do the guys I think are hot never feel the same about me!!!!

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    Jun 19, 2008 7:33 AM GMT
    God I feel like every guy I think is hot, very muscular always wants that skinny twink or scene kid with those stupid scene cloths. I mean whats wrong with me. There has got to be another guy in LA who also loves to work out and is in shape and think I am hot too!!!! Ughhh!!! it drives me crazy! Only skinny twinks think Im hot and Its gotten to a point to where if they have abs then I might just take them up on their offer cuz I I have ever gotten is twinks who lets them selves go and have that beer belly....but they dont drink bear so its a Cosmo Counch lol. Fuck this!
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    Jun 19, 2008 7:37 AM GMT
    The more people you hit on and get rejected by then the more immunity you build.
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    Jun 19, 2008 7:40 AM GMT
    Oh I wasn't talking about you man that all was aroused my a trip at the theme park today and saw the hottest guy of all time, and didn't even get a glance. lol And he was gay for sure
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    Jun 19, 2008 7:43 AM GMT
    You know, I don't know why you would get turned down either. You are a strapping young man.

    Perhaps you need to be more aggressive.
    "BITCH! Get over here now!"
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    Jun 19, 2008 7:43 AM GMT
    ItsMyLife saidOh I wasn't talking about you man that all was aroused my a trip at the theme park today and saw the hottest guy of all time, and didn't even get a glance. lol And he was gay for sure


    lose the fauxhawk/gel...just a suggestion.

    I think it happens to everyone. I get the queeniest guys ever that grope and hit on me...I just say "no thanks" and "stop touching me."

    go to different spots.
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    Jun 19, 2008 7:52 AM GMT
    ItsMyLife said...was aroused my a trip at the theme park today and saw the hottest guy of all time, and didn't even get a glance. lol And he was gay for sure


    You NEVER know unless you hit on them. Next time go up to him.
  • calipally

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    Jun 19, 2008 7:58 AM GMT
    Dude, you're fine the way you are, hairstyle and all. Don't take it to heart. Just be yourself and don't sweat it.

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    Jun 19, 2008 8:12 AM GMT
    oh i dont have the hawk any more but jesus i guess i need more confidence
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    Jun 19, 2008 8:18 AM GMT
    Such as life, and then when a guys feels for you, you don't feel the same...

    Well that was the story of my life anyhow.
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    Jun 19, 2008 8:24 AM GMT
    yeah that was my last relationship lol
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    Jun 19, 2008 8:26 AM GMT
    ItsMyLife saidGod I feel like every guy I think is hot, very muscular always wants that skinny twink or scene kid with those stupid scene cloths. I mean whats wrong with me. There has got to be another guy in LA who also loves to work out and is in shape and think I am hot too!!!! Ughhh!!! it drives me crazy! Only skinny twinks think Im hot and Its gotten to a point to where if they have abs then I might just take them up on their offer cuz I I have ever gotten is twinks who lets them selves go and have that beer belly....but they dont drink bear so its a Cosmo Counch lol. Fuck this!


    lol. ok, i can sympathize, but seriously you don't have anything to complain about, us gaySians have it worse. icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 19, 2008 8:41 AM GMT
    The world is such a complicated place. When eye candy can't snag the catch either you know the powers of attraction are out of alignment.
  • zi0nx5

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    Jun 19, 2008 8:47 AM GMT
    Ummm.. which guys are you talking about? Because I def want to get in touch with them icon_smile.gif

    I'm assuming you're going for the same type of guy I'm going for (all american jock type) and all of them––from what I've seen––just want more of themselves (no offense to anyone and I don't blame them). But seriously, do point out to me these LA guys.

    Though, I'm not so much a fan of being put into the "twink" category. If only I could gain some damn weight and keep it for once.
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    Jun 19, 2008 9:44 AM GMT
    So far, my experience is that there are 6 types of gay men in the world.
    1. Those that I'm attracted to who aren't attracted to me for any reason from my age, my looks, my interests or whatever.
    2. Those that I'm not attracted to who are attracted to me.
    3. Those to whom there's no mutual attraction.
    4. Those to whom there is a mutual attraction but he's a nut case.
    5. Those to whom there is a mutual attraction but he's in a relationship.
    6. Those I'm attracted to, who are attracted to me, and who live 1000+ miles away.
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    Jun 19, 2008 9:50 AM GMT
    bgcat57 saidSo far, my experience is that there are 6 types of gay men in the world.
    1. Those that I'm attracted to who aren't attracted to me for any reason from my age, my looks, my interests or whatever.
    2. Those that I'm not attracted to who are attracted to me.
    3. Those to whom there's no mutual attraction.
    4. Those to whom there is a mutual attraction but he's a nut case.
    5. Those to whom there is a mutual attraction but he's in a relationship.
    6. Those I'm attracted to, who are attracted to me, and who live 1000+ miles away.


    OMG So true hahahaha icon_biggrin.gif

    Your pretty damn hot, you just need to relax, if they have rejected ya for what ever its there loss!
  • GQjock

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    Jun 19, 2008 10:16 AM GMT
    Dude... this is the internet!

    For every attitude-addled hottie out there that doesn't want to talk to you there are ten-thousand more thaT WILL!
    Just turn the page icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 19, 2008 10:35 AM GMT
    Well when I first came out I kept going to a gay bar that was full of twinks who were not interested in me, but I was interested in them (at least physically).

    It is one of the frustrating aspects of gay life for many gay men. Attraction to a certain "type" that is not attracted to you.

    Eventually, if you go to different venues and get exposed to a wider range of gay men, your tastes will broaden. I know mine did.
  • youngblond888

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    Jun 19, 2008 10:46 AM GMT
    everyone is so dif and picky that it just takes time to find that like minded person. My biggest problem is that I am too picky. I get guys who are amazing but i find a single big flaw and thats game (we all have big flaws). I think people need to be more open. I am now. I give any guy a chance as long as he is in my age group per say. I think that the one thing that is hard to overcome is age. It is something that puts to much experience or lack there of in between people. I think that if we are open to a dif body type, etc, something really great could happen!
  • iHavok

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    Jun 19, 2008 12:16 PM GMT
    I'll talk to anyone who i find attractive, or who flirts with me.

    Sounds bad, but honestly? I'll find some reason to hate them and want to punch them in the throat until their windpipe collapses and i have to perform an emergency tracheotomy with juice box straws taped together (reference?)within two weeks max.

    I have very low tolerance for a lot of things. Mostly it comes down to A) breaking the law (usually with drug use) or B) attitude (you aren't as hot as you think you are, and thinking you are that hot only makes you less so).

    No wonder i'm terminally single. Sadly, I'm happier this way lately. Long as I can stick close to Chizzard, so I can be the one to get his smooth balls in my mouth after he showers them, life is good.
  • stevarino7

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    Jun 19, 2008 12:22 PM GMT
    I bet there are lots of guys out there who have thought the same concerning you. They think you're attractive, but you have no interest in them.
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    Jun 19, 2008 12:28 PM GMT
    Sometimes we attract what we need (to teach us a lesson) and not what we want, and sometimes we want what we think we need and not what we actually need.

    What you can do is treat people how you want to be treated, learn, and be grounded (be real as opposed to live in fantasy) and accept yourself. Sometimes you find happiness in places you don't expect and you are capable of things you didn't know.

    P.S. At 19, you have a way to go yet.

  • Jun 19, 2008 1:43 PM GMT
    My problem is that the guys who approach me I'm generally not attracted to. They make great friends, but not what I'm looking for in a boyfriend.

    The guys that I'm interested in, some of them aren't interested in me, and others are interested in me but are intimidated by me, so they won't approach me. And I'm too shy to approach them.

    Of course I run into sexual incompatability problems as well. People assume that just because I'm a big guy that I'm a top. I'm not. While I do enjoy topping, I'm going to get bored damned fast if that's all I'm able to do in a relationship.
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    Jun 19, 2008 2:20 PM GMT
    ItsMyLife; First off, you are seriously FINE the way you are, SERIOUSLY! Secondly, DO NOT SWEAT it! Thirdly, you're only 19 and got yourself time for you to be the HOT one; you're already there!!! Fourthly, we have ALL been there at one point or another, you'll get yours which I am SURE you have had some GOOD ones!!! Just be yourself, relax, roll with it, build your friendships and he will come!!

    One piece of advice; I noticed when I became MORE verbally aggressive about approaching guys, I was surprised who was paying attention to me. So, don't be afraid to approach guys, I mean what's the WORST that could happen? That he says, thanks but not interested?? So what!! Go for yours man!!
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    Jun 19, 2008 2:38 PM GMT
    a1972guy said

    One piece of advice; I noticed when I became MORE verbally aggressive about approaching guys, I was surprised who was paying attention to me. So, don't be afraid to approach guys, I mean what's the WORST that could happen? That he says, thanks but not interested?? So what!! Go for yours man!!


    I agree. You can't sit back and wonder why they aren't lining up. It's crazy the number of guys who act like they have no time for you, who will admit to having a crush on you the minute you start talking to them. ( My current bf of 10yrs spent two years afraid to talk to me and I was intimidated also, so we never said hi to each other.)
    Anyways, opening yourself up to meet new people, whatever they look like, often gets you invited to a party or dinner where there will be someone you are interested in and they will get the chance to get to know you. I have noticed on here and out and about , that people are too quick to write each other off based only on appearance.

    And p.s.
    about the worst that can happen....umm , yeah...
    A while back, in my twink days, when I lived in Atlanta, I had sort of stalked my perfect idea of a guy... so i stared at him for months, would strategically place myself in his eyes view whenever I saw him out, etc. (yeah... I must have seemed crazy, I realize this now.)
    So , I finally got the courage (whiskey variety of course) and stumbled over to him and said "HI"... he yelled at the top of his lungs (not in a speaking voice at all) for me to "get the f*ck away " from him... so yeah, something bad and embarrassing might happen, but it builds character, right?
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    Jun 19, 2008 2:39 PM GMT
    i've always had far more women and straight men after me than gay guys icon_lol.gif