Have you ever started your life over from scratch?

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    Jan 06, 2012 6:09 AM GMT
    I have, many times...sometimes for better, most times for worse.

    Now I'm taking the biggest gamble I've ever taken in life. I'm leaving everything behind except my workout equipment and a few things that can be packed in a car, and moving away for an 8 month contract. When I get back, I'll have to start over from scratch.

    Pros:
    - I'll have a relatively comfortable amount of money saved at the end of the contract, even after taxes and renting a house (or buying, depending on the market then).
    - I'll be able to fulfill past promises that fell through due to budgeting fuckups.
    - I can pretend to be a rich bitch for a limited amount of time.

    Cons:
    - I'll be flying 8 hrs a day, 3 days a week, with a 2 hr setup/takedown time before, between, and after each flight...totally exhausting days, and hard on my back (lots of kneeling and bending over, no pun intended, this time).
    - If precautions aren't taken extremely seriously (exercise & stretches) I could wind up with another round of herniated disk problems with sciatica, which would totally fuck up the whole thing.
    - If I get homesick, there's nothing I can do cause I officially live in AZ as of tomorrow.
    - I'll miss Miami. For the 3rd summer in a row. icon_sad.gif But I'll visit at least one weekend to see my papi lindo on Sobe. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 06, 2012 6:12 AM GMT
    Good luck on your moving and starting over from scratch, one day I might. It may even begin as early as this coming summer, but alas I don't know yet. When it does occur I will post it up here.
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    Jan 06, 2012 6:13 AM GMT
    On yeah, and my flight leaves in 4.5 hrs and I haven't been to sleep since 8am this morning. Anxiety sucks. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 06, 2012 6:16 AM GMT
    *hugs* Best of luck and Wishes Paul.. I'm sure by the end of it, you'll feel that you made the right choice.

    I myself am starting from scratch.Living in an affluent lifestyle and job in Karachi, I returned back to Toronto for a more independent living with a temp job . However I feel happier doing this even though I miss my friends terribly.
    Plus I am open about my sexuality without being overly cautious that someone will use it against me.



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    Jan 06, 2012 6:16 AM GMT
    O.O well you can just sleep on the plane if all else fails, anxiety kind of sucks
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    Jan 06, 2012 6:19 AM GMT
    navi_saiyan saidO.O well you can just sleep on the plane if all else fails, anxiety kind of sucks
    Yep, that's the plan on the 2nd leg. First leg is only 2 hrs. I wish them luck waking me up and getting me off the plane in PHX. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 06, 2012 6:21 AM GMT
    Fivealive said*hugs* Best of luck and Wishes Paul.. I'm sure by the end of it, you'll feel that you made the right choice.

    I myself am starting from scratch.Living in an affluent lifestyle and job in Karachi, I returned back to Toronto for a more independent living with a temp job . However I feel happier doing this even though I miss my friends terribly.
    Plus I am open about my sexuality without being overly cautious that someone will use it against me.



    In Miami, being gay or bi is damn near a requirement to be affluent. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 06, 2012 6:22 AM GMT
    Several times, your right it sucks but that's what we sacrifice for the life we choose to live. I'm assuming your not a sit in my cubical and play solitiare kinda guy. I completely understand where your coming from as fellow traveler of both time and space. On a good note you'll be in the area phoenix so there's alot cool outdoor crap you can get into as hobbies to kill time.
    Good Luck on the new journey.
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    Jan 06, 2012 6:30 AM GMT
    rendon saidSeveral times, your right it sucks but that's what we sacrifice for the life we choose to live. I'm assuming your not a sit in my cubical and play solitiare kinda guy. I completely understand where your coming from as fellow traveler of both time and space. On a good note you'll be in the area phoenix so there's alot cool outdoor crap you can get into as hobbies to kill time.
    Good Luck on the new journey.
    Something in the back of my mind keep telling me I'm gonna totally love it there. And if that happens and the boss gets the same contract next year, I might just stay there and go "unemployed" from Sept-Dec and do it again next year. I've been known to pull shit like that before. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 06, 2012 6:34 AM GMT
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    Fivealive said*hugs* Best of luck and Wishes Paul.. I'm sure by the end of it, you'll feel that you made the right choice.

    I myself am starting from scratch.Living in an affluent lifestyle and job in Karachi, I returned back to Toronto for a more independent living with a temp job . However I feel happier doing this even though I miss my friends terribly.
    Plus I am open about my sexuality without being overly cautious that someone will use it against me.



    In Miami, being gay or bi is damn near a requirement to be affluent. icon_lol.gif


    WAH...LOL, quite ur bitchin Paul... you look like you are more than capable of 'toughin it out'. Suck it up princess.....LOLicon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_wink.gificon_wink.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 06, 2012 6:35 AM GMT
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    Fivealive said*hugs* Best of luck and Wishes Paul.. I'm sure by the end of it, you'll feel that you made the right choice.

    I myself am starting from scratch.Living in an affluent lifestyle and job in Karachi, I returned back to Toronto for a more independent living with a temp job . However I feel happier doing this even though I miss my friends terribly.
    Plus I am open about my sexuality without being overly cautious that someone will use it against me.



    In Miami, being gay or bi is damn near a requirement to be affluent. icon_lol.gif


    WAH...LOL, quite ur bitchin Paul... you look like you are more than capable of 'toughin it out'. Suck it up princess.....LOLicon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_wink.gificon_wink.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_twisted.gif
    Ironically, my dog's name is Princess and she's flying there with me. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 06, 2012 6:48 AM GMT
    http://livingintheeastvalley.com/100-things-to-do-in-phoenix-before-you-die/

    On side note: it is good to live like a ritch biitch sometimes, well any chance one can get.
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    Jan 06, 2012 7:21 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidOn yeah, and my flight leaves in 4.5 hrs and I haven't been to sleep since 8am this morning. Anxiety sucks. icon_lol.gif


    But yet you have the balls to do this anyway... Way to go.icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 06, 2012 7:39 AM GMT
    About 11 years ago I left my long term lover (gave him one last chance at being drug free and he blew it...literally) left a city I had lived in for almost 30 years a great home and business and retired and moved to Fort Lauderdale.

    My ex and I were at a fancy resort in Mexico and another gay man gave me a copy of "The Four Agreements" After finishing the book, I had almost a mystical experience and realized I had slipped into an abusive relationship, really wasn't enjoying my life or lifestyle, and needed a change.

    I not only downsized my life, I simplified it. I realized that I was on some hamster track and had enough money to live driving Hondas and doing my own laundry.

    Never look back...its a graveyard

    Good luck Paul
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    Jan 06, 2012 7:42 AM GMT
    Best of luck to you, drastic changes stress the fuck out of me, but I'm sure you'll manage icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 06, 2012 7:44 AM GMT
    Yep, I've started my life over from scratch...in fact, I'm in the middle of doing that now. icon_wink.gif

    I'm rooting for you, Paul.
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    Jan 06, 2012 7:57 AM GMT
    Best of luck there Paul. And what exactly do you do?

    Regarding starting over, kinda doing that right now. Life's an E ticket ride.

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    Jan 06, 2012 8:01 AM GMT
    Life lived without change is a life not lived mate. With the right attitude hook into everything that's going to improve your life cause you only get the one.

    I'm finally biting the bullet and signed a 6 year contract to defence last year and can't wait for all that it brings. Packed everything up and put what I have into equities.
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    Jan 06, 2012 8:08 AM GMT
    im in the same boat Paul. Just changed provinces, and I dont even have a job lined up yet, nor do I have any friends in this new city. But, I'm having fun, doing little odd jobs, and so far so good. Change can be scary but refreshing. Best of luck man, I'm sure you'll do just fine.
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    Jan 06, 2012 8:13 AM GMT
    If you're doing it for the right reasons, and it sounds like you have some good ones, then plow ahead. It can even be liberating.

    Yes, you'll miss the place, and the possessions, but you can always keep in touch with friends... and it sounds like you'll be back, as it's not long term.

    I recently picked up and moved. Ditched everything except half of my clothes, my essential documents, some keepsakes, and my mobile + tablet. And you know, it felt good. icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 06, 2012 8:18 AM GMT
    I can't say I've started from scratch in that way before.

    About a year and a half, I did make a career change and it caused me to move from my hometown which I spent about 34 years in. I still have most of my belongings, but in many ways I feel like a different person - my life completely changed. - Which I think has made my physical transformation thus far possible.

    I wish you all the best on your new adventure. It sounds exciting to me.

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    Jan 06, 2012 8:29 AM GMT
    I've been there before and am there again. Some people pray for it... I don't. I want to know when I will settle down for once and have something of my own.I've had to reset my life and start at zero so many times already because of things I had no control over that I've over it. I came in to this year doing what I could to set myself up for success so I pray by year's end this year... it will be the beginning of that.
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    Jan 06, 2012 9:02 AM GMT
    To me, its not starting over from scratch, its growing. Congrats on getting out of your comfort zone, Im sure you will do great
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    Jan 06, 2012 9:02 AM GMT
    Yeah, It is like wtf: I thought once I controlled my own life, I would finally be able to stay in one place for more than 3 years, but for some reason the universe always has other plans. Should'a bought a Winnebago years ago.
    Good luck Paul...not that you'll need it; some lucky men in AZ.