Age difference?

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    Jun 19, 2008 8:24 PM GMT
    In general do people feel that there should be a maximum age gap between two guys?

    I know some guys that won't even consider me because i'm 18 - but then others could care less.

    General feelings?
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    Jun 19, 2008 8:26 PM GMT
    Sorry, but if someone turns down a hot 18 y/o... they're just stupid. ;)
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    Jun 19, 2008 8:28 PM GMT
    rwking saidSorry, but if someone turns down a hot 18 y/o... they're just stupid. ;)


    Haha aww, thanks bud.
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    Jun 19, 2008 8:30 PM GMT
    If I was in my early 20's I probably would not turn you down. But even then I was looking for a LTR, so it depends if I thought we were compatible.

    As for a maximum age? Generally speaking I think the age spread increases the older people get. It is hard for an 18 year old and a 30 year old to relate, but a 35 year old and a 47 year old is a lot easier.
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    Jun 19, 2008 9:35 PM GMT
    I am in a relationship with a guy that 7 years older than me. In general this in no problem, since were are intellectually on par. But, the difference comes in life experience. I think the older the person you are dating is, the harder it is for you to catch up to him. I mean in life goals, financial situation etc. At least this is my observation of my own relationship as well as some of my close friends.
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    Jun 19, 2008 10:02 PM GMT
    lXxAngelusxXl saidIn general do people feel that there should be a maximum age gap between two guys?

    I know some guys that won't even consider me because i'm 18 - but then others could care less.

    General feelings?


    What do YOU feel? What would be the maximum age YOU would consider?

    Why put an actual difference in years?

    Perhaps it might be more about maturity level (of both parties)
    or OTHER more important things.
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    Jun 19, 2008 10:08 PM GMT
    I guess it depends on the guys involved. In general I prefer to keep it within a couple years either older or younger. But that doesn't mean I would discount someone on age alone. Ultimately if you hit it off, you hit it off - I say go with it.

    In the immortal words of CHER (shut up, she knows her shit):

    "My one advice to you kids is, just do it! You can always look back and go 'shit, I shouldn't have done that...'"
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    Jun 19, 2008 10:09 PM GMT
    Im not sure if i would date an 18. Sorry, You cant get into a club yet and you havent really experienced life yet. I was somewhat of a wild child in college. I saw people in relationships cheat on their bf/gf. I would want my bf to have his fun and not feel like im holding him back....and we probably wouldnt have too much in common. That said I am mainly attracted to guys 35-45 years old myself.
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    Jun 19, 2008 10:43 PM GMT
    lXxAngelusxXl saidWell - I wouldn't look at dating a 40 year old.
    I've got one father already.


    I just had to quote you after your original question.
  • Squarejaw

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    Jun 19, 2008 10:51 PM GMT
    lXxAngelusxXl saidWell - I wouldn't look at dating a 40 year old.
    I've got one father already.
    Nice. If guys don't want to date you, I'm not sure your chronological age is the problem.
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    Jun 19, 2008 10:54 PM GMT
    lXxAngelusxXl saidWell - I wouldn't look at dating a 40 year old.
    I've got one father already.


    You're dating your Father? icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 19, 2008 10:55 PM GMT
    lXxAngelusxXl saidIn general do people feel that there should be a maximum age gap between two guys?

    I know some guys that won't even consider me because i'm 18 -

    and then you say:

    Well - I wouldn't look at dating a 40 year old.
    I've got one father already.


    First, you are just a very young man...and you are entitled to have big swings in emotion, desires, and expectations. That's why you are a big risk for anyone not in your age group. And that element of risk will preclude someone so young for them. Your desire for a person may be strong one day and be out the window the next.

    My own view is that the older you get, the less an age difference becomes significant, if there is attraction. Just think about that....if you are attracted, and you get along with a another guy, that means the main components of a sexual relationship are there. Anyone over 30 y.o., generally, has emotionally matured and knows basically what they want sexually and emotionally. Thus, they're a good risk at being consistent and dependable.

    But, second, you reveal your own lack of insight, seriously, no insult intended, though it sounds like an insult.

    You're bemoaning the fact that older guys have a younger age cutoff....then you make an incredibly catty statement about guys over 40 y.o. Take a look at some of the profiles of guys over 40 here and see if they remind you of your father.

    Geesh.
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    Jun 19, 2008 10:56 PM GMT
    I don't think there should be a max or min; heck, who would enforce it anyway? It's to be figured out btwn the guys involved.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Jun 19, 2008 11:03 PM GMT
    I prefer guys that are no more than 15 years younger than me. Does that mean that I have absolutely no interest in twenty something guys, no it doesn't. I am not very rigid when it comes to age. It all depends on the person. Lets face it, age is basically a meaningless number, you are only as old as you feel.
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    Jun 19, 2008 11:03 PM GMT
    TallGWMvballer saidPerhaps it might be more about maturity level (of both parties)
    or OTHER more important things.



    i guess i agree with that ...

    it's about maturity ...

    me & my boyfriend are getting along very well maybe because we are both mature ...

    or my boyfriend is more mature than me ... since he is 14 years older than me ... he he ...

    bottomline is, we are both mature ... and we both know what we want ...

    my boyfriend wants me ... and i want my boyfriend ...

    well, what's important to me is ... my boyfriend loves me ... with all his heart ...

    and i love him too ... with all my heart ...

    it's very romantic ...

    so sweet ... icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 19, 2008 11:16 PM GMT
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    I mean dudes!
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    Jun 19, 2008 11:40 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob saidLets face it, age is basically a meaningless number, you are only as old as you feel.


    This is one of those popular cliches that I really hate.

    You can be fit at an--ahem--advanced age, but you are still your age. You're not going to try to be and do what 20-somethings are amd do without coming off ridiculous. There is nothing wrong with being the age we are, and we don't have to put smily faces on it by saying "age is just a number." Oh, it's a number all right, the number of times we've spun around the sun since you first popped your head out of your mom.

    And so what.
  • sluglove

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    Jun 19, 2008 11:46 PM GMT
    I've been in a relationship with someone who is 22 years older than I am for about a year now, we've known each other for 4 years and I'd have to say it's the best relationship I've ever had. It's not conventional in any means but I don't see age as being a deciding factor. I think differing ages can learn alot from each other, and still share commonalities. To each their own I say
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    Jun 20, 2008 12:12 AM GMT
    sluglove saidI've been in a relationship with someone who is 22 years older than I am for about a year now, we've known each other for 4 years and I'd have to say it's the best relationship I've ever had. It's not conventional in any means but I don't see age as being a deciding factor. I think differing ages can learn alot from each other, and still share commonalities. To each their own I say




    really? ... so, why is your relationship status "single"?

    discuss ...
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    Jun 20, 2008 12:48 AM GMT
    lXxAngelusxXl saidIn general do people feel that there should be a maximum age gap between two guys?

    I know some guys that won't even consider me because i'm 18 - but then others could care less.

    General feelings?


    Different here because 18 is considered an adult.

    Even that said I'd date an 18 year old but gay guys under 22/23 seems really fickle and to have no idea what they want in a relationship or life for that matter. I don't really serious or not, it dosen't matter as long as your not overly either or changing your mind every week.

    I'm attracted to confident, self assured, guys who like to have fun and treat me right age is just a concept

    As for upper age limit the same applies I'm not sure we would have much in common, but as long as I find them attractive physically I wouldn't be scared off by age.

    Going out with them is different. I want someone that can hang out with my friends, empathize with my college/work life and be in the same income position.
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    Jun 20, 2008 1:22 AM GMT
    I have two sons, 20 and 22 years of age, dating guys that young kind of creeps me out. I like guys around my own age and older, it's just my preference.
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    Jun 20, 2008 9:20 PM GMT
    John43620 saidI have two sons, 20 and 22 years of age, dating guys that young kind of creeps me out. I like guys around my own age and older, it's just my preference.


    My son is 25, John. I know just what you mean.
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    Jun 20, 2008 9:30 PM GMT
    lXxAngelusxXl saidWell - I wouldn't look at dating a 40 year old.
    I've got one father already.


    See, you said it yourself!!! I have a father! and Im sure the mature guy thinks the same about 18 year olds!!!

    Age is irrelevant to me! Love and Trust is what counts.
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    Jun 20, 2008 9:44 PM GMT
    IMHO, age gaps are insignificant if the chemistry is there are both people respect each other.

    Maturity gaps, on the other hand, are a totally different thing, and definitely not strongly tied to chronological age. I've met some seriously immature 40 year olds whose identities and self confidence are still in flux. And plenty of much younger guys with a great deal to offer. Ultimately, it's all about the individual.
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    Jun 20, 2008 9:48 PM GMT
    Yeah i know what ya'll are saying, i've met some guys in their late thirties who would act as 18 year olds and well i don't know what to tell you dude, but i have been through the whole, you are too young thing. That is stupid. love has no age