Good Things: A Dating Glass Half Full

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    Jan 07, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    I thought instead of reading thread upon thread about the really horrible human experiences everyone is having, there should be a place where we can post the positive experiences we have.

    Sometimes changing what your looking for in others helps make these experiences better, whether or not anything long term develops.

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    Recently I went to a Chinese Dance Performance with a very charming guy who is handsome, successful, urbane, funny and not an emotional invalid.

    We held hands in the theater and went to drinks afterward at a lovely restaurant bar in the theater district.

    The chemistry was palpable and we fit quite nicely walking together. He was a great conversationalist and was also a really good listener. I had a truly enjoyable time with him. He works in finance AND was once a Ford model... how much of a score is that?

    Will definitely see him again.
    Cons: He's 10 years older than me and is part of a *peripheral* circle of friends that include my one time criminal stalker...

    What will happen? I have no idea... but the vulnerability of being myself with someone sure has made me realize that I'm kinda fun and cool... just kinda.
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    Jan 07, 2012 1:25 AM GMT
    Good luck man! Hope it goes well for you icon_smile.gif. And it's good to see something other than "I'm in love with a straight guy" or "how do I keep my cheating scumbag boyfriend from leaving me" threads. I approve.
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    Jan 07, 2012 1:26 AM GMT
    doubleyou saidblablabla


    EasilyDistr., just ignore the troll.
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    Jan 07, 2012 1:31 AM GMT
    doubleyou saidSo, you make a self-congratulatory thread to offset what you see as negative threads, and boast about your experiences under the guise of spreading optimistic and positive vibes?

    Well, congratulations, dear.


    I actually kinda agree with Doubleyou here. It all seems a bit self-indulgent to me.
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    Jan 07, 2012 1:41 AM GMT
    dancedancekj said
    doubleyou saidSo, you make a self-congratulatory thread to offset what you see as negative threads, and boast about your experiences under the guise of spreading optimistic and positive vibes?

    Well, congratulations, dear.


    I actually kinda agree with Doubleyou here. It all seems a bit self-indulgent to me.


    At least it's a change of pace. Everything else is "why don't white guys love me" or "when is it ok to cheat on my boyfriend".
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 07, 2012 1:51 AM GMT
    well congrats on a great date. i am glad to hear it all went well
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    Jan 07, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
    Yeah, congrats and everything...now, about that one time criminal stalker, can you tell us more about him?
  • Trepeat

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    Jan 07, 2012 2:44 AM GMT
    Sounds like a catch! Always good to not be focusing on the future or the past and having a blast in the now. icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 07, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
    Lol, at doubleyou, and feeling badly too, for someone whose cloud of depression hangs heavily.



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    Jan 07, 2012 5:01 AM GMT
    Hey Mr ED, nice post; sweet!

    -Bill

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    Jan 07, 2012 5:15 AM GMT
    2012 lks like it might be under your ownership! Best of luck and hopefully you never part w/ that feeling!
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    Jan 07, 2012 6:20 AM GMT
    (I inhale a humongous breath out that I've been keeping in possibly since I've joined this site). I agree, the atmosphere here definitely doesn't reak of party, that's for sure.

    Ok, well good things that have been happening to me lately, or good things that I've done thus far:

    -Loosing a lot of weight. I promised myself that anytime I look at that damn Papa Johns pizza in the fridge that I just say "Remember Jake 300 Calories. Remember Jake, 300 Calories." And, it's been working, so good stuff.

    -Today I helped my grandma out with her chores and said my rosary with her and her husband. G-ma has always been awesome. There was even a random stranger that came up to her today and asked if he could have some farmland of hers, and she let him have it. And I looked at her and said "Grandma, I wanna be just like you when I grow up. You rock!" And, the guy was cool about it, he didn't care if he got any or not, he was just wondering.

    But here is what I did for Grandma:
    -I used their brush-hog and I cleared out...oh...probably half of the brush that they have down there. Grandma and Grandpa have so much land, it's ridiculous. I dunno how she keeps up with it. That's not to say all of her land is full of brush, no, it's a nice long plain that extends....probably a good....3/4's of a mile long. But anyways, so cleared some brush.

    -Picked up some sticks in her yard.

    -Cut down some tree's with loppers, and sawed some tree's with a handsaw.

    Today was good!

    -I don't think I've ever laughed so hard today. I had to have laughed a good one every hour or so.

    -Sang the "I'm a Lumberjack" song.

    -Got a lot of looks at Target because I called a girl I knew that worked there tutz. I dunno if that's a good thing or a bad thing. I wanted to say "What's wrong....am I pregnant or something." But then I thought, probably better if I just keep that to myself.

    -Went to Mass.

    Oh geeze, the list goes on and on, so I'll stop. Life is good!
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    Jan 07, 2012 6:36 AM GMT
    So the OP wants some thunder and bask a little in personal glory. So what? When don't we all do that on occasion? If it isn't on an online forum, it's often with friends or family. We sometimes like to brag about nice things that happen to us. I see no reason to get offended. It's only annoying when it becomes excessive. Otherwise, bring on the positivity!
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    Jan 07, 2012 7:15 AM GMT
    well doubleyou, it appears you attracted the most sanctimonious and psychotic elements of RealJock with your comments . . . at least you now know the lay of the land . . . . one is a hopeless, self loathing mess, but the other would send you off to a re-education camp given half the chance . . .
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    Jan 07, 2012 7:31 AM GMT
    doubleyou saidblahblahshitblah,,,
    Well, congratulations, dear.

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    Jan 07, 2012 9:10 AM GMT
    doubleyou saidSo, you make a self-congratulatory thread to offset what you see as negative threads, and boast about your experiences under the guise of spreading optimistic and positive vibes?

    Well, congratulations, dear.


    Maybe he just wants to rub yer face in it.

    Oh - forgot, you don't have a face.

    pussy.
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    Jan 07, 2012 9:12 AM GMT
    doubleyou said
    bhp91126 said
    doubleyou saidblablabla


    EasilyDistr., just ignore the troll.


    Yeah, I know the truth hurts.


    Know what else hurts? Popping a load down yer throat so hard it shoots out yer asshole.

    Wanna try it troll?

    pussy.
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    Jan 07, 2012 9:12 AM GMT
    doubleyou said
    meninlove said Lol, at doubleyou, and feeling badly too, for someone whose cloud of depression hangs heavily.





    Nope, not depressed. I just don't appreciate his post at all.


    GOOD!!!!

    pussy.
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    Jan 07, 2012 9:14 AM GMT
    doubleyou said
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    doubleyou said
    meninlove said Lol, at doubleyou, and feeling badly too, for someone whose cloud of depression hangs heavily.





    Nope, not depressed. I just don't appreciate his post at all.

    ....being the douche that you are.

    Really, why the fuck can't you just let him be happy? Do you HAVE to shit on everything?


    I've participated in only a handful of threads here, so how could I "shit on everything" if I'm not involved in most threads? That doesn't even make any sense.

    And why should he be happy and make himself feel better at other people's expense? That's really all this thread is about.


    Every thread you have participated in you have pulled the same stupid shit.

    Get new material at least.

    If anything is at your expense - GOOD.

    pussy.
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    Jan 07, 2012 9:17 AM GMT
    We now return you to Happy Dating stories!!!!

    Nice thread OP - good idea.

    And congratulations!!!!!

    And don't worry about the fat chick amateur troll - she'll be gone soon!!!

    (did I mention doubleyou is a pussy? Just checking)

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  • calamedes

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    Jan 07, 2012 10:19 AM GMT
    Once, with a guy who was my friend (things improved after this), we went running together and then came back to my place to make lunch and watch a movie. One of the best afternoons ever icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 07, 2012 12:42 PM GMT
    Glad to read such a positive post and keep doing what you are doing. Dare to be happy; it doesn't have to be all misery.icon_biggrin.gif

    This could work for you doubleyou....
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    Jan 08, 2012 12:48 AM GMT
    Thanks for the kind words guys, I have a little cheer that I like to spread, that's all.

    Trolls live in their own self imposed hell of a life, I don't feel like I need to respond to it... well maybe with two words, "Suck it". Hah!

    I did however go out with a really remarkable guy last night who I actually met here on RJ. We went to dinner and drinks afterward and I had a seriously awesome time. We laughed hysterically, had some serious conversations and just chatted like old friends... then made out in the car. I don't think he reads the forums, but if he does... DMK, you're pretty bad ass in my book and I'm looking forward to seeing you again!

    There are some really amazing and fun men out there, they don't get the props they deserve. Most of the ones we hear about are the assholes and douche bags.

    *raising my glass*
    Here is to all of the men out there who are emotionally secure, socially aware and charming and fun to boot! (You all know who you are!)
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    Jan 08, 2012 4:19 PM GMT

    No doubleyou, you are simply too dense to figure out what's going on here.

    Hint: re-read the first line of the OP.

    I'm so sorry you're so damaged and messed up. If there is some way we can help let us know.
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    Jan 08, 2012 8:52 PM GMT
    awww good for you. i'm not gonna hate on you, i think you should be able to post about good dates too!