Just fessed up!

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    Jan 07, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    I just came out September of last year, and now I'm doing my best to get out there and meet people and do my gay thing, haha. Tonight, however was a huge step. So without getting into too much detail, I'm going to tell you a bit of a back story.

    I met this guy in my Italian class, he's cute, funny, intelligent, and kind. Unfortunately, I don't know if he's gay! I kept quiet and longing from a distance, y'know how it is with these crushes from class. We had a few conversations, but there was this one evening in which I felt unusually bold. In a drunken state (of course, with the help of liquid courage), I essentially texted him and was being playful with him, thinking he wouldn't reply. The next morning, I saw that he texted back and was equally as playful. We texted back and forth a bit, and I suggested that we hang out sometime, his reply intrigued me. He said that we definitely should hang out, and Italian class wasn't a sufficient amount of time with me.

    Of course I don't want to be naive and jump to conclusions that he too is gay. I just waited and continued to see if he would drop any signs of him being gay. Fast forward to now, in this very moment I just messaged him on facebook admitting that I had a crush on him last semester. Hopefully, I'll be reading something positive tomorrow. Wish me luck!

    Sorry for such a trivial post, I'm just excited and anxious.


    UPDATE: Well, unfortunately he's not gay, but he was nice about it. I couldn't ask for more. I mean I could, but no harm done, at least I know.
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    Jan 07, 2012 3:20 AM GMT
    Congrats for having the guts to go after what you want.
    If he's into you as well, enjoy,
    if he's not, now you know and can move on.
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    Jan 07, 2012 3:29 AM GMT
    OMG! . That's so Glee! ... icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 07, 2012 3:31 AM GMT
    Wow!! Good for you! icon_biggrin.gif
    I hope you get the response you want! icon_smile.gif
    I've had BAAAD experiences about these kinds of things but hey sometimes you've just got to dive in. :]
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    Jan 07, 2012 3:33 AM GMT
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    Jan 07, 2012 3:41 AM GMT
    bhp91126 saidCongrats for having the guts to go after what you want.
    If he's into you as well, enjoy,
    if he's not, now you know and can move on.


    That's what I was thinking. I'd rather be rejected than never know!
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    Jan 07, 2012 5:16 AM GMT
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    bhp91126 saidCongrats for having the guts to go after what you want.
    If he's into you as well, enjoy,
    if he's not, now you know and can move on.


    That's what I was thinking. I'd rather be rejected than never know!


    Good grief, that's just what I felt (when I was single and out there).

    -Doug
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    Jan 07, 2012 12:41 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    soccernrowing said
    bhp91126 saidCongrats for having the guts to go after what you want.
    If he's into you as well, enjoy,
    if he's not, now you know and can move on.


    That's what I was thinking. I'd rather be rejected than never know!


    Good grief, that's just what I felt (when I was single and out there).

    -Doug

    Yep, also a person for whom uncertainty is more difficult than rejection. Not that rejection is any fun, but for me the lesser of the 2 evils. As bhp says, with rejection you can at least move on, but with uncertainty you may end up going nowhere, and just wasting your time with wishful thinking while chances with others are lost. Similar to the concept in economics of "opportunity cost."
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    Jan 07, 2012 1:00 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidCongrats for having the guts to go after what you want.
    If he's into you as well, enjoy,
    if he's not, now you know and can move on.


    + that

    Good luckicon_biggrin.gif

    And do let us know how it turns out .
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    Jan 07, 2012 1:20 PM GMT
    Why did u have to make me read all that and then tell us you'll keep us dated! I hate waiting!!icon_evil.gificon_lol.gif
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    Jan 07, 2012 1:30 PM GMT
    Do you know that he's gay? If not, what's the benefit of telling him that you have a crush on him?

    I'm thinking this probably won't end the way you're expecting, but I hope I'm wrong.
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    Jan 07, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    credo saidDo you know that he's gay? If not, what's the benefit of telling him that you have a crush on him?

    I'm thinking this probably won't end the way you're expecting, but I hope I'm wrong.


    I don't know if he's gay. The benefit of telling him would either be, he'll be gay and we can head towards that direction, or he won't and I'll know and I won't be stuck on it. At least I'll be moving forward instead of being in the dark. I'm not getting my hopes up just so I won't be disappointed if it doesn't go the way I wish.